Mental health check!

That 3rd toxic trend got ppl by the balls man. A lot of ppl will do absurd things for that external validation. Same ppl can’t comprehend to look for that shit within. Sad when I see grown ass ppl being obsessed with having their thoughts and feelings validated or they feel like their nothing at all
 
Iceberg_Taylor said:
That 3rd toxic trend got ppl by the balls man. A lot of ppl will do absurd things for that external validation. Same ppl can’t comprehend to look for that shit within. Sad when I see grown ass ppl being obsessed with having their thoughts and feelings validated or they feel like their nothing at all
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It's really sad too. All these adults that can't move through life with constant validation.
 
I HATE that they put the text in the description and didn't just put the shit in the video itself...

... and FB blocked linking it so...



1. He spends most of his time alone, even when opportunities to connect arise, because it’s easier to just be alone than be reminded of the loneliness thats reflected back to him when with people.
2. Spending hours on social media, gaming, or mindlessly scrolling may be an attempt to fill the void of human connection..
3. From a loss of self worth he abandons taking care of himself, eating right or exercising.
4. The touch of a woman is the most soothing thing for his nervous system so he finds himself craving & needing a partner getting himself into situationships just to feel good for a while..
5. He gets into a relationship and becomes uninspired in his work as he makes her his #1 priority in life
6. He may throw himself into work, projects, or activities to distract himself from feelings of loneliness.
7. Escapism through binge-watching Netflix, YT, movies or P*rn..
8. He feels as though people don’t really care about him so he doesn’t try to maintain friendships as it’s too painful.
9. He becomes easily overwhelmed, frustrated & moody from being mentally exhausted, making even simple tasks feel overwhelming.
10. He might compensate for emotional voids by buying expensive items, focusing on his career, or seeking validation through achievements.
 
Supposed to do video therapy next week. Been going to these mandated family therapy sessions too but to me it does not seem effective at all. Bm finally decided to attend one last week and used it to just talk shit about me. I snap back and my daughter gets rude with me and I’m confused cuz wtf.

I’m so my own therapy for me and do virtual with them because the shit raggedy.
 
SeaSnake said:
Supposed to do video therapy next week. Been going to these mandated family therapy sessions too but to me it does not seem effective at all. Bm finally decided to attend one last week and used it to just talk shit about me. I snap back and my daughter gets rude with me and I’m confused cuz wtf.

I’m so my own therapy for me and do virtual with them because the shit raggedy.
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Individual therapy is the move. Gotta get the help with your own issues first before being able to work on shit as a group.
 
SeaSnake said:
Supposed to do video therapy next week. Been going to these mandated family therapy sessions too but to me it does not seem effective at all. Bm finally decided to attend one last week and used it to just talk shit about me. I snap back and my daughter gets rude with me and I’m confused cuz wtf.

I’m so my own therapy for me and do virtual with them because the shit raggedy.
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Bro don’t snap back, especially in front of your kid.
Kids will often side with the mom. Don’t make it easy for either of them.
Allow her to talk shit.
You explain how it’s not helpful to the development of your child or the co parenting relationship.

Falling into any trap makes the overall situation look unstable.
 
SeaSnake said:
Supposed to do video therapy next week. Been going to these mandated family therapy sessions too but to me it does not seem effective at all. Bm finally decided to attend one last week and used it to just talk shit about me. I snap back and my daughter gets rude with me and I’m confused cuz wtf.

I’m so my own therapy for me and do virtual with them because the shit raggedy.
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Speaking from the perspective of a child whose parents have animosity with one another you snapping on mom doesn't help. She is very much bonded to her mother and even if mom is dead wrong the natural reaction is get into defense mode and protect her. Not to say that you can't speak your mind, but you gotta share your feelings without the snapping.

Mom may also be pushing your buttons on purpose to cause further alienation between you and your little one...
 
I’m a piece of garbage at times, I would’ve definitely snapped on the mom. 100% wrong to do. Not supposed to happen. An awful thing for me to say. I know this, with that being said? I am most definitely snapping on the mom, and don’t make me raise up cause I’ll snap on the kids too.


Simply because as adults, we have our talking points that you don’t know nothing about. It’s why they told us as children decades ago, to stay in a child’s place. If you do not know what’s going on, it ain’t on you to talk about it and even if you do short of me doing the depraved stuff that y’all know what I’m talking about, it ain’t on you to speak on my relationship with the mother of my child.
 
RandomNegro said:
I’m a piece of garbage at times, I would’ve definitely snapped on the mom. 100% wrong to do. Not supposed to happen. An awful thing for me to say. I know this, with that being said? I am most definitely snapping on the mom, and don’t make me raise up cause I’ll snap on the kids too.


Simply because as adults, we have our talking points that you don’t know nothing about. It’s why they told us as children decades ago, to stay in a child’s place. If you do not know what’s going on, it ain’t on you to talk about it and even if you do short of me doing the depraved stuff that y’all know what I’m talking about, it ain’t on you to speak on my relationship with the mother of my child.
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Even though this the knee jerk reaction, he has to be smarter. This is mandated family therapy and I'm assuming court ordered, so snapping out isn't a good example for his child, but also isn't a good look in the eyes of the court. Based on what Czar has shared, mama is toxic as fuck and the last thing that baby needs is to be left in the hands of a person who will just inflict more trauma on her.
 
SeaSnake said:
Supposed to do video therapy next week. Been going to these mandated family therapy sessions too but to me it does not seem effective at all. Bm finally decided to attend one last week and used it to just talk shit about me. I snap back and my daughter gets rude with me and I’m confused cuz wtf.

I’m so my own therapy for me and do virtual with them because the shit raggedy.
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People can only meet you as far as they have met themselves .

If you decide to really lock in and focus and gain from your individual therapy. It’s only gonna make you relationship with her worse cause it’s gonna make you more aware of what shes choosing not to do.

And, the fact that yall at therapy for her to learn is just gonna piss you off cause at points she’s gonna be told what she’s doing wrong and still do it. So now you can’t even give her bail that she don’t know what she’s doing.

Just do your own until you can experience your own pain and disappointment without wearing it. You gotta let them do them. You ain’t no one’s savior bro, save yourself.

The way you doing it, is like, barely knowing how to swim and jumping in the water trying to save someone else.

You know they say when you try to save someone who can’t swim, they fuck around try to kill you saving themselves.

Get yourself right, prioritize yourself. Your youngin gonna understand one day
 
So I’ve been in therapy myself still worried about my daughter everyday. My therapist says DMDD is a way to label kids bi polar without saying it. Me her mom my mom and other grandma all feel she might need to be in a facility so we can figure out exactly what she needs.
 
always get multiple opinions.

Me and a lot of parents realized, it seems black kids always need to have a label that may or may not need prescription medicines.

Not saying this is the case but be careful. She could just be super intelligent and bored or dealing with seeing her parents at odds.
 
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