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lol im basic compared to that. i do want drums playin while I go down the aisle tho!What's your way. A bongo circle and a hacky sack tournament?
I just wanna elope somewhere tropical. already got the dresses n shit.
lol im basic compared to that. i do want drums playin while I go down the aisle tho!What's your way. A bongo circle and a hacky sack tournament?
nosigning cuz I hate when ppl expect money from their wedding guests. speaking in terms of investment makes it less of a celebration and more of a transaction.Weddings are awesome when done right.
Holy shit y'all gotta stop being cynics all the damn time.... Yea people tend to go over board... But you typically get that money right if its done right.
For my man who said it could be used as a down payment.... You not thinking....
Our wedding budget was like 5k
We got prolly like 15k back in money and gifts.....
That's a smart wedding flip...
If you have a 25k wedding.... You obviously in a 25k circle.... So you fuck around and get like 75-100k+ back in money and gifts....
And that's all from the Family and friends who support your union.
Cuz that's who the wedding is really for.
Its a fucking celebration b. A celebration of love. You do it up and nice for all your loved ones,, then you declare... In front of those you give the most fucks about.... How much you really care, love, and want to build a future with this person you been rocking with for a minute.
And typically, those people who really fuck with you is like bet. I support and fucks with y'all union. I love y'all. I wish y'all the best. And since we partying, let me break you off with some money and gifts cuz I fucks with y'all and wanna see y'all be great....
Now yea we got assholes who exploit the whole shit. But there's some real ones too....
And when two real ones get married.... Its the shit.... And they always flip their money invested if they got real ass peoples too
I think weddings are a waste because you are paying for others to come and celebrate you. I also a lot of women get married just for the ceremony.Well I guess it all depends on how you look at it. It is a waste when you go overboard and spend thousands of dollars.
I don't view weddings as a way to accumulate money. Nothing wrong with spending money on your wedding, and it's cool if ppl give you some as a gift, but gifts are not to be expected. Don't spend money on a party if you have the expectation of recouping it. Parties are not investments and money isn't owed because you threw one. Gifts are beautiful but not transactional.My point is, the money you spend on a wedding should not be looked at as a waste.
And of course you expect gifts at a party. Its a party. Most people bring gifts to a party. If they don't, that's fine.... Everybody ain't got it.... But its not crazy to expect to make the money back you spent on a wedding.
I didn't have a lot of money for my wedding, but I wanted it to be nice, so we worked on a budget.
Most of the people in my social circles are in the same boat as me, and I know they wanted to look out for me,, so I did the best I could for them and they blessed me in return.
I don't see the harm in that. When I got it,, I bless my peoples too.... And it's a beautiful thing.
Gifts are part of a celebration. Stop trying to sully a beautiful thing.
when you throw a housewarming party, do you expect to recoup your closing costs? or do you aim high and hope to get your downpayment back?Stop it Trini.
Money is a tool. And that tool has been, is,, and always will be used to show and spread love.
If you are throwing a celebration where people tend to show their love by giving you money it is pretty much almost stupid to not consider this almost fact in the planning stages.
Wedding planning conversation
"How much you think we should budget for this wedding?"
"We can't afford to go broke off of it,, but i want it to still be nice"
" well I mean you know people give you money at weddings... So I mean take that into count"
" well how much you really think people going to give us?"
" I unno....I mean.... How much would you give right about now?"
"Depends on who it is I guess"
" well say it's somebody you really fuck with"
" I unno I guess like $50? Is that good?"
" eh its realistic..... and we inviting like 200 people. So if half of them gave us $50 and the other half gave us nothing.... That's like 5k easy"
"You really think we getting that much?"
" I think so.... I mean I wouldn't feel nnice gotus if we budgeted like 5k for the wedding cuz even if we don't get it back.... It'll be close and we can still have as nice wedding with 5k"
That was legit how the convo went.... And I feel that's not a disingenuous conversation to have about a real ass outcome....
Sometimes you have to just accept certain truths to have a constructive conversation.
Would you have completely rolled out or not even think about gifts when your money is tight, but you still want to do something nice for your friends and family
Wedding planning conversation
"How much you think we should budget for this wedding?"
"We can't afford to go broke off of it,, but i want it to still be nice"
" well I mean you know people give you money at weddings... So I mean take that into count"
" well how much you really think people going to give us?"
" I unno....I mean.... How much would you give right about now?"
"Depends on who it is I guess"
" well say it's somebody you really fuck with"
" I unno I guess like $50? Is that good?"
" eh its realistic..... and we inviting like 200 people. So if half of them gave us $50 and the other half gave us nothing.... That's like 5k easy"
"You really think we getting that much?"
" I think so.... I mean I wouldn't feel nnice gotus if we budgeted like 5k for the wedding cuz even if we don't get it back.... It'll be close and we can still have as nice wedding with 5k"
the hope is fine but the expectation is not. expectation and entitlement are connected.If you got it like that... Do you...
But if you don't,, I don't think it's bad at ask to consider what's coming back in for a wedding.
A house warming isn't the same type of celebration.
You not getting a venue on top of decorations and catering... Those things cost money.... Now again of you got it, that's one thing...
But if you really don't, I can't see the harm in taking into consideration what's life going to be like after we spend this money on this wedding.
Knowing you likely getting a couple thousand back greatly changes things when you working on a budget....
Yea if you're an ass....the hope is fine but the expectation is not. expectation and entitlement are connected.
factoring in potential gifts while budgeting for a wedding is a dangerous path.
appreciate them but don't rely on it. if you'd be at a loss in the worst case where you got no cash gifts, however unlikely that may be, then don't overshoot your budget. it's simple.
its cool if you could definitely afford it but that post was literally telling her to factor in bonuses and tax refunds, things which aren't guaranteed or foolproof.1 100% got a ring I could 100% afford and I financed it too...
Took about a year to pay it off.... I made steady payments that i could afford
that isn't thorough planning because it isn't based on reality, it's based on potentials and hopefully's. potentials and hopefully's are great for thoughts but terrible for actual planning.Yea if you're an ass....
But if you're keeping it honest and trying your best to do the best for those you care about... Its just thorough planning
its cool if you could definitely afford it but that post was literally telling her to factor in bonuses and tax refunds, things which aren't guaranteed or foolproof.
which is cool if you can afford to lose that cash but foolish if not.
Again it depends...that isn't thorough planning because it isn't based on reality, it's based on potentials and hopefully's. potentials and hopefully's are great for thoughts but terrible for actual planning.
There's a reason why banks and such don't give you mortgage approval based on your potential earnings but your current ones.
even if it's likely, it still isn't to be relied upon. that's being reasonable.