I been said on here and the IC that I can't even be cool with a nigga who refuses to take care of his children. I hate all the 'You're not a man if...' bullshit. But that is the only unwavering stipulation I have: You're not a man if you refuse to take care of your children.
Of course, I'd talk to the nigga and try to guide him to get it together. Beyond that? Naw, we can't just be hanging out while your seed is out there starving.