deadeye
Warrior
We fell out last summer due to a misunderstanding...........and I recently found out that she's pregnant.
The End.
Well, not exactly.
This thread isn't really about her specifically, but more so about social etiquette.
Basically, when I found out from a family member that she was pregnant..........I was speechless for a few seconds, and then I told the relative to tell her congratulations.
Soon after, it didn't feel right saying congratulations because I don't think it's going to be a positive situation.
I mean, what am I really congratulating her for?
She just turned 20 years old and should be finishing her 2nd year of college.
Instead, she's about to experience the hardships of motherhood when she's barely an adult herself.
Granted, she has a good support system in place.........but I didn't want her to grow up this quick.
But Alas, although I think of her as a daughter.........she's not, so I really shouldn't care about her situation either way.
I just wanted a better future for her.
Part of me feels like I failed her in some way, even though she's not my responsibility.
But Alas, I digress.
Basically, I'm as awkward as Dexter in certain social situations, so I wanted to get a general idea of what would be the appropriate thing to say in a situation like this.
Keep in mind, I found this out in Church........and my initial thought was to say something along the lines of "sorry to hear that"........but the person who told me of her impending pregnancy made it seem like it was a blessing, so congratulations was the first thing that came to mind.
Any positive input will be greatly appreciated, but I don't want this to degenerate into a single mother bashing thread or anything of that nature.
Otherwise, I'll ask the moderators to take appropriate action and lock or delete the thread.
Just looking for some insight more than anything else.
I almost didn't make this thread, but @MissK told me a while back to keep her posted on any new developments..........so I felt obligated to update her on this challenging situation.
The End.
Well, not exactly.
This thread isn't really about her specifically, but more so about social etiquette.
Basically, when I found out from a family member that she was pregnant..........I was speechless for a few seconds, and then I told the relative to tell her congratulations.
Soon after, it didn't feel right saying congratulations because I don't think it's going to be a positive situation.
I mean, what am I really congratulating her for?
She just turned 20 years old and should be finishing her 2nd year of college.
Instead, she's about to experience the hardships of motherhood when she's barely an adult herself.
Granted, she has a good support system in place.........but I didn't want her to grow up this quick.
But Alas, although I think of her as a daughter.........she's not, so I really shouldn't care about her situation either way.
I just wanted a better future for her.
Part of me feels like I failed her in some way, even though she's not my responsibility.
But Alas, I digress.
Basically, I'm as awkward as Dexter in certain social situations, so I wanted to get a general idea of what would be the appropriate thing to say in a situation like this.
Keep in mind, I found this out in Church........and my initial thought was to say something along the lines of "sorry to hear that"........but the person who told me of her impending pregnancy made it seem like it was a blessing, so congratulations was the first thing that came to mind.
Any positive input will be greatly appreciated, but I don't want this to degenerate into a single mother bashing thread or anything of that nature.
Otherwise, I'll ask the moderators to take appropriate action and lock or delete the thread.
Just looking for some insight more than anything else.
I almost didn't make this thread, but @MissK told me a while back to keep her posted on any new developments..........so I felt obligated to update her on this challenging situation.