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Do we say thank you to the men in our lives enough?

The Lonious Monk said:
Let's be real, a step-dad should be praised even quicker than a biological dad. I'd do anything for my kids because they are mine. That's just natural. It takes a special dude to develop that kinda bond with some other nigga's kids. It's disrespectful as hell to not acknowledge that. Don't let niggas get like lions. When they trying to get with a female that got kids, the first thing they do is get rid of the kids. lol
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No bullshit.
I heard this like 5times this week.
I'm starting to wonder.
 
deadeye said:
Ironically, you're actually making his point.


From what's been disclosed about Zion's stepdad, he doesn't come across as a nigga who was just fucking Zion's mother.


It seems as if he played a crucial role in Zion's development.


Maybe it wasn't calculated, and he just got caught up in the moment........but it definitely speaks to his character, or lack thereof........for not even acknowledging the role his stepfather played in his life.
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I had no idea if that man helped him with his game or not.....the guy in the video sounded like he was doing all this out of the assumption that the man was a great father figure to him.

We all know thats not automatically the case just cuz you're standing here right now.

If dude was shooting with him in the gym and supporting his dream, sure, a thank you isnt much to ask for.

Youtube man basically said if you gone fuck with single moms, dont be putting no work in with the kid cuz he aint giving you no shine later.

I havent raised anyone else's child, so I cant say how they feel about that. But it sounds weak to me.

I had a step dad.....who is often left out of the conversation of upbringing. Because he wasnt "DAD". He was married to my mama and paid bills at the house I lived in. Outside of that I learned nothing from him, got no encouragement, no skills, no life lessons, no love. I appreciate the $20-$30 I used to BORROW here and there but I probably wouldnt have a shout out for him if I became a doctor.

is that wrong to ya'll?
 
The Mad Titan said:
We dont and maybe never will. That mother child bond is some next level shit that cant be fucked with. Ive seen cases of straight brainwashing.

I think what happens is a lotta times a good step dad is under recognized because despite all the good he may do/have done, there is a void left from bio dad that overshadows it.

Its almost like the youbg men are praising their moms(sometimes not rightfully so) and hurting over the lack of their bio dad at the same time. In those situations its easy for step dad to get lost in the mix.

No matter how great a step parent may be, its human instict to long for the affection of the ppl who brought you into this world.
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I actually seen my daughter give her mother credit for shit my wife did.
I checked that shit early. I might have been to heavy with it but you ain't gonna disrespect the person helping me raise you.
 
DOS_patos said:
Damn.
Maybe some of them don't know how to take love in a certain way.
Someone once told me that alot of young boys are not praised....so when they are it's kinda a weird feeling to them. They love it but don't get it enough. I wonder if that's apart of it too.
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no they just old and selfish and only see the world from their eyes,

wisdom doesn't come from age, it comes from understanding, and if these men never understood shit in their youth, and still don't understand certain shit in their golden years, i can't do nuffin for them.

i got uncles who still don't understand that we live in a different economy from when we grew up, a different world with different challenges, and still look down on our generation...

i often get into arguments with these niggaz, cuz i work 12 times harder than they did at my age, but because of the way the world was set up, they have more to show from it financially, but i'm winning in a lot more categories....

firstly, none of them niggaz respected their marriages the way i did, or put the time into parenting and being good husbands the way i did, none of them really did any kinda school or training for their work, they just lucked up and fell into jobs that could support their whole families from the jump and really don't know shit about hard work...

their mindset is in an outdated system... the generational gap is ridiculous....i try to be nice and cool and civil, but shit get on my nerves
 
1/2 said:
I had no idea if that man helped him with his game or not.....the guy in the video sounded like he was doing all this out of the assumption that the man was a great father figure to him.

We all know thats not automatically the case just cuz you're standing here right now.

If dude was shooting with him in the gym and supporting his dream, sure, a thank you isnt much to ask for.

Youtube man basically said if you gone fuck with single moms, dont be putting no work in with the kid cuz he aint giving you no shine later.

I havent raised anyone else's child, so I cant say how they feel about that. But it sounds weak to me.

I had a step dad.....who is often left out of the conversation of upbringing. Because he wasnt "DAD". He was married to my mama and paid bills at the house I lived in. Outside of that I learned nothing from him, got no encouragement, no skills, no life lessons, no love. I appreciate the $20-$30 I used to BORROW here and there but I probably wouldnt have a shout out for him if I became a doctor.

is that wrong to ya'll?
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That's a bit different.
Dude was training him since a buck.
He even gives him props in the one time-stamped video.
Shit, dude coached his AAU team and was holding his sleeping lil brother while doing it.

You saying dude did nothing for you. Give him a shout for what?
But if you a doctor and he helped you study, drive you to school , paid your tuition and practice on him. He deserves a simple thank you.

But like i said....I think it was youth and the moment. Even tho that's the moment he will never have again.....he was just caught up and alot may been on his mind.
 
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DOS_patos said:
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just watched this one......yea, i knew none of this....but i mean he clearly gives him much credit in this interview and im sure in others

he coulda shouted him out on draft night, I'll give him that

it didnt seem like anything intentional

youtube rager is still a dweeb
 
Talk to my dad daily if I needed to publicly thank him wouldnā€™t be a problem. My daughter mom is married and her and her husband just had a baby. My daughter respects him and says step dad or something like it he donā€™t trip itā€™s not no type of beef. If she get famous she will probably thank all three of us and my parents. Just gotta be there to count
 
deadeye said:
Ironically, you're actually making his point.


From what's been disclosed about Zion's stepdad, he doesn't come across as a nigga who was just fucking Zion's mother.


It seems as if he played a crucial role in Zion's development.


Maybe it wasn't calculated, and he just got caught up in the moment........but it definitely speaks to his character, or lack thereof........for not even acknowledging the role his stepfather played in his life.
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Most dads I think in our community will tell you thank your mom for such and such. I feel like he just forgot older dudes donā€™t care about accolades Iā€™m sure Zion is gonna reward everybody
 
I think they care about accolades more than you think.

We are so used to getting over looked and shit on that it's like we ask for it now.

We play to win trophies and rings for people who don't matter. We bust our asses at work for promotions. But we can't want our jobs as man recognized by those we love or who says they love us?

What's really the problem here?
 
The Lonious Monk said:
Let's be real, a step-dad should be praised even quicker than a biological dad. I'd do anything for my kids because they are mine. That's just natural. It takes a special dude to develop that kinda bond with some other nigga's kids. It's disrespectful as hell to not acknowledge that. Don't let niggas get like lions. When they trying to get with a female that got kids, the first thing they do is get rid of the kids. lol
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Is it really that hard to develop a bond with a kid you see everyday that lives in the same house as you?
 
1/2 said:
I had no idea if that man helped him with his game or not.....the guy in the video sounded like he was doing all this out of the assumption that the man was a great father figure to him.

We all know thats not automatically the case just cuz you're standing here right now.

If dude was shooting with him in the gym and supporting his dream, sure, a thank you isnt much to ask for.

Youtube man basically said if you gone fuck with single moms, dont be putting no work in with the kid cuz he aint giving you no shine later.

I havent raised anyone else's child, so I cant say how they feel about that. But it sounds weak to me.

I had a step dad.....who is often left out of the conversation of upbringing. Because he wasnt "DAD". He was married to my mama and paid bills at the house I lived in. Outside of that I learned nothing from him, got no encouragement, no skills, no life lessons, no love. I appreciate the $20-$30 I used to BORROW here and there but I probably wouldnt have a shout out for him if I became a doctor.

is that wrong to ya'll?
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Thatā€™s not wrong If he ainā€™t try to build a bond thatā€™s on him
 
DOS_patos said:
I think they care about accolades more than you think.

We are so used to getting over looked and shit on that it's like we ask for it now.

We play to win trophies and rings for people who don't matter. We bust our asses at work for promotions. But we can't want our jobs as man recognized by those we love or who says they love us?

What's really the problem here?
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Thing is tho the men who are there get thank you a all the time people tell us we good dads and all that sometimes we get told that for doing regular shit. I thought old heads said it was entitlement to expect a pat on the back for shit you supposed to do lol
 
Hellczar said:
Thing is tho the men who are there get thank you a all the time people tell us we good dads and all that sometimes we get told that for doing regular shit. I thought old heads said it was entitlement to expect a pat on the back for shit you supposed to do lol
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If you're referring to me and implying I'm an oldhead who would say that....nope.
What should be done and what's done isn't the same in our environment and community.
The bad far outwieght the good and the bad is remembered more than the good.

Many mother will kick the dad ain't shit more than "you have a great dad and should be thankful".

Can we keep it honest.
 
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