Dude... You gotta stop injecting your personal situations into these situations.
It has already been established that you live a semi-charmed existence thereby making your views on the black diaspora seem skewed.
Your experiences as a black man is that of one that is either, handsome, lightskinned or wealthy. Your vernacular, opinions and stances highlight that.
You are a Unicorn telling thorobreds how to gallop on rainbows.