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the bonnet debate

is wearing a bonnet outside ghetto?

  • Yes

    Votes: 42 75.0%

  • No

    Votes: 10 17.9%

  • On the fence

    Votes: 4 7.1%
  • Total voters
    56
grYmes said:
I wore my durag to Walmart earlier today. I wish a muthafucka would tell me to stop wearing it. Im pretty sure the majority of our “big mamas” wore them bonnets at the store growing up. I’m not telling anyone what to wear. Especially if it’s to fucking Walmart or the corner store. Pajama bottoms to me a different matter but... whatever.
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How old ya Grandmom?
 
shutupGabi said:
But ppl talked about how it shows you dont have pride in yourself for wearing it outside.

Since you aint never seen it worn to a real event, that should tell you mfs know the appropriate times to wear it and where not to. Running to the corner store or doing laundry with a bonnet on or some other kinda leisure wear has nothing to do with pride or tact.
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Some of my students will come to school with them on, not a fan of that. But they're middle schoolers and they mimic what they see... we just tell them take it off.
 
I’m one breath y’all talking about black folks being trend setters and the next talking bout worrying about how you look is white folks shit.
 
konceptjones said:
None of this matters.

When you walk outside, you will be judged on your appearance and there's nothing you can do about it. None of what you wrote matters 'cause this is all about folks wanting to walk out the crib however they see fit but don't want to be judged based on that. The world doesn't work that way; you will be judged by folks around you and the sooner y'all get that in your head, the better.

We've called it tacky, lazy, etc, but if you want to walk out like that, go right on ahead; do you.

Just understand what comes along with that and don't be mad about it.
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This my point fam....in the grand scheme of things, what does other ppls judgment about what you got on actually mean and why does it matter? What real world implications does it have? None. It literally does not matter.
 
Dwayne said:
Lmao at black folks having different degrees of decorum about themselves being because of white folks.


Y’all killing it today.
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Peep game, think about your grandparents time period, the twenty's thirty's forties think about your parents time period maybe fifties, sixties, seventies, and then yours... the influence of white folks on fashion and presentableness back then up until your parents later time period was strong even while there was a growing pride of black American sense of style and cultural awaking. So what they thought then did matter to black folks. Think Malcolm rocking the conk and him being told to wear it essentially natural instead of like the white man

But that's why I'm calling it the root circa grands and parents time and didn't reference it for the present and that being that the last 20 years
 
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Focal Point said:
Some of my students will come to school with them on, not a fan of that. But they're middle schoolers and they mimic what they see... we just tell them take it off.
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There's dress codes at school. The corner store tho? Who gives a fuck.
 
Focal Point said:
Peep game, think about your grandparents time period, the twenty's thirty's forties think about your parents time period maybe fifties, sixties, seventies, and then yours... the influence of white folks on fashion and presentableness back then up until your parents later time period was strong even while there was a growing pride of black American sense of style and cultural awaking. So what they thought then did matter to black folks. Think Malcolm rocking the conk and him being told to wear it essentially natural instead of like the white ma

But that's why I'm calling it the root circa grands and parents time and didn't reference it for the present and that being that the last 20 years
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You think folks caring about how they look when they are out is to impress white folks? I come from a black city and white folks wasn’t on ANYBODY mind when it comes to having their own sense of how they look in different places. If that’s the case you must wear your sleep where ANY where you go right?

You bringing up X like the NOI don’t have a....

Nevermind.
 
shutupGabi said:
This my point fam....in the grand scheme of things, what does other ppls judgment about what you got on actually mean and why does it matter? What real world implications does it have? None. It literally does not matter.
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It can have real world implications if people used that to guide how they interact with someone, and that's far more often the case.
 
Dwayne said:
You think folks caring about how they look when they are out is to impress white folks? I come from a black city and white folks wasn’t on ANYBODY mind when it comes to having their own sense of how they look in different places. If that’s the case you must wear your sleep where ANY where you go right?

You bringing up X like the NOI don’t have a....

Nevermind.
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I think you're not getting my meaning or misunderstanding my points of reference. I said in the past 1920s to let's say the 80s, white influence dictated a lot of how black folks would move in their fashion as to what's acceptable. As a result our elders held a certain view, one they tried to pass down.

And I wasn't advocating or not advocating wearing bonnets, just pointing out some historical context.

I brought up Malcolm because him having his hair in a conk was an example of white influence on style for black ppl.
 
shutupGabi said:
All of them chicks wearing bonnets and PJs at the airport still got waved through TSA and got on the plane.
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And I consistently get waved on by the security check leaving walmart when I'm in biz casual but niggas in sagging pants/shorts and wife beaters get stopped. What's your point here? I didn't say EVERY time, I said, and I quote: "... if people used that to guide how they interact with someone..."

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I seem to remember around the time Tevin Campbell dropped Break it Down a female comedian making jokes about raping Tevin on Comic View or DefCJ...

This shining beacon of womanly conduct tho...
 
konceptjones said:
And I consistently get waved on by the security check leaving walmart when I'm in biz casual but niggas in sagging pants/shorts and wife beaters get stopped. What's your point here? I didn't say EVERY time, I said, and I quote: "... if people used that to guide how they interact with someone..."

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MLK wore suits everyday and still got murdered. If you black you getting judged. You staying in the house cuz of ppl silent judgment?
 
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