The Queen of Accountability is running wild out here....

[BlackRain]

I bet she ask step daddy when she renew then vows

Step daddy in the wedding pics....

 

[Chi-Town B]

No, I just don't put myself over the bride. Let her have the day she wants. If I was there before, I'm be there after. One day doesn't define my relationship.

He can have that day especially if she wants him there.

And after that one day he goes back to being a dead beat and step dad goes back to being there for her, fuck no.

 

[Duwop]

And he should tell her to go fuck herself

Great parental figure

 

[Duwop]

And after that one day he goes back to being a dead beat and step dad goes back to being there for her, fuck no.

You just can't help proving that you a piece of shit

 

[Chi-Town B]

Great parental figure

According to her I don't matter unless she can benefit from me.

 

[Chi-Town B]

You just can't help proving that you a piece of shit

I wouldn't be the POS in this, she and her dad would be

 

[Chi-Town B]

If y'all was the dead beat would y'all walk her down the aisle when you was never there?

 

[Chi-Town B]

Her mother a clown too if she sided with the daughter.

 

[loud-ninja]

As a stepfather, if my daughter did this to me, knowing how completely absent the sperm donor has been, I would completely write my daughter off. Because that means that even though i raised her, I failed to help her develop any sense of logic. So her wanting a loser to validate her ceremony of love means something has gone terribly wrong and she's beyond saving. At this point I write her off and wait for her to come back apologizing for being dumb. I won't rub it in, because if she's truly my daughter, she will know she was dumb.

Lol, this is kind of wack.

 

[Duwop]

I'm not gonna let one day determine how I feel about a child I've been there for their entire... Or even a significant portion of their life.

 

[Chi-Town B]

I'm not gonna let one day determine how I feel about a child I've been there for their entire... Or even a significant portion of their life.

The most important day of her life and she tell you to go over there while we take these photos

 

[Duwop]

The most important day of her life and she tell you to go over there while we take these photos

Bet, enjoy your day.

 

[loud-ninja]

Exactly. I don't think anyone is invalidating his feelings. The actions should be the actual point of discussion. She went about it in a way that could've been done better. He reacted in a way that could lead someone to question just how much he actually cared about her outside of the transactional things he provided.

Du is, lol

 

[BlackRain]

Du is, lol

He conceded. You know Baltimore niggas just wanna be the loudest being wrong

 

[Freeman]

Oh, nevermind. I get it now.

Well, I read when I can and come across statistics that support my post. Ummm let's see... Oh, on this very board, you can get a sense of some men who have not gotten over past hurt and some have even shared their stories about how difficult it has been for them to get past the hurt.

And also acknowledging my own personal experiences with trying to work through past hurt so if I'm not exempt from this, I feel pretty confident I can generalize with some liberties.

I have sought out professional help to deal with this. There are other who refuse to talk to anyone because of the stigma that has been attached to black men seeking therapy.

This was a nice ethical fry up.

 

[Loneshot]

Lol, this is kind of wack.

It's because you all want your Kate and Edith too. This isn't a Disney movie. There are consequences for inconsideration. How you all can't see the disrespect here is beyond me. Its not simply about feelings, its about principles. Who did I raise if they can look at all my worth to them and then give that moment to a stranger just because of "feelings?" I'm not raising a pussy who prioritizes their feelings over what's right.

 

[The Lonious Monk]

I don't think the love for your child comes with conditions. That's the one area where I don't think that applies. Replace the word "bitch" with flailing and I still don't agree with cutting them off over this.

It does. People can lie and say it doesn't, but it does. There are absolutely things kids can do that change their parents' feelings towards them. For most people, it takes a lot to change that love. I honestly don't know what my girls could do to make my love for them turn cold, but I'm not going to sit up here and say there's nothing. In this topic, we're talking about a stepparent/stepchild relationship where the parent is never 100% sure where they stand with the child. That love is absolutely built on the condition that the child reciprocates the love to some extent.

Like what if you were a stepfather to a child and when that child grew up, he/she told you they didn't really love you at all and just acted a certain to make sure you kept taking care of him/her? Are you saying that wouldn't affect your feelings towards the person at all? Are you saying that you'd still love him/her just as much?

At the end of the day, the way the girl treated him probably made him feel like he had been swindled all that time. Intelligent people don't maintain bonds with people they felt scammed them. That's what MAGA does.

 

[BlackRain]

It does. People can lie and say it doesn't, but it does. There are absolutely things kids can do that change their parents' feelings towards them. For most people, it takes a lot to change that love. I honestly don't know what my girls could do to make my love for them turn cold, but I'm not going to sit up here and say there's nothing. In this topic, we're talking about a stepparent/stepchild relationship where the parent is never 100% sure where they stand with the child. That love is absolutely built on the condition that the child reciprocates the love to some extent.

Like what if you were a stepfather to a child and when that child grew up, he/she told you they didn't really love you at all and just acted a certain to make sure you kept taking care of him/her? Are you saying that wouldn't affect your feelings towards the person at all? Are you saying that you'd still love him/her just as much?

At the end of the day, the way the girl treated him probably made him feel like he had been swindled all that time. Intelligent people don't maintain bonds with people they felt scammed them. That's what MAGA does.

Of course I would be hurt but I would still love them. I may not like the person they grew into, but I would still love them. Same as you, I can't think of something that would make me stop loving my kids. There's no condition on me loving them. Now me liking who they become as they grow up is different. I can love my child and still not like them and keep a health distance if they become somebody I truly cannot be around.

 

[The Lonious Monk]

Of course I would be hurt but I would still love them. I may not like the person they grew into, but I would still love them. Same as you, I can't think of something that would make me stop loving my kids. There's no condition on me loving them. Now me liking who they become as they grow up is different. I can love my child and still not like them and keep a health distance if they become somebody I truly cannot be around.

Not liking or wanting to be around a person doesn't sound like love to me. Plus you basically just described what the dude did. He left i.e., put a distance between himself and people he could no longer be around. How can you call him a bitch for doing something you said you might do depending on the circumstances?

 

[Freeman]

This fake too….I guess:





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My 2 cents is since the step father was paying for the wedding and probably thus assuming he was going to walk her down the aisle she owed him a conversation about wanting her biological father to take that role, especially if he wasn't present or reliable through her upbringing.

She is completely valid in having her biological father walk her down the aisle if that is what she wanted on her wedding day. She intentionally kept that from her stepfather tho. She used that man to do something she knows the others couldn't.

What the stepfather did in response was super petty but I don't blame him. Was obviously something he was insecure about and she validated that insecurity with her poor decision making/misleading him.

Should have asked her biological father or fiance to pay for it. They played in his face multiple times through the process.