hmmm I think a lot of ppl victim blame or jump to discussing what the victim/survivor should have done differently because they belive in the idea that people deserve whatever outcome/consquences they are face with on some “everything happens for a reason” type shit
whereas, I dont believe a lot of the time ppl deserve what happens to them.
The issue isn't whether they deserved it, the issue is did they contribute to it happening by their own actions.
As I said earlier, if I was in the hood flashing money and jewels and I get robbed, I was robbed because of my actions. I drew attention to my money and jewels whereas if I wasn't out there like that I wouldn't have been robbed.
I read somewhere that victim blaming was a common theme for americans because the “American Dream” is heavily instilled in us, this idea that all of us are in control of our own destinies, that it makes it hard for us to grapple with the fact that alot of the times bad things DO happen to good ppl.
That unforseeable things happen to ppl and more often than not, it was out of their control
But that's not what's being talked about here. This was squarely in her control. Did her moms really need to bring her $3000 in cash while on the job? Did she really need it right then and there or could it have waited? Even if it really needed to happen, couldn't they have been more discreet about it? Like "yo, lemme talk to you for a second out in the car", make the transaction away from everyone else, and go back in as if nothing had happened. There have been times where I was walking around with $4000-$6000 on me and I never got robbed for it because no one knew anything about it. At the same time I got stuck for $150 once 'cause I was careless, forgot where I was at, and pulled out $100 to pay for some beer and snacks and got took by some niggas that saw me in the store that walked out before I got done paying.
so to answer your question (lol) I guess as a coping mechanism or even out of fear we try to hold victims responsible for their “misfortune” to avoid admitting that something just as unthinkable could happen to us, even if we seemingly did everything “right.”
but that didn't happen here. Her coworkers KNEW about the money. How is immaterial, the fact that they knew means something wasn't done right. You know where you work, you know the type of people you're around. If you gotta have that much cash on you then you know you need to take every precaution to keep them from finding out about it.
I think we blame victims so that we can continue to feel safe and secure in a world that we all know to be very “unpredictable.”
Now, if someone is engaging in risky behaviors and is aware of the consquences that can occur, thats something totally different—-
And that's exactly what happened here. Dollar General, generally speaking, exists solely in the hood. You know where you're at and you know it's risky as fuck to have $3G's brought to you in cash there.
But young girl being gunned down on the sidewalk over a refund check is just a careless act of violence and we should more or so rush to empathize with her and not do the whole “wow thats sad but if she only”
Nah, this is a clear case of doing something stupid that led to your demise. The only people in this I would empathize with are her kids who are now motherless because of her stupidity.
I mean thats the same thing white folks do when we are gunned down by cops lol textbook the same exact thing.
In some cases you're right, but in a good number of those cases them dudes weren't just standing around doing nothing and ended up shot.
Its the lack of empathy for her that bothered me in APs and Elzos responses
and I have to wonder if yall are socialized to not emapthize with her right away because shes a Black girl or because the ppl who killed her are Black
Im not being accusatory just wondering...
It has nothing to do with race, Race. It's about being stupid. She was clearly being stupid and that stupidity caught up with her. Had she not been stupid, there wouldn't be a headline and niggas talking about her in sentences with the word "Remember..."
