When is it time to cut people off? when and why did you make the move?

[OriginalMan!]

When disrespect is constant

 

[SeaSnake]

real shit...this if from another thread and a stepz rant.

but when do you cut people off?

it seems like people keep people around that aint really helping them get somewhere in life.
why do you keep them people around?
to not be lonely?
a drinking buddy?
cause they bring the chicks/dudes?
cause they can fight, so you feel protected? like a bitch nigga?

if the people around you aint helping you grow...why are they there?

do you need yes men?
do you need ego boosters?
will they tell you when you wrong?
will they tell you you made a bad decision?

are you the smartest among them? do you like to be looked up to around others who arent on your level? how does that help you?

seriously, take a good look at your circle and think about what you want in life and how these niggas fit in it.
are these people even the niggas that can obtain or keep up to where you want to go?
are they slowing you down? are you slowing you down because you dont want to shine too much?

i can admit that when i was getting and going places in life....i found i had alot of haters that had immediate access to me.

i found myself in competitions i didnt even know about.

i found out about run tell dat ass niggas...dry snitching.

had to cut off alot of niggas and family. and like someone recently said....they wasnt family...they was relatives. thats a great way to look at it.

alot of people are stagnant. a lot of niggas dont want shit out of life outside of the immediate circle. the block is some niggas lives. i drank such and such, smoked such and such, fucked such and such.

i once was told on the IC that alot of people dont have freinds like that. i told that person that its obvious you aint high enough for niggas to target you.

when we all got honda and acuras....things are cool. but when niggas get late model benzs...or whatever to be the stand out....niggas get funny. thats just a fact.

but anyway

when is it time to cut people off?
when did you have to cut someone off? why so?

You got a common theme with all your posts ive noticed

 

[SeaSnake]

real shit...this if from another thread and a stepz rant.

but when do you cut people off?

it seems like people keep people around that aint really helping them get somewhere in life.
why do you keep them people around?
to not be lonely?
a drinking buddy?
cause they bring the chicks/dudes?
cause they can fight, so you feel protected? like a bitch nigga?

if the people around you aint helping you grow...why are they there?

do you need yes men?
do you need ego boosters?
will they tell you when you wrong?
will they tell you you made a bad decision?

are you the smartest among them? do you like to be looked up to around others who arent on your level? how does that help you?

seriously, take a good look at your circle and think about what you want in life and how these niggas fit in it.
are these people even the niggas that can obtain or keep up to where you want to go?
are they slowing you down? are you slowing you down because you dont want to shine too much?

i can admit that when i was getting and going places in life....i found i had alot of haters that had immediate access to me.

i found myself in competitions i didnt even know about.

i found out about run tell dat ass niggas...dry snitching.

had to cut off alot of niggas and family. and like someone recently said....they wasnt family...they was relatives. thats a great way to look at it.

alot of people are stagnant. a lot of niggas dont want shit out of life outside of the immediate circle. the block is some niggas lives. i drank such and such, smoked such and such, fucked such and such.

i once was told on the IC that alot of people dont have freinds like that. i told that person that its obvious you aint high enough for niggas to target you.

when we all got honda and acuras....things are cool. but when niggas get late model benzs...or whatever to be the stand out....niggas get funny. thats just a fact.

but anyway

when is it time to cut people off?
when did you have to cut someone off? why so?

So if my niggas not hating on me that means we all bums?

 

[SeaSnake]

Never had to cut nobody off or move funny. I dont view friends the same as family and everybody else is an outsider so i dont be surprised by shit nor get into bullshit. Niggas got too many friends and shit be acting like women

 

[DOS_patos]

So if my niggas not hating on me that means we all bums?

i didnt say you was a bum ,......what i am saying is you not the high standing dude out you click so you wont have the same type hate as if or when you do stand above others.

Never had to cut nobody off or move funny. I dont view friends the same as family and everybody else is an outsider so i dont be surprised by shit nor get into bullshit. Niggas got too many friends and shit be acting like women

i rest my case

 

[DOS_patos]

You got a common theme with all your posts ive noticed

and thats what?

 

[SeaSnake]

i didnt say you was a bum ,......what i am saying is you not the high standing dude out you click so you wont have the same type hate as if or when you do stand above others.




i rest my case

This must be a problem for overly competitive niggas or like you said if you doing THAT much better than everybody you hang with. People on equal footing do t go thru this and if a nigga i know start doing better it gotta be something wrong with you to just become a hater. That seems like bitch ass shit. I mean i can understand it from co workers but for niggas i came up with i cant fathom it. But idk we all got strengths and weaknesses and situational changes i guess can expose some shit sooner or later.

I just dont get the surprise people have tho. Like you didnt peep you homie was a hater when yall was coming up. Im rambling but i give benefit of the doubt but dont expect much

 

[SeaSnake]

and thats what?

Very pro capitalism making money stunting type of vibe

 

[DOS_patos]

This must be a problem for overly competitive niggas or like you said if you doing THAT much better than everybody you hang with. People on equal footing do t go thru this and if a nigga i know start doing better it gotta be something wrong with you to just become a hater. That seems like bitch ass shit. I mean i can understand it from co workers but for niggas i came up with i cant fathom it. But idk we all got strengths and weaknesses and situational changes i guess can expose some shit sooner or later.

I just dont get the surprise people have tho. Like you didnt peep you homie was a hater when yall was coming up. Im rambling but i give benefit of the doubt but dont expect much

you know something......thats a good question.
and honestly.....i never took a look at it until it was brought to my attention and it started getting more blatant.

look at it like this...some shit niggas say...you may take as jokes. but it might be something within those jokes that you brushing off. simply because you wasnt looking for anything within the joke because thats your homie right?

shit might get by you until you catch it...then you look back on other shit and you will realize that it was alot of hating going on right under your nose.

but being a person you are...you wasnt expecting it from people you thought you was cool with.

and thats not even bringing up shit that was said behind your back or used agaisnt you.

bruh i got stories for days.....and the shit sometimes gets mad frustrating. and i know im not the only one.

it doesnt even have to be about money....it can be the new bad chick you with ...or new car or new house....hell new job or pay raise.

thing is niggas change.

and right now...you might not be looking for it so you dont think its there. but its there. it just hasnt grown to the point that it stands out yet.

 

[DOS_patos]

Very pro capitalism making money stunting type of vibe

not sure how you got that but ok......i hardly talk about certain things....and i like to see people come up and like to help when i can...

*shrugs*

 

[SeaSnake]

not sure how you got that but ok......i hardly talk about certain things....and i like to see people come up and like to help when i can...

*shrugs*

My bad inthink i was projecting here. I think im still in that stage where when somebody wants better for you and they tough about it instead of listening i take it another way. Lack of maturity on my part

 

[DOS_patos]

My bad inthink i was projecting here. I think im still in that stage where when somebody wants better for you and they tough about it instead of listening i take it another way. Lack of maturity on my part

interesting...

im curious how this can be taken.

i run into this quite a bit and would like to understand.

help me out

 

[DMorgan]

interesting...

im curious how this can be taken.

i run into this quite a bit and would like to understand.

help me out

Nigga you've been told by a few since the IC its not always about what you saying its how you saying it.

Sometimes feelings can't be spared that is understood. Also there are many people who don't like to be preached to.

This is also the internet where facial expressions and body language can't be read. So a lot times messages get misconstrued.

 

[DOS_patos]

Nigga you've been told by a few since the IC its not always about what you saying its how you saying it.

Sometimes feelings can't be spared that is understood. Also there are many people who don't like to be preached to.

This is also the internet where facial expressions and body language can't be read. So a lot times messages get misconstrued.

heres what i always said....

the teacher dont have to change the lesson.....you need to either try to hear the message or get extra help to keep up.

fact of the matter is......its a nigga trying that people miss. thats half the battle.

it not about being preached too.....but niggas go to church and pray for help tho ...huh. but im not going to go there.

i hear and heard every excuse ....niggas dont come back to help, niggas talk down, yadda yadda.
niggas even twist shit to fit their narrative. i once told a nigga he was smarter than me and should utilize his knowledge....nigga took it as me saying either i called him stupid or im someone high that should be surpassed.

dont really matter....cause the problem as i see it....is we losing a battle and niggas cool with it but want to give me shit.

i was brought up in north philly.....now its nothing but white people coming in buying up the houses and forcing niggas to relocate.

niggas already did that shit once on boats from africa...now its happening again and niggas crying talking about no one helping.

shit gets tiring.....

i was just having a conversation a few weeks ago in charlotte with some guys about this very thing.....niggas was very surprised when i said fuck helping niggas out since i was always the one helping;. now niggas looking at me funny saying this is the problem with our community....because of people like me.

shit got me hot....was about to fight three niggas....two i knew woulda gave me problems on the one on one...but niggas talking that shit when they dont understand the work that i put in and now i became frustrated and said fuck em..im going back to europe.

i was going to make a thread about it......but never did.
but it was a very interesting conversation, shit.


but heres another thing....at least i am asking for his input..i am not above looking at myself.
so he wrong ...me too. it dont matter if as a race and group we all losing.

 

[DMorgan]

heres what i always said....

the teacher dont have to change the lesson.....you need to either try to hear the message or get extra help to keep up.

fact of the matter is......its a nigga trying that people miss. thats half the battle.

it not about being preached too.....but niggas go to church and pray for help tho ...huh. but im not going to go there.

i hear and heard every excuse ....niggas dont come back to help, niggas talk down, yadda yadda.
niggas even twist shit to fit their narrative. i once told a nigga he was smarter than me and should utilize his knowledge....nigga took it as me saying either i called him stupid or im someone high that should be surpassed.

dont really matter....cause the problem as i see it....is we losing a battle and niggas cool with it but want to give me shit.

i was brought up in north philly.....now its nothing but white people coming in buying up the houses and forcing niggas to relocate.

niggas already did that shit once on boats from africa...now its happening again and niggas crying talking about no one helping.

shit gets tiring.....

i was just having a conversation a few weeks ago in charlotte with some guys about this very thing.....niggas was very surprised when i said fuck helping niggas out since i was always the one helping;. now niggas looking at me funny saying this is the problem with our community....because of people like me.

shit got me hot....was about to fight three niggas....two i knew woulda gave me problems on the one on one...but niggas talking that shit when they dont understand the work that i put in and now i became frustrated and said fuck em..im going back to europe.

i was going to make a thread about it......but never did.
but it was a very interesting conversation, shit.


but heres another thing....at least i am asking for his input..i am not above looking at myself.
so he wrong ...me too. it dont matter if as a race and group we all losing.

You right the teacher don't have to change the lesson but the teacher has to realize they not teaching nobody shit if their lesson ain't being received. Everybody don't learn the same so just cause 10 kids got lesson out of a class of 30 kids. Don't mean those 10 kids are smarter than
the other 20 kids. It just might mean they are visual learners while the other 20 kids are hands on learners.

Church ain't got shit to do with this!

Most people know the battle we in. At the same time though if you keep talking the same but ain't nobody getting it regardless of whether you're right in what you saying. You need to change up how you putting the message out there cause its not be received and that is your fault.

 

[DOS_patos]

You right the teacher don't have to change the lesson but the teacher has to realize they not teaching nobody shit if their lesson ain't being received. Everybody don't learn the same so just cause 10 kids got lesson out of a class of 30 kids. Don't mean those 10 kids are smarter than
the other 20 kids. It just might mean they are visual learners while the other 20 kids are hands on learners.

Church ain't got shit to do with this!

Most people know the battle we in. At the same time though if you keep talking the same but ain't nobody getting it regardless of whether you're right in what you saying. You need to change up how you putting the message out there cause its not be received and that is your fault.

i think it was you and i who had this talk the last time.

it is not my fault. it is the fault of those who aint trying to get the message.

if you want to learn ...even if its not your way of learning..its up to you to get the help needed.
teacher get paid to teach....if certain people are smarter and catch on faster...its either the class slows down or someone get left back.

case and point....
teacher teaching......using your example....10 are visual and 20 are hands on. evne adjusting so everyone can learn ...will still eventually leave someone unfullfilled.
but if you there to learn ...then its partially on your to get the help you need. because if you sit and wait for help thats already there....it aint fair to yourself to feel entitled to special treatment.

and this is where the problems start.

i always say......niggas talk mad shit on these streets.....and if they thugged out its even worse..
so you telling me all these niggas want to be handles with kids gloves now?
nah .....it dont match up.

and you right...you can hear inflection and shit on the net. but then if you truly want the help...PMs are available.
i usually meet people where they are. but on the flipside....whats the persons accountability?

 

[DMorgan]

i think it was you and i who had this talk the last time.

it is not my fault. it is the fault of those who aint trying to get the message.

if you want to learn ...even if its not your way of learning..its up to you to get the help needed.
teacher get paid to teach....if certain people are smarter and catch on faster...its either the class slows down or someone get left back.

case and point....
teacher teaching......using your example....10 are visual and 20 are hands on. evne adjusting so everyone can learn ...will still eventually leave someone unfullfilled.
but if you there to learn ...then its partially on your to get the help you need. because if you sit and wait for help thats already there....it aint fair to yourself to feel entitled to special treatment.

and this is where the problems start.

i always say......niggas talk mad shit on these streets.....and if they thugged out its even worse..
so you telling me all these niggas want to be handles with kids gloves now?
nah .....it dont match up.

and you right...you can hear inflection and shit on the net. but then if you truly want the help...PMs are available.
i usually meet people where they are. but on the flipside....whats the persons accountability?

The bold to me is where you wrong to me. Most people if they give you their time of day are trying to get the message. If they honestly don't get it either you didn't explain it right or they possibly not smart enough to get it. I would seriously doubt its from a lack of trying though.

Teachers do teach its also part of the teachers job to help those students who not getting it. Its actually dumb as fuck for teachers to try to fit everyone in the same box when its factually proven everybody doesn't learn the same.

I agree 100% that students also on their own need to seek help in getting the lesson being taught if they not getting it in class. But fact remains its a two-way street. The teacher needs to make some adjustments in how they are teaching and the kids need to do extra outside of class to help them keep up.

I said sometimes feelings can't be spared when delivering a message. Also its not smart or wise to always try to deliver your message with a heavy handed approach. Its just going to turn some people off.

Speaking to people in a certain way is not the same as handling people with kid gloves.

The persons accountability is if they know the battle we in and don't like the shit you saying but down for the cause to go elsewhere and get with folks who trying to move how they like to move to accomplish the same goals you are just in a different manner.

As the saying goes there is more than one way to skin a cat.

 

[DOS_patos]

The bold to me is where you wrong to me. Most people if they give you their time of day are trying to get the message. If they honestly don't get it either you didn't explain it right or they possibly not smart enough to get it. I would seriously doubt its from a lack of trying though.

Teachers do teach its also part of the teachers job to help those students who not getting it. Its actually dumb as fuck for teachers to try to fit everyone in the same box when its factually proven everybody doesn't learn the same.

I agree 100% that students also on their own need to seek help in getting the lesson being taught if they not getting it in class. But fact remains its a two-way street. The teacher needs to make some adjustments in how they are teaching and the kids need to do extra outside of class to help them keep up.

I said sometimes feelings can't be spared when delivering a message. Also its not smart or wise to always try to deliver your message with a heavy handed approach. Its just going to turn some people off.

Speaking to people in a certain way is not the same as handling people with kid gloves.

The persons accountability is if they know the battle we in and don't like the shit you saying but down for the cause to go elsewhere and get with folks who trying to move how they like to move to accomplish the same goals you are just in a different manner.

As the saying goes there is more than one way to skin a cat.

and heres the problems..

you just said it......while i know i am not for everyone.....i still try.

a guy once told asked me why am i speak to kids about shit they dont know about....they need to hear it from a certain type of person.
i agree but .......all kids are not the same and dont want the same.

he said he should speak to them because hid street name holds this or that ...and thats cool.

but did this person just lump all kids into a box? every kid aint a street kid and every kid dont want to look up to street shit.

when i go to schools and stuff...i listen first and move accordingly. i hear their stories...i listen to the parents. i hear their stories. and i go from there./.

it aint the kids thats the problem. alot of times its the men that are the problem.
it turns into a flexing and pissing contest. and from that is when my frustrations begin....

i say all that to say...alot of times its not that the person cant hear the message ....its the willingness to hear the message because of those they think is cool dont want to hear it..so they dont.

you would be surprised at how many sheepeople are out here.

thats why i say ....its not about the teaching method. its too many people trying to fit in with the crowd and purposely miss the message.

its crazy how many people want to speak about shit when people aint around.

 

[DMorgan]

and heres the problems..

you just said it......while i know i am not for everyone.....i still try.

a guy once told asked me why am i speak to kids about shit they dont know about....they need to hear it from a certain type of person.
i agree but .......all kids are not the same and dont want the same.

he said he should speak to them because hid street name holds this or that ...and thats cool.

but did this person just lump all kids into a box? every kid aint a street kid and every kid dont want to look up to street shit.

when i go to schools and stuff...i listen first and move accordingly. i hear their stories...i listen to the parents. i hear their stories. and i go from there./.

it aint the kids thats the problem. alot of times its the men that are the problem.
it turns into a flexing and pissing contest. and from that is when my frustrations begin....

i say all that to say...alot of times its not that the person cant hear the message ....its the willingness to hear the message because of those they think is cool dont want to hear it..so they dont.

you would be surprised at how many sheepeople are out here.

thats why i say ....its not about the teaching method. its too many people trying to fit in with the crowd and purposely miss the message.

its crazy how many people want to speak about shit when people aint around.

You supposed to still try. That is commendable actually cause most wouldn't.

The mistakes of others is just that a mistake. So if that dude put all those kids in the same box he is just as wrong as anybody else who does it.

If you are communicating properly it could be a case of you trying to save folks who don't want to be saved.

Everybody not built for the ride and the struggle of the battle. Let them weed themselves out. Everything ain't for everybody. If a person is not trying to be a part of the solution then they are an enemy and treat them as such.

I will say its hard sometimes to determine who genuinely just not getting the message and those who are purposefully ignoring the message.

Its fine line to walk and nobody has ever batted 1.000 if they are truly walking how they are talking.

 

[DOS_patos]

You supposed to still try. That is commendable actually cause most wouldn't.

The mistakes of others is just that a mistake. So if that dude put all those kids in the same box he is just as wrong as anybody else who does it.

If you are communicating properly it could be a case of you trying to save folks who don't want to be saved.

Everybody not built for the ride and the struggle of the battle. Let them weed themselves out. Everything ain't for everybody. If a person is not trying to be a part of the solution then they are an enemy and treat them as such.

I will say its hard sometimes to determine who genuinely just not getting the message and those who are purposefully ignoring the message.

Its fine line to walk and nobody has ever batted 1.000 if they are truly walking how they are talking.

and this was aprt of the conversation that got me pissed....

dudes claiming they doing this and that...when their conversation dont match up. nigga told me he always reaches everyone. its not possible.

i know i cant save everyone...but those that are like me...i would like for them to hear me and know they dont have to be like others who follow the wrong path because they think thats all they have.

but right now...im frustrated.....im not perfect and i needed to take a step back.
i rather take a step back than attack kids and people who dont deserve it because of someone else.