the thing i noticed a lot with baby momma/baby daddy dynamics is that both parties dont look at each other as family. once we have a kid youre now my family and just like everyone else in my family line, i should respect you and do whatever is necessary to create a space absent of drama, stress and trauma
i wouldnt kick any of my family members out on the street in the wee hours of the morning. (unless they did something out of pocket) so im not kicking the father of my kids out.
we are family.
even if the relationship dies, you still my family.
i dont get it. the lack of respect for the people you CHOSE to lay down with and bring a baby into this world with is so wild to me.
i dont have to like your Black ass in order to respect you and step up to make sure our babies are straight. like what?
This is very true. Another thing I've noticed is that when these disputes break off people quickly will refer to the child as "my/mine" instead of "ours". It may seem subtle but that word choice is often indicative of how the parent/s view the others role.