Ladies, Just Ask the Fellas

IP360 said:
I'd tell her we'll get there eventually, but I just got divorced. I like the pace we're going at (dunno bout that 4 months of no sex tho), and how we've been gettin to know each other.
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I don't think she'd have a problem keeping the same pace, and I'm only guessing here, the issue at this point is that she has no idea what they're working toward or if they're even working toward anything. In fairness tho, I can't blame her for not letting him smash considering their relationship. Too many unknowns for you to be in my sugar walls unless I'm just horny and wanna fuck. She really likes dude tho.
 
Lea Snow said:
I don't think she'd have a problem keeping the same pace, and I'm only guessing here, the issue at this point is that she has no idea what they're working toward or if they're even working toward anything. In fairness tho, I can't blame her for not letting him smash considering their relationship. Too many unknowns for you to be in my sugar walls unless I'm just horny and wanna fuck. She really likes dude tho.
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Doesn't hurt to ask...but don't press. But sometimes it's good to just let things fall into place on it's own. If things have been going great so far, why mess wit it?

Especially if I know they just got a divorce, I'm definitely not tryin to rock that boat, or put any pressure. If the divorce was bad, then some folks need that time to "recover" mentally.

Now obvious ole boy has no problem moving on, b/c they've been seeing each other for this long. But mentally, he's probably not there yet as far as committing. Again, she can ask just to see where his head is. But he shouldn't press the issue. Enjoy how things are going.
 
Lea Snow said:
Fellas, I need a mans perspective to help a friend out.

You're recently divorced and getting to know a young lady who is over 35 and never been married with no kids. You've been dating for about 4 months, spending a fair amount of time together, no sex yet but a few make out sessions, no talk of exclusivity yet, but you two have a great vibe and are seemingly into each other. How would you feel about her asking where the relationship is going? Not like an ultimatum or pressuring you into anything, just asking where your head is so she can move accordingly.
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i see no problem with asking.
at that age......aint got time to be wasting.
if ya just gonna screw...cool...it would be nice to know. but cant be mad when the lady moves accordingly and come over all sore and crotch all stretched out. she aint ya girl so ya cant be mad.

but anyway...i see no problem with asking....just dont ask after sex....thats when we tend to think its a setrup.

at least i do
 
DOS_patos said:
i see no problem with asking.
at that age......aint got time to be wasting.
if ya just gonna screw...cool...it would be nice to know. but cant be mad when the lady moves accordingly and come over all sore and crotch all stretched out. she aint ya girl so ya cant be mad.

but anyway...i see no problem with asking....just dont ask after sex....thats when we tend to think its a setrup.

at least i do
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Thank you. This is how I felt about it but I'm a girl so I needed a man's opinion.
 
4 months of dating is def a good time to ask for clarity in a relationship. especially at 35; she should be comfortable with that
 
Wait hol'up...define "making out" @Lea Snow.

Did ya homegirl specifically say what kinda "makin out" they did? I mean if he suckin on her titties, and she's stroking his thang...pause...they minus wellg'on head and get it in.

Gotta commend them for their willpower tho.
 
IP360 said:
Wait hol'up...define "making out" @Lea Snow.

Did ya homegirl specifically say what kinda "makin out" they did? I mean if he suckin on her titties, and she's stroking his thang...pause...they minus wellg'on head and get it in.

Gotta commend them for their willpower tho.
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Lmao...I think he did but I don’t think she’s done any stroking but I can’t be sure. We hadn’t gone into that much detail.
 
Lea Snow said:
Fellas, I need a mans perspective to help a friend out.

You're recently divorced and getting to know a young lady who is over 35 and never been married with no kids. You've been dating for about 4 months, spending a fair amount of time together, no sex yet but a few make out sessions, no talk of exclusivity yet, but you two have a great vibe and are seemingly into each other. How would you feel about her asking where the relationship is going? Not like an ultimatum or pressuring you into anything, just asking where your head is so she can move accordingly.
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I'll ask what u asked, where do these niggaz exist? 3 weeks if that scenario and I'd feel like shes playing me.
 
Do y'all tell every woman you've been with that she's your best sexual experience just to keep her around or are you honest if there's room for improvement?
 
Whis Khalifa said:
Do y'all tell every woman you've been with that she's your best sexual experience just to keep her around or are you honest if there's room for improvement?
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Honest.

There's all types of parameters that come with the tho and it's usually a question best not asked.
 
Whyyyyyyyy do grown ass men just want to text "gm beautiful", "wyd", or "what are you plans for the day" when they know you work Mon-Fri and that's it???????

I hate dating
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Tayboo said:
Whyyyyyyyy do grown ass men just want to text "gm beautiful", "wyd", or "what are you plans for the day" when they know you work Mon-Fri and that's it???????

I hate dating
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we all do shit while we work

im typing this and listening to a big krit interview

some trying to break the ice, some literally would like to know what you're doing, some are just trying to be on your radar

most of the time we aint gone break into no unwarranted deep convo shit......just from experience a lot of ya'll dont like that shit and would rather small talk

do you respond and they dont have anything else to say?

do you ever text them first in the morning?
 
1/2 said:
we all do shit while we work

im typing this and listening to a big krit interview

some trying to break the ice, some literally would like to know what you're doing, some are just trying to be on your radar

most of the time we aint gone break into no unwarranted deep convo shit......just from experience a lot of ya'll dont like that shit and would rather small talk

do you respond and they dont have anything else to say?

do you ever text them first in the morning?
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Yeah I respond and I've sent messages first, but literally that's all dude has ever text me. At first I thought maybe he just wasn't into texting so I called a couple times and the convo was dry too.
 
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