Does your step child get a room in your house?

[DOS_patos]

Depends on how the custody situation is arranged

Why does that matter?

 

[Swabbie]

So y'all would be cool with your wife telling you your kid can't have a room in what is now your house because of guest?

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I can't see myself not having primary custody so you are going to have to excuse me here. Anyway, the question was about our significant other's child, or rather our stepchild if we were married.

 

[Elzo69Renaissance]

Why can’t the kid share w his sibling?

 

[DOS_patos]

I can't see myself not having primary custody so you are going to have to excuse me here. Anyway, the question was about our significant other's child, or rather our stepchild if we were married.

So you ok with your step child being treated like a step child

Y’all niggas going in elderly care at the first cough

 

[DOS_patos]

Why can’t the kid share w his sibling?

You the homie and respectfully

Foh

 

[Tayboo]

So you ok with your step child being treated like a step child

Y’all niggas going in elderly care at the first cough

Exactly. How do you marry someone knowing they have a minor child and not be prepared to treat that child as your own?

 

[Elzo69Renaissance]

You the homie and respectfully

Foh

Depending on their age it d be good for them

To build camaraderie and fellowship

Own room could lead to one of the kid being isolated

 

[Swabbie]

So you ok with your step child being treated like a step child

Y’all niggas going in elderly care at the first cough

It's not about treating them like a stepchild, it just doesn't make sense to me to give an infrequent visitor a room like that. My residence isn't their primary residence.

Exactly. How do you marry someone knowing they have a minor child and not be prepared to treat that child as your own?

I could treat that child as my own for sure (if I had the world's most massive lapse in judgement and got married) but this isn't about them being a stepchild, it's about them not actually being a permanent resident in my house. If they lived there full time and went off and visited their other parent on the weekends, then they'd have a room to themselves.

 

[DOS_patos]

Exactly. How do you marry someone knowing they have a minor child and not be prepared to treat that child as your own?

These dudes be like “ ain’t my kid”

 

[DOS_patos]

Depending on their age it d be good for them

To build camaraderie and fellowship

Own room could lead to one of the kid being isolated

That’s why once the family is blended…

Wait

Matter of fact , this should be talked about before they engagement

 

[Dwayne]

The guest room becomes their room. No questions.

And when the child is not there and I have a guest they can go in his room.


Pretty simple solution IMO

 

[Swabbie]

The guest room becomes their room. No questions.

And when the child is not there and I have a guest they can go in his room.


Pretty simple solution IMO

I couldn't see myself letting somebody in to my child's room at that point. If it's their room, it's their room. I know how defensive I was of my space when I was a child and my folks largely respected that and I would want to give the same to my all my children.

 

[Dwayne]

I couldn't see myself letting somebody in to my child's room at that point. If it's their room, it's their room. I know how defensive I was of my space when I was a child and my folks largely respected that and I would want to give the same to my all my children.

I understand

We come from a big family so folks staying in our rooms was nothing to us.

Most of family still does things like this because family only comes in every so often.

 

[Elzo69Renaissance]

That’s why once the family is blended…

Wait

Matter of fact , this should be talked about before they engagement

It can never be blended cuz one member is a temporary addition

 

[DOS_patos]

It can never be blended cuz one member is a temporary addition

I hear you but that’s not a good way of seeing it.

It will show in other areas subconsciously

 

[Elzo69Renaissance]

I hear you but that’s not a good way of seeing it.

It will show in other areas subconsciously

U want the kids to bond independently of the family dynamics

Put them in the same room and let them be kids

 

[DOS_patos]

U want the kids to bond independently of the family dynamics

Put them in the same room and let them be kids

True but the parents must make the atmosphere welcoming

 

[Loquacious]

Never shared a room with a sibling.

 

[Elzo69Renaissance]

True but the parents must make the atmosphere welcoming

The dynamics between the parents and kids is always different

The interaction between the kids tell the tale

 

[Bender Rodriguez]

So y'all would be cool with your wife telling you your kid can't have a room in what is now your house because of guest?

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this sounds like you moving into HER house....