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Far as the plate making conversation..........I wish my lady would make another nigga a plate. Unless he's handicap sit yo black ass down. Y'all goofy niggas are something else I tell ya

If we're throwing a dinner/get together at the crib and we invited you then you're like family from the get go so hop you black ass up and make a plate.

My lady's services are for me and me alone FOH
 
Cain said:
Far as the plate making conversation..........I wish my lady would make another nigga a plate. Unless he's handicap sit yo black ass down. Y'all goofy niggas are something else I tell ya

If we're throwing a dinner/get together at the crib and we invited you then you're like family from the get go so hop you black ass up and make a plate.

My lady's services are for me and me alone FOH
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ugh.. Shut up @Cain - Your "banging your gorilla chest at the top of the empire state building" act is old and tired.

You are SINGLE more than likely because of the way you think. Your woman is not a THING for you to rule over.

Your response doesn't even make sense in the context of the discussion because of the layout of the events. "READ" first then open your mouth. smh.
 
BNE said:
its been done to death but basically this whole article http://www.theroot.com/the-problem-with-the-debate-over-fixing-your-man-s-plat-1790859918

if it's a self-service kinda dinner party, we can both get our own plates or whichever of us is closer to the kitchen can get them. i wldn't be threatened by another woman (or man) prepping a man's plate cuz I don't see it as an indication of relationship health. it seems like a cultural issue. i do find the idea of linking it to womanhood worrying but meh. if that works for them, that works for them.
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In reading this article I noticed that they described making her mans plate as "intimate'.

If this is the case and most consider this to be an intimate thing, is that not something that should be taken care of by your S/O?
 
Reesey said:
ugh.. Shut up @Cain - Your "banging your gorilla chest at the top of the empire state building" act is old and tired.

You are SINGLE more than likely because of the way you think. Your woman is not a THING for you to rule over.

Your response doesn't even make sense in the context of the discussion because of the layout of the events. "READ" first then open your mouth. smh.
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That's racist....... secondly I admit I didn't read your the context of your post thoroughly. Third, would you like to be my girlfriend? I like your hair
 
lol, this is actually a highly thread worthy topic...good move...


the thing is service....men serve their women, women serve their men......

it's that exchange of service that makes the bond strong.....

when in many social settings, it has been traditional and customary for a woman to serve her man by making him his plate for him......

in fact, many single women use this as an opportunity swoop in on a man.....

it shows her willingness to serve him and is a gesture that many women take pride in...

i remember when me and my wife first started dating...she always considered it her pleasure to make sure i didn't get up, and she makes my plate for me.....like i was to get up on my own...she would be insulted.....

as it would send the message that she can't take care of her man......


and while i completely understand many people don't subscribe to customs and traditions, and courtesies and all that....there are many people who do... and place high value on these things... it hold importance to them...

when we're at home, more times than not i'm cooking, i'm making the table, i'm washing the dishes.....i do a lot of this stuff at home.....in my home i essentially serve my family....

when we're out somewhere...she immediately assumes the role as the server....and the funny thing is i don't think we ever had a formal conversation about this, it's just assumed and customary for us
 
Reesey said:
In reading this article I noticed that they placed they described making her mans plate as "intimate'.

If this is the case and most consider this to be an intimate thing, is that not something that should be taken care of by your S/O?
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I don't consider plate-making to be intimate. @ most of the dinner parties I go to, either everyone helps, its catered, or the hosts bring it out.

if its something that should be taken care of the S/O, I don't see why that S/O has to be female as a rule. my idea of a successful relationship is 1 thats reciprocal, where ppl do nice things for each other because they want to n not because of feeling bound.
 
men have fixed me plates (other ppls husbands included), i have fixed women's plates n poured them drinks, women have fixed my plate. People have even passed me gravy.

:icu1:
 
5 posts is way too low.....

we gonna have a lotta pointless threads if we do that
 
BNE said:
men have fixed me plates (other ppls husbands included), i have fixed women's plates n poured them drinks, women have fixed my plate. People have even passed me gravy.

:icu1:
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just know in a corner somewhere all yall were being judged by some body momma like
:scust1:
 
King Du said:
lol, this is actually a highly thread worthy topic...good move...


the thing is service....men serve their women, women serve their men......

it's that exchange of service that makes the bond strong.....

when in many social settings, it has been traditional and customary for a woman to serve her man by making him his plate for him......

in fact, many single women use this as an opportunity swoop in on a man.....

it shows her willingness to serve him and is a gesture that many women take pride in...

i remember when me and my wife first started dating...she always considered it her pleasure to make sure i didn't get up, and she makes my plate for me.....like i was to get up on my own...she would be insulted.....

as it would send the message that she can't take care of her man......


and while i completely understand many people don't subscribe to customs and traditions, and courtesies and all that....there are many people who do... and place high value on these things... it hold importance to them...

when we're at home, more times than not i'm cooking, i'm making the table, i'm washing the dishes.....i do a lot of this stuff at home.....in my home i essentially serve my family....

when we're out somewhere...she immediately assumes the role as the server....and the funny thing is i don't think we ever had a formal conversation about this, it's just assumed and customary for us
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THIS ^^^^^^ is all!

I think many woman have grown into this.. "I ain't your slave, I don't need a man,
I am your equal not your servant, get your own plate, iron your own clothes, fix your own food,
clean up after your dang self, I pay half of this and you pay the other half, I do me and you do you"
era that most are living life as roommates in college and not couples in relationships and marriages.
 
BNE said:
I've made posts into threads when they were less than 5 posts because it was a hot topic. see: integration thread.
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some topics have clear potential....

sometimes it's just mindless chatter
 
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