Is ABW a safe space for Women?

[Chicity]

Yall doing exactly what yall accusing niggas of and being dismissive now that the narrative has started to turn in your direction.

"You don't like it leave"

Lol. What?

Bruh......this was NOT our turn to bring our gripes to the table

This was NOT our turn to talk about how women make us feel

This was not our turn to speculate why the women who said they feel unsafe feel that way.

Nor was it our turn to hound them into giving us answers to OUR questions

All we should have done was listen. That's it

So yes, I am dismissing male feelings in this thread at this moment cause this thread wasn't created for US.

I'm done tho. Even my post at this moment is a distraction and unwarranted

 

[King Freeman]

you gonna act like males dont match other males energy?
and going at a female with male energy is different?

cut it out

The energy needs to be kept on a level regardless. And if niggas myself included can't handle that then niggas need to be shown the door.

Too often posters can't debate without name calling and other extra bullshit. It needs to stop. Again myself included.

 

[The Lonious Monk]

Bull shit.

I see folks in here suggesting things.


I myself is asking for answers and none is given

Get told to listen, say "Ok, what should we do?" and then get told to go do your homework. I mean I get what they meant, but that's still funny to me. lol

Anyway, I hope whoever can figure it out and fix it does that. Black women shouldn't feel bad posting on a site with black men. Everyone should be disgusted by that.

 

[AP2.5]

I get what you saying I don't think it was done properly. And have yall maybe tried connecting with Female posters individually to see what exactly their issues are if any or opening a line of communication with any Male posters and trying to really mediate these situations.

From what I've seen the approach has always been from a "get the puters putin" or a "I got the receipts" standpoint. There's been no wholehearted attempt to actually heal.

And that's on yall.

You've used ignorance as a currency.

I'm gonna disagree with this one

The last time we had this conversation, the dudes who suspected they were guilty kept asking for names to be named.

I did based on what was sent to me and idk maybe people thought I was lying because niggas.

A lot of people don't like being confronted about their behavior

 

[Dwayne]

Bruh......this was NOT our turn to bring our gripes to the table

This was NOT our turn to talk about how women make us feel

This was not our turn to speculate why the women who said they feel unsafe feel that way.

Nor was it our turn to hound them into giving us answers to OUR questions

All we should have done was listen. That's it

So yes, I am dismissing male feelings in this thread at this moment cause this thread wasn't created for US.

I'm done tho. Even my post at this moment is a distraction and unwarranted

Just listening don’t fix a problem.

Ladies on here said it’s a problem.

it’s time to identify THE EXACT problem and posters and talk to the posters about it in a separate thread.

 

[Sony Montana]

Looking at the first page or so

only Meeks and Kandy have said this place isn’t as safe as it used to be and they both don’t like to give details about anything anymore or any specifics that can be used against them later on

The other women have said they are fine here

so let’s zero in on the issue that those two have stated and go from there. I know see how y’all just took things and ran with it and added your own opinions

this is a way to reset the thread and get back on course because all this other shit wasn’t even on y’all to add seemingly

 

[Elzo69Renaissance]

Welp we can pause this til Meeks and Kandy return

 

[Dwayne]

I'm gonna disagree with this one

The last time we had this conversation, the dudes who suspected they were guilty kept asking for names to be named.

I did based on what was sent to me and idk maybe people thought I was lying because niggas.

A lot of people don't like being confronted about their behavior

Don’t matter if they don’t like to be confronted. In order to fix the issue you have to identify the issue.

If they don’t like and will not change, you has a mod have to power to force that change by any means.

The ABW as hold has to step in and order for that to happen folks need to be put on front street and order for the shit to be controlled

 

[DOS_patos]

The energy needs to be kept on a level regardless. And if niggas myself included can't handle that then niggas need to be shown the door.

Too often posters can't debate without name calling and other extra bullshit. It needs to stop. Again myself included.

i agree. you be tripping.

but i think i may fuck up once in a blue

 

[Meeks]

I’m done with talking about this. It’s 16 pages of bullshit and I already said what I needed to say. Some of the men have already pointed out what needed to be said which means they see what we see.

I’ve also stated that I’m not going to sit and talk only for people to think they can invalidate how I feel. Is there a way to unfollow this thread? I’ll figure it out with my non tech savvy ass.

 

[AP2.5]

Don’t matter if they don’t like to be confronted. In order to fix the issue you have to identify the issue.

If they don’t like and will not change, you has a mod have to power to force that change by any means.

The ABW as hold has to step in and order for that to happen folks need to be put on front street and order for the shit to be controlled

Listen man, I don't operate as a rogue mod or admin. If I had things my way, well, we won't go down that path

And if we just started the site over, how many of y'all really think y'all gonna get an invite to come back?

 

[Chicity]

I’m done with talking about this. It’s 16 pages of bullshit and I already said what I needed to say. Some of the men have already pointed out what needed to be said which means they see what we see.

I’ve also stated that I’m not going to sit and talk only for people to think they can invalidate how I feel. Is there a way to unfollow this thread? I’ll figure it out with my non tech savvy ass.

At the top, in the middle

*Unwatch button*

 

[AP2.5]

I’m done with talking about this. It’s 16 pages of bullshit and I already said what I needed to say. Some of the men have already pointed out what needed to be said which means they see what we see.

I’ve also stated that I’m not going to sit and talk only for people to think they can invalidate how I feel. Is there a way to unfollow this thread? I’ll figure it out with my non tech savvy ass.

You can unfollow at the top of the page iirc

Sorry you felt this didn't bring us and closer to a resolution

 

[Lou Cypher]

Id get an invite.

 

[Sony Montana]

Also I think a lot of this has to do with when the site expanded it made the site not as intimate so females couldn’t feel the same way did before because the ratio of “decent” guys changed

 

[DOS_patos]

call em out.

 

[The Lonious Monk]

I’m done with talking about this. It’s 16 pages of bullshit and I already said what I needed to say. Some of the men have already pointed out what needed to be said which means they see what we see.

I’ve also stated that I’m not going to sit and talk only for people to think they can invalidate how I feel. Is there a way to unfollow this thread? I’ll figure it out with my non tech savvy ass.

I understand the frustration that comes from interacting with people and feeling like you're banging your head against the wall. I don't really understand your hostility at this point though. The discussion has basically moved to a "hey, let's just do whatever we can to maintain the peace and make everyone feel safe" point. The mods are on your side. So just tell them what you want to happen. Let's make that happen, and whoever doesn't like it has to deal with it or get the fuck on.

 

[Meeks]

You can unfollow at the top of the page iirc

Sorry you felt this didn't bring us and closer to a resolution

I just don’t want to go back and forth because while some of ya’ll obviously get it, there’s a few slow ones in the back that feel more needs to be said. The most I can say is “hey, go read the 16 pages to figure it out” because if they can’t figure it out after all that’s been said, what else should I say? Lol.

 

[Dwayne]

Listen man, I don't operate as a rogue mod or admin. If I had things my way, well, we won't go down that path

And if we just started the site over, how many of y'all really think y'all gonna get an invite to come back?

I would like to think I would get an invite


as for as “y’all” it is what it is at this point if we want to make it better for ladies to post if you have to ban posters and if I fall under that ban list I take that.

 

[Meeks]

I understand the frustration that comes from interacting with people and feeling like you're banging your head against the wall. I don't really understand your hostility at this point though. The discussion has basically moved to a "hey, let's just do whatever we can to maintain the peace and make everyone feel safe" point. The mods are on your side. So just tell them what you want to happen. Let's make that happen, and whoever doesn't like it has to deal with it.

I read something someone said and it has since been edited. That’s why I said all that I said. It now looks like confusion. This is also why I said what I said, the ones who understand already know what needs to be done so I’m not saying anything else about it.
How many times does someone have to say the same shit?

My hostility comes in when I have to repeat myself because nah.