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Fellas, How do you balance working and fatherhood?

AP21 said:
yeah this is my biggest fear as well

i think my current situation is ok, and that's what bothers me ...it should be just ok. Dont get me wrong, my daughter enjoys our time together as I do, but i need some consistency with her like she needs it with me

it's hard having conversations with someone who constantly sees themselves at the victim in every situation with zero concepts of self awareness.
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That shit is hella hard to deal with. It's the same situation I had. In my case I think it stemmed from her never being held liable for her actions. No matter what fuck she did, the bitch ass judge wouldn't do shit.

I made it to the other side of that mountain and I hate to see other brothas going through this shit.
 
AP21 said:
i tried for the better part of 2 years to give her the benefit of the doubt until i realized that no mater what good i did, she just ultimately used it to manipulate something from me at a later date

when i thought we were in a better place and wanted to discuss the child arrangements, then her attitude would change

she knows at this point there is no judge that isnt going to side with me and she trying really to paint a narrative about me that just isnt true
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wow...

well im always extreme.
i see that as a threat to fatherhood and needs to be pointed out the the lawyer and slowly build the case for full custody with her having every other week.
and be sure to specifyto her the "options".

i just feel fathers at times would not be so hurt that they would not allow a child to see their mother.

this subject always triggers me.
 
more power to all the fathers in here.

a child should never be leverage.

once they are used like that....the other person no longer made the childs best interest a priority.

no matter the fight....your child is worth it.
 
I swear...

I JUST got off the phone with the school....

He acting up already.... So I'm on the phone with him, talking to him... Getting him to breath.. calm down.... Asking him to think.... And make good decisions...... And finally get off the phone with him...



I get off the phone and everybody at jiffy lube is like.... Wow, that was really impressive. You gave so much patience....


I'm like bitch I'm high...this why I smoke weed.... I got high blood pressure, diabetes, hypertension ......These kids finna kill me...hallllp
 
DOS_patos said:
you can still post up.....
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I learned to accept what is and not what I would want it to be

After this school year my kids moving with they mom permanentlt. Cross the country no less. I was very angry at first but now I'm cool.
 
Got a 4 year old son with another son on the way. Tough times recently career wise so I’m tryna bounce back in time for the new baby.

Had to have talk with my son yesterday about grabbing and playing with himself. Shit was cringe lol my wife was uncomfortable as fuck.

To all of y’all having to deal with crazy baby moms and courts n shit you have my sympathy. Hope y’all get outta that hell.
 
One night when he was maybe 6 or 7, my son came to me in the kitchen and we started talking and he told me that I was working too much. And that I needed to spend more time with him. And that he wanted things to be like they use to be when I was just working my regular job and before I started a business. And that he wanted a dad who can play video games with him and stuff. Etc, etc, etc.

Shit broke my heart. He could see it on my face too. He looked devastated and said 'I'm sorry. I didn't mean to hurt your feelings'. I told him that it was all good. And that yeah, my feelings WERE hurt. And that sometimes feelings just gotta be hurt in order for a person to get it. And that I'd always remember our conversation and make sure that no matter mow much I work, that I'd always find a way to carve out quality time for us. He said he was gonna make me a work schedule.

Then when I woke up the next morning, this shit was sitting on the floor outside my bedroom. Yeah, the hours don't really add up, and yeah, the lil fucker added in SEVERAL video game breaks for me and him...but you get the idea. Shit been hanging on the wall near my desk ever since.

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Ironically, now he's at the age where I walk in his room for no reason at all just to chop it up, he be looking mad impatient and eventually be like 'Dad, can you go?!?!'. smh.
 
Chicity said:
I learned to accept what is and not what I would want it to be

After this school year my kids moving with they mom permanentlt. Cross the country no less. I was very angry at first but now I'm cool.
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bruh......you just gonna leave it like that?

just leave it there?

are you ok with that?
more importantly...is this what you want?
 
mryounggun said:
One night when he was maybe 6 or 7, my son came to me in the kitchen and we started talking and he told me that I was working too much. And that I needed to spend more time with him. And that he wanted things to be like they use to be when I was just working my regular job and before I started a business. And that he wanted a dad who can play video games with him and stuff. Etc, etc, etc.

Shit broke my heart. He could see it on my face too. He looked devastated and said 'I'm sorry. I didn't mean to hurt your feelings'. I told him that it was all good. And that yeah, my feelings WERE hurt. And that sometimes feelings just gotta be hurt in order for a person to get it. And that I'd always remember our conversation and make sure that no matter mow much I work, that I'd always find a way to carve out quality time for us. He said he was gonna make me a work schedule.

Then when I woke up the next morning, this shit was sitting on the floor outside my bedroom. Yeah, the hours don't really add up, and yeah, the lil fucker added in SEVERAL video game breaks for me and him...but you get the idea. Shit been hanging on the wall near my desk ever since.

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Ironically, now he's at the age where I walk in his room for no reason at all just to chop it up, he be looking mad impatient and eventually be like 'Dad, can you go?!?!'. smh.
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man you can see your way out.

we done had this talk before..


you aint allowed in here.

hate hate hate

but goat shit tho. Props.

hate hate hate
 
DOS_patos said:
man you can see your way out.

we done had this talk before..


you aint allowed in here.

hate hate hate

but goat shit tho. Props.

hate hate hate
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Dawg, I be tryna tell people that, for most of us, the biggest legacy that most of us will ever leave in this world is our children. So I take fatherhood VERY seriously. If there is one thing that Legit hate, it's a negligent ass parent. Water your seeds of don't have none.
 
AP21 said:
i tried for the better part of 2 years to give her the benefit of the doubt until i realized that no mater what good i did, she just ultimately used it to manipulate something from me at a later date

when i thought we were in a better place and wanted to discuss the child arrangements, then her attitude would change

she knows at this point there is no judge that isnt going to side with me and she trying really to paint a narrative about me that just isnt true
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Why she so evil? You don’t seem like a nigga that cheats or abusive like wtf
 
Chicity said:
I learned to accept what is and not what I would want it to be

After this school year my kids moving with they mom permanentlt. Cross the country no less. I was very angry at first but now I'm cool.
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damn man that’s fucked up. Are you able to move closer? Is your ex vindictive or anything?
 
Chicity said:
Nah. I have a few reasons but a top reason is I dont wanna be around they mother.

Nothing crazy or scandalous but it's not the life I wanna live. I'm hoping as my kids enter HS they'd wanna come to where I am but that's a thought for a different day
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she ratchet?
 
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