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Alright yall I have court tomorrow so we can see if she can get off the ankle monitor. Told myself it’s my last day going to court no matter what. Been talking to my therapist and mom and etc and taking their advice of not being too available for nonsense
 
SeaSnake said:
Alright yall I have court tomorrow so we can see if she can get off the ankle monitor. Told myself it’s my last day going to court no matter what. Been talking to my therapist and mom and etc and taking their advice of not being too available for nonsense
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Wait

Who got an ankle monitor?

Did I miss something?
 
SeaSnake said:
Alright yall I have court tomorrow so we can see if she can get off the ankle monitor. Told myself it’s my last day going to court no matter what. Been talking to my therapist and mom and etc and taking their advice of not being too available for nonsense
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NIGGA WHAT THE FUCK DID YOU DO?
 
AP4.0 said:
Wait

Who got an ankle monitor?

Did I miss something?
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My daughter has had an ankle monitor for a year after she and her mom got into a fight. She was in juvi. Released to me in Nov and had the make monitor since. Late January my daughter tired to leave the house cuz she was upset I fussed at her about how she acted at school. Her restriction is school to house that’s it. Can’t leave out the door pretty much.


I’m fine with the restriction. But she tried to have an altercation with me and that’s the night I had the heart attack. In my mind I’m trying to keep her from violating the restriction and we had court that week smh.

Police came and I was charged with like assault of family member. Knowing I’m not wrong because I didn’t slap or punch. Just restricted her movement. Case was completely dismissed because I was in the right judge used common sense “parent makes the rules.”Her mom so mad she stomps out of court like a big kid. Not to mention how they dressed in court. Wasted 2,000 dollars tho and that was in Hampton. Had court that same week in Newport News her mom had to be escorted out cuz she want to sanitary fussing at me in front of the judge. I don’t argue back with her not in front of the damn judge and white people.

But I felt she acted like that because she knew I petitioned for custody. I still let her talk with her mom despite how her mom feels about me but in hindsight it could’ve been manipulation.

So she goes back to live with her mom no apology for the stress related heart attack or anything. But her mom letting her miss school and I’m like excessive days. I’m on parent vue looking at attendance and it damn near truancy but right at the line.

Now this is like May. She was still able to pass tho.

She now stays with her grandma temporarily. And tomorrow is the last court date that I’m going to for all this shit.
 
SeaSnake said:
My daughter has had an ankle monitor for a year after she and her mom got into a fight. She was in juvi. Released to me in Nov and had the make monitor since. Late January my daughter tired to leave the house cuz she was upset I fussed at her about how she acted at school. Her restriction is school to house that’s it. Can’t leave out the door pretty much.


I’m fine with the restriction. But she tried to have an altercation with me and that’s the night I had the heart attack. In my mind I’m trying to keep her from violating the restriction and we had court that week smh.

Police came and I was charged with like assault of family member. Knowing I’m not wrong because I didn’t slap or punch. Just restricted her movement. Case was completely dismissed because I was in the right judge used common sense “parent makes the rules.”Her mom so mad she stomps out of court like a big kid. Not to mention how they dressed in court. Wasted 2,000 dollars tho and that was in Hampton. Had court that same week in Newport News her mom had to be escorted out cuz she want to sanitary fussing at me in front of the judge. I don’t argue back with her not in front of the damn judge and white people.

But I felt she acted like that because she knew I petitioned for custody. I still let her talk with her mom despite how her mom feels about me but in hindsight it could’ve been manipulation.

So she goes back to live with her mom no apology for the stress related heart attack or anything. But her mom letting her miss school and I’m like excessive days. I’m on parent vue looking at attendance and it damn near truancy but right at the line.

Now this is like May. She was still able to pass tho.

She now stays with her grandma temporarily. And tomorrow is the last court date that I’m going to for all this shit.
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Aww man

I'm so sorry to read this fam. It seems like you are handling things the best way you can.
 
SeaSnake said:
My daughter has had an ankle monitor for a year after she and her mom got into a fight. She was in juvi. Released to me in Nov and had the make monitor since. Late January my daughter tired to leave the house cuz she was upset I fussed at her about how she acted at school. Her restriction is school to house that’s it. Can’t leave out the door pretty much.


I’m fine with the restriction. But she tried to have an altercation with me and that’s the night I had the heart attack. In my mind I’m trying to keep her from violating the restriction and we had court that week smh.

Police came and I was charged with like assault of family member. Knowing I’m not wrong because I didn’t slap or punch. Just restricted her movement. Case was completely dismissed because I was in the right judge used common sense “parent makes the rules.”Her mom so mad she stomps out of court like a big kid. Not to mention how they dressed in court. Wasted 2,000 dollars tho and that was in Hampton. Had court that same week in Newport News her mom had to be escorted out cuz she want to sanitary fussing at me in front of the judge. I don’t argue back with her not in front of the damn judge and white people.

But I felt she acted like that because she knew I petitioned for custody. I still let her talk with her mom despite how her mom feels about me but in hindsight it could’ve been manipulation.

So she goes back to live with her mom no apology for the stress related heart attack or anything. But her mom letting her miss school and I’m like excessive days. I’m on parent vue looking at attendance and it damn near truancy but right at the line.

Now this is like May. She was still able to pass tho.

She now stays with her grandma temporarily. And tomorrow is the last court date that I’m going to for all this shit.
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Damn, my nigga. Good job keeping it together during all the bullshit. Good luck on the court shit tomorrow. I've been to court for family shit and for criminal shit related to family shit. I came out on top each time, but that shit was stressful as fuck. Hold ya head.
 
SeaSnake said:
My daughter has had an ankle monitor for a year after she and her mom got into a fight. She was in juvi. Released to me in Nov and had the make monitor since. Late January my daughter tired to leave the house cuz she was upset I fussed at her about how she acted at school. Her restriction is school to house that’s it. Can’t leave out the door pretty much.


I’m fine with the restriction. But she tried to have an altercation with me and that’s the night I had the heart attack. In my mind I’m trying to keep her from violating the restriction and we had court that week smh.

Police came and I was charged with like assault of family member. Knowing I’m not wrong because I didn’t slap or punch. Just restricted her movement. Case was completely dismissed because I was in the right judge used common sense “parent makes the rules.”Her mom so mad she stomps out of court like a big kid. Not to mention how they dressed in court. Wasted 2,000 dollars tho and that was in Hampton. Had court that same week in Newport News her mom had to be escorted out cuz she want to sanitary fussing at me in front of the judge. I don’t argue back with her not in front of the damn judge and white people.

But I felt she acted like that because she knew I petitioned for custody. I still let her talk with her mom despite how her mom feels about me but in hindsight it could’ve been manipulation.

So she goes back to live with her mom no apology for the stress related heart attack or anything. But her mom letting her miss school and I’m like excessive days. I’m on parent vue looking at attendance and it damn near truancy but right at the line.

Now this is like May. She was still able to pass tho.

She now stays with her grandma temporarily. And tomorrow is the last court date that I’m going to for all this shit.
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Yeah bro, that shit sucks. Just do the best you can, accept what you have no power, and try to remain optimistic as possible.
 
SeaSnake said:
My daughter has had an ankle monitor for a year after she and her mom got into a fight. She was in juvi. Released to me in Nov and had the make monitor since. Late January my daughter tired to leave the house cuz she was upset I fussed at her about how she acted at school. Her restriction is school to house that’s it. Can’t leave out the door pretty much.


I’m fine with the restriction. But she tried to have an altercation with me and that’s the night I had the heart attack. In my mind I’m trying to keep her from violating the restriction and we had court that week smh.

Police came and I was charged with like assault of family member. Knowing I’m not wrong because I didn’t slap or punch. Just restricted her movement. Case was completely dismissed because I was in the right judge used common sense “parent makes the rules.”Her mom so mad she stomps out of court like a big kid. Not to mention how they dressed in court. Wasted 2,000 dollars tho and that was in Hampton. Had court that same week in Newport News her mom had to be escorted out cuz she want to sanitary fussing at me in front of the judge. I don’t argue back with her not in front of the damn judge and white people.

But I felt she acted like that because she knew I petitioned for custody. I still let her talk with her mom despite how her mom feels about me but in hindsight it could’ve been manipulation.

So she goes back to live with her mom no apology for the stress related heart attack or anything. But her mom letting her miss school and I’m like excessive days. I’m on parent vue looking at attendance and it damn near truancy but right at the line.

Now this is like May. She was still able to pass tho.

She now stays with her grandma temporarily. And tomorrow is the last court date that I’m going to for all this shit.
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Sorry to hear that fam.


Parenting aint no joke, but none of that shit means anything if you're in the dirt. Teens are gonna be teens and BM's are gonna be BMs, don't let that shit send you to an early grave. Take care of your health.
 
Goldie said:
Sorry to hear that fam.


Parenting aint no joke, but none of that shit means anything if you're in the dirt. Teens are gonna be teens and BM's are gonna be BMs, don't let that shit send you to an early grave. Take care of your health.
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Facts.
 
Update so she back in juvi for two weeks cuz of the house arrest and behavior violations. She has been better the last two weeks but not enough. I’m numb to it now.

When we were meeting with the guardian ad litem. My bm and her mother go into it with him over the IEP stuff. My bm is one of tho people that think they know everything but also feel like everybody is insulting their intelligence and I thought her mother was more reserved but she
kept making excuses for the rule violations.

But her mother wants her in an IEP we already did the 504. But her mom wanted an assessment first so we can get her into a school that helps with mental health but she would need an IEP. My bm was convinced assessment then IEP but the school liaison said they can be done at the same time to make the process quicker. But she says she been doing IEP for 17 years and it does not go that way.

Now imagine somebody trying to tell the lawyer what to do and being incorrect. I don’t second hand embarrassment. Also daughter won’t acknowledge me if her mom is around so I told em they got it.

Her mom tried to ask me why I have animosity for her said I was being fake two months ago. I told her plainly that I don’t like who she is at a person I don’t like her communication and ignorance and the co parenting thing is not a thing. She a narcissist so the best is let them fuck up on they own and deal with it. I’m stepping way back
 
SeaSnake said:
Update so she back in juvi for two weeks cuz of the house arrest and behavior violations. She has been better the last two weeks but not enough. I’m numb to it now.

When we were meeting with the guardian ad litem. My bm and her mother go into it with him over the IEP stuff. My bm is one of tho people that think they know everything but also feel like everybody is insulting their intelligence and I thought her mother was more reserved but she
kept making excuses for the rule violations.

But her mother wants her in an IEP we already did the 504. But her mom wanted an assessment first so we can get her into a school that helps with mental health but she would need an IEP. My bm was convinced assessment then IEP but the school liaison said they can be done at the same time to make the process quicker. But she says she been doing IEP for 17 years and it does not go that way.

Now imagine somebody trying to tell the lawyer what to do and being incorrect. I don’t second hand embarrassment. Also daughter won’t acknowledge me if her mom is around so I told em they got it.

Her mom tried to ask me why I have animosity for her said I was being fake two months ago. I told her plainly that I don’t like who she is at a person I don’t like her communication and ignorance and the co parenting thing is not a thing. She a narcissist so the best is let them fuck up on they own and deal with it. I’m stepping way back
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Sometimes that's what you gotta do; fall back and let the shit play out the way it has to. Maybe after some time your daughter will see you were trying to help her in the best way possible. I got a homie that adopted his wife's daughter, raised her and everything but the girl started acting up and the mother fueled it. This man did everything he possibly could for her but the girl never respected him and moms never checked her. Apparently it got pretty bad and he filed for divorce and moved back to MI. His ex wife has called him asking if their daughter can come see him and he's like "For what??? She don't even fuck with me like that". Its been a few years and he has stayed away from her 'cause of the level of disrespect. This man has no kids of his own; he adopted this girl out of a place of true love for her. I think as she gets older she may come to that realization and begin to appreciate all that he did for her; this may be the case with your daughter. You just may need to give it time.
 
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