FEATURED Marriage vs Children Out of Wedlock
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So in essence it’s different because you don’t have to take care of the kids if you don’t want to?
Rubato
it only matters to us
Yes there are people out here with 5+ kids who have never so much as pretended to make a commitment
Getting married is a literal commitment
Plenty people beg to differ about the commitment of marriage
Rubato
it only matters to us
It was a commitment on the day of the wedding no matter how you slice it
You’re talking about broken commitments
Deadbeat is a broken commitment too
The Lonious Monk
Celestial Souljah
Yep, you have kids, that's a biological commitment if nothing else. You created them. If you choose to be a deadbeat, you're walking away from that commitment.
Rubato
it only matters to us
Nope
If you intended to stop your car at the red light, but hit your brakes too late and slid into the intersection hitting a pedestrian, you are legally liable for what you did but not as a result of a commitment.
The Lonious Monk
Celestial Souljah
Ummm, that is a commitment. That's why you sign paperwork when you get a driver's license. You've committed yourself to following all laws pertaining to driving. That's why you're legally liable for whatever happens while you're driving.
Same goes for kids. You know the possibilities that come with having sex. When you choose to go through with it, you're committing yourself to the consequences, i.e., potential pregnancy. That's why you're liable for child support if a pregnancy occurs.
Rubato
it only matters to us
Strongly disagree but I get your side
BDP™️
Acknowledge Moi
Equal tier of commitment with different challenges for each particular commitment you make.
children out of wedlock still takes a high level of communication, cooperation and decision making to foster and maintain a healthy co-parenting relationship. Just as in marriage its necessary for each party to not only consider...but place others needs before their own whether its the child or the other parent.
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Children easily bigger commitment. A divorce may be messy, but it'll go a whole lot smoother if there's no kids between you. Shit gets drug out for life if there's kids involved.