Ladies, Just Ask the Fellas

Kandy said:
What’s too far?
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Duwop said:
when i gotta look at you in the eye and say..

"yo...chill"

if i can't connect with u like that.. then we can't do us......
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Basically. Once I hit this look...

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...that's your cue to throw that shit in reverse.
 
Kandy said:
Men, do you have a problem with a woman that’s outspoken, raw and direct?

I find this being the reason why I’m disliked many times but I also see this as a reason why people do like me.
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Depends.

As long as you're not tryin to show out in public doin that...or in front of my family...then it doesn't bother me. Be respectful about it, just like I would wit you.
 
Kandy said:
Men, do you have a problem with a woman that’s outspoken, raw and direct?

I find this being the reason why I’m disliked many times but I also see this as a reason why people do like me.
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There's a difference between outspoken and combative.

Outspoken is what I prefer, of course it's still about love respect and tact. I hate when a woman won't say what's on her mind or beat around the bush. But again, there's a way to speak your mind while being respectful to the other person. Just being loud and direct ain't it.

Combative is some other shit. Some women gotta get loud and make a comment about every little thing. Shits annoying as all hell and will mos def make me Infinity snap a chick
 
Kandy said:
Men, do you have a problem with a woman that’s outspoken, raw and direct?

I find this being the reason why I’m disliked many times but I also see this as a reason why people do like me.
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Most people like this don't know when to shut it off. Black and white women are particularly bad for this. There's a time and a place for everything, there a way to approach a situation that doesn't exacerbate an issue. If you're constantly "outspoken", you're likely creating problems where a resolution could have been reached with tact.
 
The Mad Titan said:
There's a difference between outspoken and combative.

Outspoken is what I prefer, of course it's still about love respect and tact. I hate when a woman won't say what's on her mind or beat around the bush. But again, there's a way to speak your mind while being respectful to the other person. Just being loud and direct ain't it.

Combative is some other shit. Some women gotta get loud and make a comment about every little thing. Shits annoying as all hell and will mos def make me Infinity snap a chick
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Well said
 
The Mad Titan said:
There's a difference between outspoken and combative.

Outspoken is what I prefer, of course it's still about love respect and tact. I hate when a woman won't say what's on her mind or beat around the bush. But again, there's a way to speak your mind while being respectful to the other person. Just being loud and direct ain't it.

Combative is some other shit. Some women gotta get loud and make a comment about every little thing. Shits annoying as all hell and will mos def make me Infinity snap a chick
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A lot of chicks get being combative/being a bitch mixed up with "being a strong woman" too.
 
Fellas, I need a mans perspective to help a friend out.

You're recently divorced and getting to know a young lady who is over 35 and never been married with no kids. You've been dating for about 4 months, spending a fair amount of time together, no sex yet but a few make out sessions, no talk of exclusivity yet, but you two have a great vibe and are seemingly into each other. How would you feel about her asking where the relationship is going? Not like an ultimatum or pressuring you into anything, just asking where your head is so she can move accordingly.
 
Lea Snow said:
Fellas, I need a mans perspective to help a friend out.

You're recently divorced and getting to know a young lady who is over 35 and never been married with no kids. You've been dating for about 4 months, spending a fair amount of time together, no sex yet but a few make out sessions, no talk of exclusivity yet, but you two have a great vibe and are seemingly into each other. How would you feel about her asking where the relationship is going? Not like an ultimatum or pressuring you into anything, just asking where your head is so she can move accordingly.
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I’m fine with it. Seems like a reasonable question considering how much time were spending together. Why no sex in 4 mos though?
 
ehh

I guess he should assume she's looking for the lock down with those stats

at the same time she should know he just got out of that.......its been 4 months and he still hasnt even tasted his freedom yet, literally and figuratively

I'd feel kinda confused even tho I understand both sides....she can say no pressure but thats 5 star hotel water pressure!! lol

depending on how his marriage went that nigga might run, no cap
 
Southern VA said:
I’m fine with it. Seems like a reasonable question considering how much time were spending together. Why no sex in 4 mos though?
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LMAO...I asked her the same thing. She told me she really likes him and wants to take her time and do it right. I don't get it myself but I always tell people to follow their instincts.
 
1/2 said:
ehh

I guess he should assume she's looking for the lock down with those stats

at the same time she should know he just got out of that.......its been 4 months and he still hasnt even tasted his freedom yet, literally and figuratively

I'd feel kinda confused even tho I understand both sides....she can say no pressure but thats 5 star hotel water pressure!! lol

depending on how his marriage went that nigga might run, no cap
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I said the same and if I'm understanding her right, she doesn't even know why they got the divorce which is an important detail to me. I'm shy, but there are certain things I don't play about: my time and my feelings. Me personally, I'd just ask.
 
She's being unreasonable and if he aint pressed her it's because he ain't ready for nothing serious and being mature about not sleeping with

And she's not as into him as she believes if she ain't tossed him the draws

All in all, she writing the narrative she gonna use when they stop pussy footing around
 
Lea Snow said:
LMAO...I asked her the same thing. She told me she really likes him and wants to take her time and do it right. I don't get it myself but I always tell people to follow their instincts.
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Hmmm..maybe she likes the time they spend together but ain’t really feeling him like that. Maybe she’s asking cuz she really just wants something casual.
 
i wouldnt be offended b/c at some point, as a man, you just gotta start keeping it real

thats not to say you gotta be an ass about it, but just be honest

She either gonna respect you and wanna keep fucking with you, or keep it moving, which is her choice
 
Lea Snow said:
Fellas, I need a mans perspective to help a friend out.

You're recently divorced and getting to know a young lady who is over 35 and never been married with no kids. You've been dating for about 4 months, spending a fair amount of time together, no sex yet but a few make out sessions, no talk of exclusivity yet, but you two have a great vibe and are seemingly into each other. How would you feel about her asking where the relationship is going? Not like an ultimatum or pressuring you into anything, just asking where your head is so she can move accordingly.
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I'd tell her we'll get there eventually, but I just got divorced. I like the pace we're going at (dunno bout that 4 months of no sex tho), and how we've been gettin to know each other.
 
Southern VA said:
Hmmm..maybe she likes the time they spend together but ain’t really feeling him like that. Maybe she’s asking cuz she really just wants something casual.
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Nah, she's definitely into him. I mean she isn't picking out a wedding dress, but she really likes him.
 
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