What would you do if you were the son in this situation?

[Duwop]

This implies he was wrong in what he was doing tho. From what im surmising he was cheated on, got divorced and tried to take his kids with him, the girls chose to stay with the mother and her new man, he tried to foster a relationship with the girls but they denied him, when they found out he was up they came ran to him to be bailed out financially but he refused, he dies and leaves an inheritance to his son.

So giving them the money would make his son a better man? I didn't read anything that made it seem like he wasn't an exemplary one.

Getting cheated on, divorced, and losing the girls was pops villain origin story, and he was cool with that. He left then out the will, have the money to the soon, and said fuck them girls.

Despite being hurt, he felt justified in his actions. And while he was alive was perfectly ok with being the person that said no to them.

Most people ask themselves, am I the asshole? An I wrong here? By leaving the money to his son, he places his son in the position to make a decision he would not make because of his hurt. Which could lead to his son making a more compassionate decision than he was able to make.. Essentially being a better man than he could..

Basically, while I'm here... Imma say no.. But when I'm gone, it's outta my hands, y'all just better hope your brother has a warmer heart than I do.....

No where does it say the father told him not to give his sister's shit.... He left it up to him. Possibly hoping that he may have it in his heart whether the father didn't.

That's my take on it

 

[loud-ninja]

I watched the whole video. Not sure if anyone else did. There are important parts that are missing from Monk's summary. The brother mentioned that the sisters only really came to him when they needed something. When the sisters were in college, they came to the dad and brother for money and things. He saw his dad refuse them.

They cut the father off first, said the brother. The father was on a downward spiral after the split. He started drinking heavy. He then started to pick his self up. The son wants to get rid of the grudges and forgive. Because of what he saw his dad go through, he said he is not ready to forgive his sisters and mother. One day, he wants to forgive but that is not today. He is currently estranged from his sisters.

He wants to dead the grudge but at the same time, respect his father's wishes. He also said that his father was a devoted Christian. He mentions forgiveness in the bible and that is what he wants to do.

My opinion: When he is ready to forgive, he eventually wants to, they need to go to group therapy. Hash everything out. Once he sees action and not just talk from the sister's, he can then decide if he wants to help them. They have to rebuild their relationship first.

 

[BlackRain]

I watched the whole video. Not sure if anyone else did. There are important parts that are missing from Monk's summary. The brother mentioned that the sisters only really came to him when they needed something. When the sisters were in college, they came to the dad and brother for money and things. He saw his dad refuse them.

They cut the father off first, said the brother. The father was on a downward spiral after the split. He started drinking heavy. He then started to pick his self up. The son wants to get rid of the grudges and forgive. Because of what he saw his dad go through, he said he is not ready to forgive his sisters and mother. One day, he wants to forgive but that is not today. He is currently estranged from his sisters.

He wants to dead the grudge but at the same time, respect his father's wishes. He also said that his father was a devoted Christian. He mentions forgiveness in the bible and that is what he wants to do.

My opinion: When he is ready to forgive, he eventually wants to, they need to go to group therapy. Hash everything out. Once he sees action and not just talk from the sister's, he can then decide if he wants to help them. They have to rebuild their relationship first.

Him wanting to forgive is a big part that was missing. My next question would be are the sisters aware of that and possibly using this to manipulate the money out of him? Or do they have no clue about their brother's desires and he is torn because he knows the money can be used as a tool to either open that door he wants or to possibly be manipulated by them

 

[T. Sanford]

Maybe I read the story wrong, but if they didn't wanna have anything to do with him. Then why should they feel obligated for him to pay their loans off? They should have the mindset to pay it off themselves to prove that they can do it without him.

They are in the business of using their father. I'll tell them to keep it pushing.

 

[Chi-Town B]

I wouldn't make a decision based off of my dad's relationship with his daughter's, he's gone so his money is my money now. Like I said earlier if me and the sister's have a good relationship then I have no problem paying their loan.

 

[loud-ninja]

Him wanting to forgive is a big part that was missing. My next question would be are the sisters aware of that and possibly using this to manipulate the money out of him? Or do they have no clue about their brother's desires and he is torn because he knows the money can be used as a tool to either open that door he wants or to possibly be manipulated by them

Yeah, tough call. That's why I think they need to rebuild with action first. Go to group therapy. Then start doing get togethers. Family bonding.

 

[loud-ninja]

I wouldn't make a decision based off of my dad's relationship with his daughter's, he's gone so his money is my money now. Like I said earlier if me and the sister's have a good relationship then I have no problem paying their loand.

They dont have a good relationship. The brother is estranged from the sisters

 

[Freeman]

I wouldn't make a decision based off of my dad's relationship with his daughter's, he's gone so his money is my money now. Like I said earlier if me and the sister's have a good relationship then I have no problem paying their loand.

Their relationship is purely transactional. They only hit him up for bread.

 

[Freeman]

Getting cheated on, divorced, and losing the girls was pops villain origin story, and he was cool with that. He left then out the will, have the money to the soon, and said fuck them girls.

Despite being hurt, he felt justified in his actions. And while he was alive was perfectly ok with being the person that said no to them.

Most people ask themselves, am I the asshole? An I wrong here? By leaving the money to his son, he places his son in the position to make a decision he would not make because of his hurt. Which could lead to his son making a more compassionate decision than he was able to make.. Essentially being a better man than he could..

Basically, while I'm here... Imma say no.. But when I'm gone, it's outta my hands, y'all just better hope your brother has a warmer heart than I do.....

No where does it say the father told him not to give his sister's shit.... He left it up to him. Possibly hoping that he may have it in his heart whether the father didn't.

That's my take on it

You said a whole lot to not answer the question.

I understand what's happening tho. Don't even worry about it man.

 

[Chi-Town B]

If that's the case then they get nothing.

 

[Monizzle]

You can't deny having a genuine relationship with someone, then call them when you need money from them. I don't care who it is. Relationships are a 2 way street. Therefore, his daughters can go along about their day.

When you don't wanna have a relationship with said person. You can't still try to use their resources because they are your father/mother/brother/sister etc. That's bs to me. Quit straddling the fence. Either you rock with that man or not