Spare the rod, spoil the child
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And my whooping ain't hurt. And i see dudes saying they would punch they son in the chest. I aint with that. Me and my dad never squared up. Never had too that off to me.
Punishments work and I'm not talking about that soft ass 1 day bullshit. I take tv's, games and anything else you might see as fun. Go read a damn book until I say otherwise.
Spanking is a last resort...
Like my man said its in extreme cases where corporal punishment is necessary...
Majority of the time all it takes is a look from me and my son straightens up.
One thing I do is I always communicate my expectations and I help him reach them...
Also,
To classify all parents who use spankings as a form of discipline as “child beaters/abusers” is a reach and broad stroking at its finest
Like my man said its in extreme cases where corporal punishment is necessary...
Majority of the time all it takes is a look from me and my son straightens up.
One thing I do is I always communicate my expectations and I help him reach them...
Also,
To classify all parents who use spankings as a form of discipline as “child beaters/abusers” is a reach and broad stroking at its finest
the law already has and thats why shit is getting out of hand.
if a child doesnt have a healthy fear of their parent and/or consequence....who will they ever be afraid of?
My son hates not getting his way.
Like hates it.
He will go into full zap mode every time.
And I'm talking throwing chairs, punching kids, scratching teachers, running out the class room, screaming, growling, like completely take it to the max.
And will continue until he sees me. And the only reason he stops is bcuz he knows I'll whoop his ass.
And the funny part is I rarely do, as I'm trying really hard to get away from it.... But this kid just doesn't give a shit.
He's been punished. He's been on point systems. He's seen therapist. He's been emergency evaluated by psych wards ($650). He's lost toys, privileges, trips. He opened no gifts on Christmas or until he had his first good week in school.
We reward the hell outta good behavior. Positive reinforcement all the way. We try redirects when he's getting upset. We give him tasks, activities, cool out areas. I mean, if you gotta suggestion... List it cuz the shit is literally driving me crazy
He's fine..I know this cuz he's been cleared by two doctors and several therapist .... I'm fucking losing it. My wife is losing it.
I try my hardest not to whoop this kid. But when you spend hours down city hall, the school board, doctors offices, principals offices, like all this patience and trying your best. And you tell him on Monday
"Look man, you get 1 sticker for every good hour. And bonus stickers for effort. 5 stickers or better is a good day, if you can get 25 for the week you can buy back Christmas"
And you're getting a call from the office before you even get to work....
Why? Bcuz he walked too slow to the next activity in class and didn't want the other kids to be on the computer first. So he knocked over the table, breaking the computer and ran out the class.....
Yea I made a u turn and tore his little ass up.... First whooping in about 2 or 3 months...... But I was tired of threatening him.... Dude needed to know that the shit just isn't acceptable.
The doctors said there's nothing wrong with him. He's doing this bcuz he wants his way.... He pulled the same shit at my wife's job over the winter break.... She is a director at a day care... She watched him..... He's perfectly fine... Like creepily over the top fine. Super pleasant. Respectful. Manners. Listens. Plays well.
She watched him... He wasn't paying attention and knocked something over. He was asked nicely to pick it up. He denies doing it.
Ok you were seen doing it. And now you're being asked to pick it up.
That was too much for him. Complete meltdown
Like hates it.
He will go into full zap mode every time.
And I'm talking throwing chairs, punching kids, scratching teachers, running out the class room, screaming, growling, like completely take it to the max.
And will continue until he sees me. And the only reason he stops is bcuz he knows I'll whoop his ass.
And the funny part is I rarely do, as I'm trying really hard to get away from it.... But this kid just doesn't give a shit.
He's been punished. He's been on point systems. He's seen therapist. He's been emergency evaluated by psych wards ($650). He's lost toys, privileges, trips. He opened no gifts on Christmas or until he had his first good week in school.
We reward the hell outta good behavior. Positive reinforcement all the way. We try redirects when he's getting upset. We give him tasks, activities, cool out areas. I mean, if you gotta suggestion... List it cuz the shit is literally driving me crazy
He's fine..I know this cuz he's been cleared by two doctors and several therapist .... I'm fucking losing it. My wife is losing it.
I try my hardest not to whoop this kid. But when you spend hours down city hall, the school board, doctors offices, principals offices, like all this patience and trying your best. And you tell him on Monday
"Look man, you get 1 sticker for every good hour. And bonus stickers for effort. 5 stickers or better is a good day, if you can get 25 for the week you can buy back Christmas"
And you're getting a call from the office before you even get to work....
Why? Bcuz he walked too slow to the next activity in class and didn't want the other kids to be on the computer first. So he knocked over the table, breaking the computer and ran out the class.....
Yea I made a u turn and tore his little ass up.... First whooping in about 2 or 3 months...... But I was tired of threatening him.... Dude needed to know that the shit just isn't acceptable.
The doctors said there's nothing wrong with him. He's doing this bcuz he wants his way.... He pulled the same shit at my wife's job over the winter break.... She is a director at a day care... She watched him..... He's perfectly fine... Like creepily over the top fine. Super pleasant. Respectful. Manners. Listens. Plays well.
She watched him... He wasn't paying attention and knocked something over. He was asked nicely to pick it up. He denies doing it.
Ok you were seen doing it. And now you're being asked to pick it up.
That was too much for him. Complete meltdown
My son TV hasn't been on since the fall.
He only gets 30 minutes.... On good days.
All his toys are locked up. He can earn them back upon good behavior.
His Pokemon card deck was destroyed my me, in front of him. He has another one, cuz people keep buying him the little shit, but he has not gotten it yet until I see a major improvement at his new school this year.
In a situation like this, a lot of times the parents will just ship the kid overseas to somewhere thugged out and bring em back in a couple of years.
But you're American and in Baltimore at that, so that's kinda already happened :/
Best of luck @King Du
He'll respond to a deep male commanding voice. That gets him in line.
Women don't get the same response out of him. And I think they resent that. So they try to be more commanding with him which just escalates his behavior. If they ignore him he just does destructive shit until he has to be addressed.
The shit is literally a nightmare. The principal actually called school police once on him. I had to get him out that school
Women don't get the same response out of him. And I think they resent that. So they try to be more commanding with him which just escalates his behavior. If they ignore him he just does destructive shit until he has to be addressed.
The shit is literally a nightmare. The principal actually called school police once on him. I had to get him out that school
Cries himself to sleep. Wakes up like a perfect child. Accepts his punishment. Will have a full conversation with you understanding what's going on. Will offer regret. Try to be helpful around the house. Do chores. Perfect fucking kid..... Until..... It happens again.
It always happens again, because it's impossible for him to always get his way.
The funny thing is I always want other parents to kick the shit out of their kids when they acting up in stores. I be thinking to myself whoop that lil nigga ass
Did you ever think it may be because that's a phase for his age? I mean not all children will do these things at his age but some do and it doesn't mean something is wrong with him. Which is why doctors have said he's fine because he is. He's 7 right? I think, sorry if I'm wrong though.
I think all the idealism goes out the window when shit gets this drastic. Man I ain' havin no kids fuck aaaaaallll of that lol
What was it today?
Oh yea, we're at my sister-in-law house. Eating breakfast. Sister-in-law places a tablet on the table for my son and niece. He slides it closer to him. Gets called out for it.
Couldn't handle being called out on it. Instantly lies. I do not tolerate lying. I turn the tablet off. He gets mad and tries to start, I tell him to excuse himself from the table. Dude storms off. Comes back 15 minutes later like nothing happened.
But that's what it's like when I'm there.
In school..... He would have to fuck something up. They'd be calling me for some shit like that
Oh yea, we're at my sister-in-law house. Eating breakfast. Sister-in-law places a tablet on the table for my son and niece. He slides it closer to him. Gets called out for it.
Couldn't handle being called out on it. Instantly lies. I do not tolerate lying. I turn the tablet off. He gets mad and tries to start, I tell him to excuse himself from the table. Dude storms off. Comes back 15 minutes later like nothing happened.
But that's what it's like when I'm there.
In school..... He would have to fuck something up. They'd be calling me for some shit like that