and how much of it is about "serving loved ones" when people who don't even love each other are offering to fix plates as some way to mark territory?
the fixing plates in this scenario isn't even about loved ones, it's always framed as a woman fixing a man a plate. call it what it is: subservience.
lol....
no that's what you see....you see subservience cuz you wanna see that...you're looking for it because you routinely challenge traditions and customs....
even though....several happy couples done chimed in and stated they personally take pleasure in serving eachother......
many people take pleasure in service...there's a honor in it.....
so they treat it like an honor....
in the manner of relationships......many woman look for the chance to serve their man in public....it's a social display of affection and respect.....
you may not see it like that cuz you are against many customs and practices that you feel are degrading to women n what not...
but fortunately for those who still practice those types of things.....they don't see anything negative or degrading about it...
its a pride fueled statement that's non-verbally saying....
"this is my man, and i take care of him"
and it impresses people of both sexes who enjoy seeing that kinda commitment from ones s/o
cuz it has nothing to do with training or making someone do something they see as a chore....it's a testament that this dude is absolutely handling his business at such a high level the first chance his lady gets big him up she'll take it....
i think it's a beautiful thing...i know for a fact everything in my relationship is reciprocated so it's never for nothing...
it's earned, honored and well desreved