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At What Age Do You Stop Respecting Your Elders?

Sam Crooke said:
Some... Most of these old folks talk nonsense anyways. Sometimes you have to look at old folks like the crazy. I gotta deal with all races and genders... and most of the people just talk to be talking. On some back in my day shit... well your day is over with and we living in the now.

When I started paying bills, would have to be mine. You might meet some who drop gems... sometimes, rarely
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Never. But there is a difference between an elder and an old fucker.
 
Nobody deserves respect just based on age. Respct is earned, not given. I'll respect those that are respectable on their own accomplishments, merits and attitudes towards things. If you're an old foolish racist moron you get nothing just because you've got decades on me. Age doesn't equate to intelligence or good lessons from past experience, you can be 60 years old and still dumb as a post and ignorant as shit.
 
Nowadays, my aunt ain't got no filter. Shyt be the funniest thing ever.

Straight up told one of our cousin's son when he was younger that he was ugly. Yall...I damn near lost it. Lol!!!

For a lot of elders...they're set in their ways. Part of it is generational.
 
NEVER.

Lack of respect and reverence for elders is a big problem in our culture...


But to keep it funky the 70s started it when heroine hit us hard...the crack right after that in 80s...shit devastated what made us strong as a people...
 
Sam Crooke said:
Well that went left... how do drugs factor in to this?
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Thats when drugs fucked up our family structure...

In short...heroine and crack took a lot of elders away from us...or put them in a position of not respecting them because of the fucked up shit they did...

In certain areas...if the elders are users or pushers whats to respect? And if you do...most likely you headed down that same path creating a deadly cycle we still aint broke...instead of herione and crack...its pills now...shit crazy


But yeah...the 70s started the destruction of the black family/villiage mentality...
 
It's important to show respect to our elders at all ages and if an elder disrespects then it's ok respectfully check them.

But sometimes sftu is wise too. Are you really trying to have the last words towards an elder?

Also most elders speak their truth. They don't got time to be out here bullshittin with folks worried about your feelings.
 
Also if an elder/OG is giving advice I'ma listen to what they have to say and value their pov even if I don't take that advice.

Someone going out of their way to give you some wisdom/advice whether solicited or not is a blessing.

Having an "I don't need your advice I got this" mentality in any area of life is only hindering your own growth.
 
If someone doesn't need the advice given to them, I don't see how that would hinder their growth. All advice is not good advice, period. If someone is giving me advice I don't agree with I usually stop them.
 
It's a difference between respecting an elder's experience and respecting their wisdom. Some of these old heads only think at a surface level, but I'm supposed to heed them like they have life all figured out? I'm listening though, cuz they might drop a gem they didn't even mean to drop on some collateral tip lol.
 
Meeks said:
If someone doesn't need the advice given to them, I don't see how that would hinder their growth. All advice is not good advice, period. If someone is giving me advice I don't agree with I usually stop them.
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It's a hindrance if you're not willing to at least listen to what someone else has to say just because you don't agree with it. Only listening to ideas you agree with helps no one, not even yourself at the end of the day. Whether it's advice you agree with or not they deserve that respect and to stop an elder in mid sentence is very disrespectful.

There's such a thing as old fools but you can even learn a lot from a fool too if you choose to but it also takes a certain level of wisdom to even reach elder status in the first place.

And the way life goes you never really know what kind of advice you're gonna need to apply later on down the road. Whether you initially agreed with it or not.
 
NeighborhoodNomad said:
It's a hindrance if you're not willing to at least listen to what someone else has to say just because you don't agree with it. Only listening to ideas you agree with helps no one, not even yourself at the end of the day. Whether it's advice you agree with or not they deserve that respect and to stop an elder in mid sentence is very disrespectful.

There's such a thing as old fools but you can even learn a lot from a fool too if you choose to but it also takes a certain level of wisdom to even reach elder status in the first place.

And the way life goes you never really know what kind of advice you're gonna need to apply later on down the road. Whether you initially agreed with it or not.
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When I first commented I spoke mainly on parenting advice. I will stop anyone, elderly or not if the advice is the same bad outdated advice I continuously hear and refuse to listen to. I have no problem telling people "No disrespect but that is not something I can agree to do or take part in". They will feel some way anyway if they say all of what they wanted to say and I still don't agree with it from MY experience. This has not hindered my growth with anything including parenting.

My mother for example, is very respectful of the way I choose to parent my daughter and does not give unsolicited advice. However, I can go to her regardless of how different we parent when I know she has the answers I am looking for.

So yeah, I don't just go around going "Yeah, you can't tell me anything because I know it all" but with certain conversations, I know when to cut it short if need be. No I will not sit and listen to certain advice if I don't agree with it, period. That's my right and I've done it many times. Honestly, I've experienced much growth doing so believe it or not. I also know when to ignore someone. My grandfather is one of those people I will ignore because certain things he says I do not agree with and never will.
 
Meeks said:
When I first commented I spoke mainly on parenting advice. I will stop anyone, elderly or not if the advice is the same bad outdated advice I continuously hear and refuse to listen to. I have no problem telling people "No disrespect but that is not something I can agree to do or take part in". They will feel some way anyway if they say all of what they wanted to say and I still don't agree with it from MY experience. This has not hindered my growth with anything including parenting.

My mother for example, is very respectful of the way I choose to parent my daughter and does not give unsolicited advice. However, I can go to her regardless of how different we parent when I know she has the answers I am looking for.

So yeah, I don't just go around going "Yeah, you can't tell me anything because I know it all" but with certain conversations, I know when to cut it short if need be. No I will not sit and listen to certain advice if I don't agree with it, period. That's my right and I've done it many times. Honestly, I've experienced much growth doing so believe it or not. I also know when to ignore someone. My grandfather is one of those people I will ignore because certain things he says I do not agree with and never will.
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What's the point of seeking advice or going to someone who's only gonna give you the advice you're looking for? You may as well have just done what you were gonna do anyway before you got the advice. What's the point of saying I'm gonna go to this person because they tell me what I want to hear?
 
NeighborhoodNomad said:
What's the point of seeking advice or going to someone who's only gonna give you the advice you're looking for? You may as well have just done what you were gonna do anyway before you got the advice. What's the point of saying I'm gonna go to this person because they tell me what I want to hear?
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Somehow you seem to take what you want from everything I type.

If I ask someone for advice, it's OBVIOUSLY because I did not know what to do and I felt confident in the advice they would give for that situation. Which is a reason why I only go to certain people for certain things. My mother never tells me what I want to hear and always what I should hear. If she feels I am completely wrong, she will tell me I am wrong and tell me why I am wrong. My grandparents are the same way and if I am wrong then shit, i'm wrong.. I won't cry if I'm told I'm wrong and proven to be wrong.

I actually prefer people not tell me what I want to hear but what I need to hear. I'm smart enough to know when the advice given is advice I NEED to listen to and take heed to.
 
i dont feel the need to disrespect or not respect my elders.

the way they are is their truth.

who am i to look at them like they crazy?

do you know how their history could have fucked with their head?

do you understand the things they may have seen?

Do you understand what they may have lost.

case and point. I used to work with a lady who had a nice looking daughter. we used to talk all the time to the lady. the ladies daughter boyfriend worked with us. One day i came to work and overheard in the hallway "the perimeter is secure"...im not that versed in cop talk but i knew that wasnt good.

they rolled up in the job and locked up the boyfriend. the lady was talking with him and wondered what was going on...turns out....he killed her daughter and tried to hide the body but was telling the mom he hadnt heard from her. the lady lost her shit. a very sad site to see. but fast forward like 6 months later.....you can walk into work and see an once very nice person...now sitting on a table and rocking back and forth talking to herself.

just because you cant relate to what they are saying...you should at least entertain the fact they choose you to speak to.

the moment you start to ignore people you are not willing to attempt to learn something.

what i have learned and i struggle with myself...is ....that people tend to hide who they are because they dont want to be judged or seen a certain way. so they adopt a protective aura...if i sound stupid ...people wont ask me nothing. if i act silly, people wont take me so seriously.

the human psyche is a very interesting thing.

dont be so fast to judge someone....you might learn something or might make a friend or might help someone in need.
 
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