The pressure of being the one to fuck things up when you gotta good person in front of you can be pretty intimidating. Most won't admit it, by a lotta people have a fucked up perception of themselves
They ether believe they don't deserve a good partner. Or that a person who they deem good won't really like them... Which is why a lotta people are so shallow in their attempts. Dudes try to buy affection cuz they know women like men with money. Woman show off their bodies cuz they know men like sex. It's very rare a person markets their personality as their primary trait. It's almost always what they think others might find attractive. And usually it's something that will attract those who aren't exactly the cream of the crop either
They ether believe they don't deserve a good partner. Or that a person who they deem good won't really like them... Which is why a lotta people are so shallow in their attempts. Dudes try to buy affection cuz they know women like men with money. Woman show off their bodies cuz they know men like sex. It's very rare a person markets their personality as their primary trait. It's almost always what they think others might find attractive. And usually it's something that will attract those who aren't exactly the cream of the crop either