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Not going to funerals.

Ive hit a couple wakes for former classmates/HS friends. Not goin to no funeral tho.

1/2 of a funeral is a church service. Fuck that.

The wake u pop in pay respect, peace up with couple people and bounce
 
I don't visit graves after the funeral but it's hella disrespectful not to go to one if you're close to the dead imo.

Funerals aren't about you, they're about the dead.
 
Funerals are lit for us anyway, skip the church if you're not too close to the dead but touch the reception and get lit with the fam
 
Rubato said:
Completely disagree

Funerals are for the living and only the living
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I used to think that but when my grandad died I changed my mind.

I didn't wanna go to the funeral or do nine night or anything but I decided should go because he was more important than my apathy toward fairly arbitrary traditions.

I do get what you sayin' tho'
 
depends on who's judging

everybody's not with that shit and I personally wouldnt blame anyone

but yeah, your fam is probably a little tight if you dont show up for your folks funeral

just how shit is
 
CeLLar-DooR said:
I used to think that but when my grandad died I changed my mind.

I didn't wanna go to the funeral or do nine night or anything but I decided should go because he was more important than my apathy toward fairly arbitrary traditions.

I do get what you sayin' tho'
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I guess this would all depend on one’s opinion of the dead’s ability to perceive things in the living world after death
 
Rubato said:
I guess this would all depend on one’s opinion of the dead’s ability to perceive things in the living world after death
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No don't get me wrong, I don't believe the dead can perceive anything at all. I just think that some traditions have worth even if their origins are religious or mystical
 
CeLLar-DooR said:
No don't get me wrong, I don't believe the dead can perceive anything at all. I just think that some traditions have worth even if their origins are religious or mystical
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Yeah I get that, but my original statement was that the service is not for the benefit of the dead in any way, it’s just for the living. How can it benefit the dead if they can’t perceive it happening?
 
Today was my grandpa funeral and I ain’t go. I battled with going or not. Made my mind up to just go and when it was time to head out, my keys were nowhere to be found. I was told don’t come because the service was gonna be short and I’d miss it.

I’m happy.
 
Kandy said:
Today was my grandpa funeral and I ain’t go. I battled with going or not. Made my mind up to just go and when it was time to head out, my keys were nowhere to be found. I was told don’t come because the service was gonna be short and I’d miss it.

I’m happy.
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Alls well that ends well!
 
I hate going. As I get older...I find myself backing away from them. 2017 really changed that for me.

You don't HAVE to go to someone's funeral to pay your respect. You go to the wake...the gathering at the house b4 the funeral...the repass...whateva. So I'm not sure why anyone would feel some type of way of that person didn't come to the funeral.

Not everyone wants the lasting image of the person they know, to be in a casket. A lot of folks pay their respects differently. Not everyone handles funerals well. I don't like seeing people I care about hurt. I don't like being in that environment.
 
IP360 said:
I hate going. As I get older...I find myself backing away from them. 2017 really changed that for me.

You don't HAVE to go to someone's funeral to pay your respect. You go to the wake...the gathering at the house b4 the funeral...the repass...whateva. So I'm not sure why anyone would feel some type of way of that person didn't come to the funeral.

Not everyone wants the lasting image of the person they know, to be in a casket. A lot of folks pay their respects differently. Not everyone handles funerals well. I don't like seeing people I care about hurt. I don't like being in that environment.
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People I love and really close to I don't walk up to see them in the casket. That shit is too much for me. I just take my seat and zone out during the service.
 
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I go for the fam but definitely dont feel obligated. I just hate when the pastor gotta get in their bag and let you know "I ain't gonna hold yall too much longer" for the third time an hour later
 
If they were apart of your life and there was a good relationship as friends/family, I don’t see why last respects can’t be displayed by attending a funeral. It also lets their fam know you had support & respect for their deceased loved one and makes them feel good. It’s a great display of comfort for them.

But at the same time I don’t think it shows disrespect.
 
VIBE said:
If they were apart of your life and there was a good relationship as friends/family, I don’t see why last respects can’t be displayed by attending a funeral. It also lets their fam know you had support & respect for their deceased loved one and makes them feel good. It’s a great display of comfort for them.

But at the same time I don’t think it shows disrespect.
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Some people just hate seeing dead bodies and I can’t fault them
 
Rubato said:
Some people just hate seeing dead bodies and I can’t fault them
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I understand all that

I go to every funeral of a friend or fam member. Just feel like its only right to see em one last time. Had to be difficult for the fam to go thru the motions of putting it all together. The least i can do is offer my presence.

My gf COMPLETELY different tho. Missed her 1st cousin n step father funeral. I personally was close to the step father n was ready to go without her but she didnt want me to. Was kinda sad i missed the shit. I didnt make a big deal out of it tho bc she explained her feelings and it wasnt my place.

I cant ever miss nobody else funeral close to me tho. Idc if im standing up there with snot running down my clothes i gotta pay my respect.
 
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