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BNE said:
from what you've described, this person's appearance is their only redeeming quality. who wants to be with someone who has a bad personality/attitude?
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That's the thing, it's a lot of folks with bad personalities/attitudes, even when after the storm has died down, they'll come out, date again only for that bad attitude and personality to resurface again. Like how cancer goes into submission, on that side of the game
 
BNE said:
No. Getting into a new relationship when you haven't addressed the damage of the last one is dumb and destructive.


no. being loved by someone else can't fix your problems.

get some therapy or a life coach or self help books to guide you to fix yourself. and stay single for a while.

it's selfish to seek love when you're not in a position to offer it in a healthy way.
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Amazing Post.

I would only state that, I don't think the average person will seek that help, because it's a normal attribute, to cuss out someone, lie to someone, are be frustrated with their partner, the average person doesn't look at that as it being a problem. It's the accept me for who I am with all my flaws tip.

Should ppl change into being saints?
 
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Knock_Twice said:
That's the thing, it's a lot of folks with bad personalities/attitudes, even when after the storm has died down, they'll come out, date again only for that bad attitude and personality to resurface again. Like how cancer goes into submission, on that side of the game
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Kandy said:
I have a bad attitude but great personality.
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Would you want your/a dude to accept your bad attitude? if yes, why so? why not change your attitude and not have a bad attitude never in life again. I know it sound corny, but I'm actually being and asking a serious question.
 
BNE said:
personality is more important than attitude. I recently had to shoo off a disrespectful pest with a zen ass attitude. character means more.
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So this guy has to love himself before he can be in a relationship or does he have to change up his attitude?

The attitude part/character is him, that's who he is, granted you didn't find it attractive but that's in his DNA and my question I wanted to ask, should ppl like him or ppl with bad attitudes, liars, hard-core cussers, negative personality/rude enter into relationships?
 
BNE said:
don't get into relationships when u a mess. don't put that on other ppl. other ppl aint gonna fix u. only u can fix u.

an episode of Iyanla is the answer! lol
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When are you not a mess though? As a person, you will always be a mess with messy attributes.
 
Knock_Twice said:
Would you want your/a dude to accept your bad attitude? if yes, why so? why not change your attitude and not have a bad attitude never in life again. I know it sound corny, but I'm actually being and asking a serious question.
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Ye because I'm a work in progress. I have been working on my attitude. It went from horrible to just bad now.
 
TheMasterKey said:
U can't change anybody. They have to change on their own.
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I get that and the whole 9 of that statement but a person that's been born like they are can't and aint really changing what's in their DNA, can they hide it, sure, but eventually the real them will show.

You can't change a duck attributes no matter what environment you will place them in, they will still quack until the moon falls outta the sky
 
To Trini point, you keep using inherent flaws synonymously with being emotionally broken

That's why this convo keeps going in circles
 
Kandy said:
Ye because I'm a work in progress. I have been working on my attitude. It went from horrible to just bad now.
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That's beautiful, that's amazing and i hope you continue that journey with that, but do you understand what I am asking/saying now, (not you) but a man or a woman leaving outta a relationship, numerous ones, with a bad attitude (has had it since they turned 7) how would one change that when it's rooted in them? and is it fair for them to keep getting into a brand new relationship with having a bad attitude or bad something?
 
Knock_Twice said:
I get that and the whole 9 of that statement but a person that's been born like they are can't and aint really changing what's in their DNA, can they hide it, sure, but eventually the real them will show.

You can't change a duck attributes no matter what environment you will place them in, they will still quack until the moon falls outta the sky
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That's the thing tho. We're always changing and evolving as humans, nobody stays the same forever. Some change for the worst some change for the better. But again, it's on that person to make that change, word to MJ.

 
Knock_Twice said:
That's beautiful, that's amazing and i hope you continue that journey with that, but do you understand what I am asking/saying now, (not you) but a man or a woman leaving outta a relationship, numerous ones, with a bad attitude (has had it since they turned 7) how would one change that when it's rooted in them? and is it fair for them to keep getting into a brand new relationship with having a bad attitude or bad something?
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They need to find someone who can handle that.
 
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