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Is there a wrong here or just a difference of opinion?

Goldie said:
What are you talkin about nigga? lol It's about the kids spending time together? They live with eachother 95% of the fuckin month.

"he might be taking em to the zoo" .......... U need another nigga to take your kids to the zoo? U can't do that yourself?

So it aint about quality time with their siblings cuz they're always with the siblings. It aint about getting to go places cuz you can take em yourself. So why do you want another man with your child soooo bad?


What's really going on fam? Make sense of this shit. :uhhuh6:
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bruh, it's not that i WANT another man spending time with my kids.....that's what you're projecting into the situation....no where did i say i was pushing my kid on the dude, or that it was my idea that the kid go

a family member of the children is literally asking is it okay if my kid comes with them when they pick up the other kids that also live in my house....

unless there was some preexisting circumstance that influenced my judgement, i wouldn't have a problem.

if my wife called me right now and said "Hey D my brother is taking all the kids ice skating or some shit.. you care if ur son goes"

i'm gonna be like that's cool...it's family....

they all doing something fun together....why not?

it just so happens the family in this situation is the other kids dad.. but it's still family....and it's still family that regularly interacts with the children in my house...so i don't see where the issue is
 
Mr Litty said:
For all you know he tried to foster that relationship and the ex shit it down

The ex ready to to live that life, cool but he should go talk to that man b4 asking about taking his kid for the weekend
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that's fair
 
Duwop said:
bruh, it's not that i WANT another man spending time with my kids.....that's what you're projecting into the situation....no where did i say i was pushing my kid on the dude, or that it was my idea that the kid go

a family member of the children is literally asking is it okay if my kid comes with them when they pick up the other kids that also live in my house....

unless there was some preexisting circumstance that influenced my judgement, i wouldn't have a problem.

if my wife called me right now and said "Hey D my brother is taking all the kids ice skating or some shit.. you care if ur son goes"

i'm gonna be like that's cool...it's family....

they all doing something fun together....why not?

it just so happens the family in this situation is the other kids dad.. but it's still family....and it's still family that regularly interacts with the children in my house...so i don't see where the issue is
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He's family to YOU, not me. If you wanna be best buddies with the nigga, do you fam. But saying cuz a nigga doesn't wanna be best buddies with a nigga is insecure or w.e other shit you're projecting into this is bullshit. Every nigga has their own codes.
 
i think yall are placing some ulterior motive in here...

like yall think the dude tryna replace yall or fill in for you as a dad....

like i totally don't get it....

for example....


me and my wife get passes for shit....

the zoo, science center, aquarium, port discovery, all that shit...

we get anywhere from 5-15 passes at a time...

so when we get passes we try to get as many kids as possible so we use all the passes....

so cousins, siblings, kids from church, whoever....if we can get them, we'll take them.....

so say i had a kid with another chick....and she got other kids...

you damn Skippy imma ask "aye..u mind if the other kids come too, we got hella passes"

i totally see nothign wrong with that...


but if for any reson if it was yall kid, yallbe like....

:foh5:

why the fuck this nigga wanna take my kid somewhere?? he think he filling in for me or something? i got my own money, i don't need no nigga to take my kid out, i'm all the daddy they need.....the aquarium ain't shit...we can go to the aquarium too, and we don't need no free passes to do it...

tell that nigga gtfoh and worry about his kids and his kids only...






like chill bruh... it was just a funday....ain't nobody tryna move in on your territory.... no need to get all defensive...:mybad:
 
Goldie said:
He's family to YOU, not me. If you wanna be best buddies with the nigga, do you fam. But saying cuz a nigga doesn't wanna be best buddies with a nigga is insecure or w.e other shit you're projecting into this is bullshit. Every nigga has their own codes.
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so if your lady has a kid, and the kid's father is active in the kids life...

and you and the kid have a serious bond...

you don't see any need whatsoever to build a healthy co-parenting relationship with this dude to the point where you and the dude treat each other like family as well?
 
Entertaining thread.

I see both sides of the argument. Idk enough about this nigga to trust him with my child. I’m not trying to be cool with him. If the kids are together any other time except that weekend then one weekend apart ain’t gon kill em.
 
Idk I've heard a few stories from adults from when they were kids and had step families and they felt some type of way being the only kid that didn't go somewhere on the weekends like their siblings. Even tho it wasnt THEIR dad, they wished he had taken them for sleep overs too.
 
B_A said:
Idk I've heard a few stories from adults from when they were kids and had step families and they felt some type of way being the only kid that didn't go somewhere on the weekends like their siblings. Even tho it wasnt THEIR dad, they wished he had taken them for sleep overs too.
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This why they have cousins
 
B_A said:
Idk I've heard a few stories from adults from when they were kids and had step families and they felt some type of way being the only kid that didn't go somewhere on the weekends like their siblings. Even tho it wasnt THEIR dad, they wished he had taken them for sleep overs too.
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i mean, everybody's got a few discrepancies with their upbringing in hindsight

shit, my brothers (different dad) got shit I didnt get and went different places and we lived in the same house all the time
 
B_A said:
Yeah but I think kids are just kids and arent really into parent politics. It's a sleep over away from your real parents. We all need breaks.
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Theres no politics
 
Idk its had for me to commit to one side on matters of upbringing cuz some people had fucked up childhoods and they overcame and others have pretty smooth sailing childhoods and they all fucked up from being left home for a couple hours everyday after school.

Ya know and most people generally persevere and get on with their lives no matter what happened so how can we define what absolutely should be done or avoided.
 
Goldie said:
It's ego cuz i don't want a relationship with my woman's ex?


Aight man lol
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Is it cuz he fucked?
I mean....homie rawdogged too.
You can try to wipe it from your mind, but he got two kids running around your house eating all your bread and running down batteries in your remotes.
You lost your right to step when you married her.
 
Goldie said:
U think u know a nigga cuz he picks up his kid every other Saturday? That's all it takes to trust a mf with your kid?

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Yet the nigga trust you around his kids....how he know you ain't gonna take them to Panama?
Trust bruh
 
Mr Litty said:
For all you know he tried to foster that relationship and the ex shit it down

The ex ready to to live that life, cool but he should go talk to that man b4 asking about taking his kid for the weekend
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How any man ain't sitting down with a nigga who living with his kids? And Visa versa.
Unless some fuck shit happened ...two dudes should be able to be cordial.
Women I can understand. But dudes?

Somma y'all showing ya panty lines.
Get ya spanks on.
 
Seems like alot of fucked up families that scarred y'all niggas.
Y'all can't imagine something going right.
Speaks more about ya background than anything ..


I want all the smoke.....fuck yah
 
Meh...I mean I get why the BD wanna bring the youngest along. Child wants to be wit their siblings.

Like if he takin his own kids to Disney World, but leaves the youngest home b/c that's not his child...then that child is gonna feel crushed. So I get it.

I dunno bout every time he pick up his kids, but every so often...I think I can compromise with that. Hell...no kids for the day...house to ourselves...oh yes some naked fun is gonna be going on wit me and the Mrs.
 
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