I've been burnt, not by cheating but in other ways, I just brush it off and keep it moving.
For the past year or so I've been thinking relationships aren't for me and not because I don't trust women or because of my bad past experiences, it's mainly because I wasn't sure if relationships were for me period, felt better just having fwb's with no strings attached and no drama.
gauging who is worthy of trust is a skill n easier said than done, cuz ppl r not always what they seem. marriages wldn't dissolve after 20 years if so.
u did get a good one tho. its impressive that getting burned many times didn't change ur capacity to trust. for most, that takes a lot of conscious undoing.
do u plan on maintaining that POV?
I have a cousin who is in his 50's and has never had a serious relationship. His personality just doesn't work with anything long term or committed. He also has no patience for relationships. He has never lived with a woman. He has women that he has messed with some of them 20 plus years as his daughter is about 24. They all accept him for whatever he his but say they would never want to be with him daily. He is funny but traditional Rasta with views that would drive most women crazy.
You would need a separate thread for that. There are different sects so to speak. 12 tribes, nyabinghi, bobo shanti to name a few. Bobo Shanti are the most ardent followers of strict Rastafari.What are traditional Rasta views? if you dont mind me asking
I feel this.
I mean, I think relationships are for me but at the same time I like my freedom.
The demands of a relationship is what I constantly wrestle with. Ppl want you to be attentive and present the majority of the time and from past experiences, I can be distant. I spend a lot of time in my head and I'm always trying to better myself and make sure I feel good....constantly
idk maybe I'm self centered or something but my partner sometimes feels shut out. the demands of a relationship is what I wrestle with.
I swear this was me. I'm one of those brothas where I don't need 24/7 interaction wit the person I'm wit. Or all that open wit my emotions. B/c of that, I was told I don't care, or I'm cold. Not true. It's just that when I was open, either I got ignored, or was told I was wrong. So I end up keeping a lot of things to myself.
I think personal space is the hardest thing to achieve when you are living with someone and even harder when you have a child. I always tell my wife that I am going to double back when everyone leaves the house just so I can be alone. It never happens. The only time I am alone is when I am traveling but that is at a hotel.!!!!! all of this !!!!!! and it always drove my partners crazy.
I dont nag, I dont be all on your TIP 24/7
I enjoy my space and will allow you to have and enjoy yours.
Respect.
!!!!! all of this !!!!!! and it always drove my partners crazy.
I dont nag, I dont be all on your TIP 24/7
I enjoy my space and will allow you to have and enjoy yours.
told u, u aint shitWe shall see lol