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Has a woman ever told you she wants you to put a ring on it?

Tayboo said:
SO y'all been together 8 years, have merged lives and own a home together...she wants to get married and you have nothing against marriage itself. The lone reason you're holding out is cause other people are asking when you're going get married and you want to be stubborn.

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And I say that with love šŸ™‚
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Yeah well I guess everyone who's in similar situation and been together a lot longer than me must be stubborn as well. We're just a collection of stubborn folks. Lol
 
IP360 said:
Yeah well I guess everyone who's in similar situation and been together a lot longer than me must be stubborn as well. We're just a collection of stubborn folks. Lol
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But we aren't talking about people in a similar situation though. I mean it would be different if neither of wanted to get married, but ya'll do. If she's expressing that she wants to take that next step and you have no actual personal reason why not to, then why are you making that lady wait? You gotta know by now if you want to make her your wife...
 
Tayboo said:
But we aren't talking about people in a similar situation though. I mean it would be different if neither of wanted to get married, but ya'll do. If she's expressing that she wants to take that next step and you have no actual personal reason why not to, then why are you making that lady wait? You gotta know by now if you want to make her your wife...
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Her moreso than me. I'm actually happy where we are in the relationship. Amongst the people we know...our relationship is a whole lot better, have lasted longer, than the folks who are/were happy.

You can't lecture me about how I need to get married when:

- You're divorced a year after gettin married
- Separated
- Marriage feels more like a prison sentence
- Multiple issues that's detriment to the marriage
- Married multiple times

If I decide to make her my wife...cool. If we stay as is in our long term relationship and grow old together w/o gettin married...cool. At this point its whateva.
 
IP360 said:
Her moreso than me. I'm actually happy where we are in the relationship. Amongst the people we know...our relationship is a whole lot better, have lasted longer, than the folks who are/were happy.

You can't lecture me about how I need to get married when:

- You're divorced a year after gettin married
- Separated
- Marriage feels more like a prison sentence
- Multiple issues that's detriment to the marriage
- Married multiple times

If I decide to make her my wife...cool. If we stay as is in our long term relationship and grow old together w/o gettin married...cool. At this point its whateva.
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So you have fears that it might fail.

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That's a much better more honest answer then you don't want to get married because other people keep asking you about it
 
IP360 said:
...my feelings about marriage
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Fun fact.

If you're living with her, depending on the laws in your state, you might be married already.

It's called common law marriage.

Basically, if you've been living with a woman for a specific period of time.......in the eyes of the state............you're legally married.

And being legally married, you're bound by the laws of marriage in that state.
 
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deadeye said:
Fun fact.

If you're living with her, depending on the laws in your state, you might actually be married.

It's called common law marriage.

Basically, if you've been living with a woman for a specific period of time.......in the eyes of the state............you're legally married.

And being legally married, you're bound by the laws of marriage in that state.
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Oh I know about common law marriage. If that's the case...I just saved a bunch of money from spending on a wedding. Lol
 
Tayboo said:
SO y'all been together 8 years, have merged lives and own a home together...she wants to get married and you have nothing against marriage itself. The lone reason you're holding out is cause other people are asking when you're going get married and you want to be stubborn.

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Ok, Late to seeing this. But it seems like @Tayboo has a good point. Is that you are ok with marriage... you've considered marriage... over the years your thoughts have changed on marriage. Y'all still together with owing a home together.
Are you trying to have the milk without the cow??? How does your gal feel about this? Did you tell her that you possibly don't want to get married again before ya'll got the house together?? Where now if anything happens still got to get legal with it..... Inquiring minds would like to know @IP360 ? You are sounding a lil selfish with a a pinch of narrsist. Because family and people keep asking??! Boy that's crazy... I'm saying this from my heart..because I can almost feel her. Not tying to my situation totally different. But from a female point. Marriage is about connection
not papers only
 
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