Boy you know you lyingYou should put out your own line of handcuffs b
Call it ChiClamps or sumn like that
But that is a tuff title tho
Boy you know you lyingYou should put out your own line of handcuffs b
Call it ChiClamps or sumn like that
Wanting all her happiness to only originate from me and anything outside of me I get jealous over.OK, that makes sense.
What is possessive behavior to you?
My girl and I are polar opposites in this department. I’m probably a 1-3 if that. Her on the other hand….she’s a 10+, and that can be really difficult to deal with at times.
How do you handle that?
I felt this shit in my soulI'm not going to lie....it can be difficult and frustrating to deal with at times. It requires a lot of patience and understanding + I'm not really a pushover guy so she knows when to chill. To say she has baggage and abandonment issues (which I feel plays a major part in her possessiveness) is an understatement, but she really is a good, caring person at heart. I handle her possessive behavior by setting boundaries, shutting certain shit down immediately, and letting her know I’m not entertaining or engaging in her insecurities. Plus I'm a real chill, relaxed person. There's not a lot that bothers me as long as certain lines aren't crossed or I'm not put in a situation that would compromise my morals/principles.
I'm not going to lie....it can be difficult and frustrating to deal with at times. It requires a lot of patience and understanding + I'm not really a pushover guy so she knows when to chill. To say she has baggage and abandonment issues (which I feel plays a major part in her possessiveness) is an understatement, but she really is a good, caring person at heart. I handle her possessive behavior by setting boundaries, shutting certain shit down immediately, and letting her know I’m not entertaining or engaging in her insecurities. Plus I'm a real chill, relaxed person. There's not a lot that bothers me as long as certain lines aren't crossed or I'm not put in a situation that would compromise my morals/principles.
She blames me for some of it because, as she puts it..."I turned her out"...lol. There's been multiple times in the past where when we get done doing what we do, she'll ask me "how many other girls have I done that to or done that with?" and she'll literally get pissed off imagining me making some other girl feel the way I make her feel. Keep in mind we've been together 14 years and have 2 kids together. Shorty even got into a bad argument w/ her best friend who she's known since grade school because she came to visit one time and made a comment about how lucky she was to have a man like me. I had never met this woman before in my life or even knew what happened after the visit until I asked her when the last time she talked to her homegirl....smh. I let her know she might've been whiling for how she responded to that situation, but eh...I don't know their real history & her personal friend relationships aren't my problem.....and better not be made to be my problem. Just last week my boss was in town for a tech convention so I went to have dinner w/ him and chop it up. I was gone for an hour and a half. When I got back home, you would've thought I had been gone for a week. She gets anxious when I leave the house that something will happen to me or she'll lose me to some tragic accident. I be like "man if you don't stop putting that negative energy out into the universe"..smh. She's gotten a lot better over time, but it's definitely still "a thing" that she's dealing with. At this point in our relationship, my response is "FOH w/ /that crazy shit", and I keep it moving.
Man....I got stories for days on that topic...lol.