How do y’all feel about these parents obituary

Duwop said:
eh kinda torn...


if he was living that kinda life...he clearly didn't plan a funeral,prolly no kids or life insurance....so funeral cost gonna have to come outta pocket...


so it's not like his wishes aren't' being honored..amd the only people who are missing out are folk who were gonna come to a church or formal service....and maybe they not a church family, so they don't see the need in organizing and paying for all that....yall normally champion the abolition of traditions for no reason other than tradition.....so what's the point of a funeral?? really???


when niggaz die in the streets, their homies normally give candle light vigils.. if his parents didn't fuck with him cuz of him running the streets, his people will prolly will still have shit for him...so again who's really hurting cuz there's no formal funeral?
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Don’t really care about the funeral I don’t like the obituary
 
DOS_patos said:
so we also gonna tell maybe frustrated parents how to grieve?
mom may be hella hurt and got tired of getting her door kicked in or house shot up or whatever and now she has to bury him......
why dont know what he brung on them or what he left them to deal with.

a mix of many emotions have people saying what may not seem normal.
yall in here assuming alot.

but again...

lets all agree.

yea

guess ill go an apologize to gayle king
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So that ain't what you doing with the underlined and you and a lot of other niggas did in that rolex vs rental property thread? Assume alot!

Funny thing is they put themselves in a more fucked up light doing that clown ass shit than it does their son.

Also kids and grown people have plenty of examples of what happens to some people in that life. Nothing special about the way their son died so they not showing kids an example they've never seen before.

The example most kids going to take from this is that they as parents didn't really fuck with their son.
 
In all honesty, this is really a non-issue.

A funeral/memorial service is a self-serving event for the living. The deceased is gone. All the emotions attached to the event should be left up to the individual to deal with. Allowing yourself as the one in charge of the estate (if there even is one) to be caught up in appeasing the feelings of others is truthfully unnecessary.

When you boil it down, it's selfish to even critique what they do. The deceased IS deceased. Life goes on.
 
OGDirtyDee said:
He was out living the trapping and banging lifestyle because his parents were corny? That's like saying because somebody had parents who were strictly religous and barely let them do things growing up gives an excuse for the kid to be in the streets. That sounds more like them trying to prevent the outcome at hand.
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its corny
 
if my child passed im not using his deceased body as a teachable moment of what not to be lmaooo its a moot point, hes dead.

if they wish to go on a speaking tour to help curb community violence, thats one thing but in his obituary? lmaoo clown behavior
 
Race Jones said:
if my child passed im not using his deceased body as a teachable moment of what not to be lmaooo its a moot point, hes dead.

if they wish to go on a speaking tour to help curb community violence, thats one thing but in his obituary? lmaoo clown behavior
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Well their clown behavior matched his clown behavior, it's all good
 
also, where is the accountability here? yes he was in the streets but as a parent, i would be taking some type of accountability here. idk about anyone else but i always place blame first on myself in any situation, im always thinking about how i could have done something better before i even begin to fault someone else.

again, wtf is this
 
DOS_patos said:
so we also gonna tell maybe frustrated parents how to grieve?
mom may be hella hurt and got tired of getting her door kicked in or house shot up or whatever and now she has to bury him......
why dont know what he brung on them or what he left them to deal with.

a mix of many emotions have people saying what may not seem normal.
yall in here assuming alot.

but again...

lets all agree.

yea

guess ill go an apologize to gayle king
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How are we telling them how to grieve? None of us called them and told them they were pieces of shit. O/P asked our opinion and we gave it.

Square up, nigga. I'm sick of the tension.
 
Race Jones said:
also, where is the accountability here? yes he was in the streets but as a parent, i would be taking some type of accountability here. idk about anyone else but i always place blame first on myself in any situation, im always thinking about how i could have done something better before i even begin to fault someone else.

again, wtf is this
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Alot of people think as a parent you really control everything they do, by 16 if they want to truly do something they will find a way with or without their parents consent. The holding the parent responsible think is prehistoric thinking. Some people I grew up with had some of the most loving, time given, structured rules homes and still found a way to do the most once they left the house for the day. Not saying I know everything these parents in this situation did growing up but it's not hard to believe they did everything they could and still couldn't control a young adults attention.
 
Race Jones said:
also, where is the accountability here? yes he was in the streets but as a parent, i would be taking some type of accountability here. idk about anyone else but i always place blame first on myself in any situation, im always thinking about how i could have done something better before i even begin to fault someone else.

again, wtf is this
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After a while wouldn't you just leave him to make his own choices, a parent can only do so much, that dude was the reason his life turned out the way it did not his parents
 
DMorgan said:
So that ain't what you doing with the underlined and you and a lot of other niggas did in that rolex vs rental property thread? Assume alot!

Funny thing is they put themselves in a more fucked up light doing that clown ass shit than it does their son.

Also kids and grown people have plenty of examples of what happens to some people in that life. Nothing special about the way their son died so they not showing kids an example they've never seen before.

The example most kids going to take from this is that they as parents didn't really fuck with their son.
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i respect the shit outta this post..

i will bookmark it...cuz nigga on here stay saying on thing then another when they check late or something.

plenty of times on here it has been said that the parents cant be the blame all the time.

so in here is it because of what whoever said or is it legit about fucked up parenting.
 
Chi-town B said:
After a while wouldn't you just leave him to make his own choices, a parent can only do so much, that dude was the reason his life turned out the way it did not his parents
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everyone in the community is responsible
hes responsible
his parents
his friends
his assailants
the entire community is responsible for the breakdown in this young mans life
 
DOS_patos said:
i respect the shit outta this post..

i will bookmark it...cuz nigga on here stay saying on thing then another when they check late or something.

plenty of times on here it has been said that the parents cant be the blame all the time.

so in here is it because of what whoever said or is it legit about fucked up parenting.
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No a parent is ever 100% the blame especially after a certain age. At the same time parents also have to recognize and own up to some of the fucked up parts and actions of the child they raised.
 
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