Thoughts on Valentine’s Day

[AP2.5]

Don't do that lol Cuz I can easily say your p.o.v is the exception and not the rule, unless we go out and survey every woman in america neither of us can say that.


Also I never said the last thing on ur list. I think valentine's day is for the women, I don't believe it's for the men. Now if she gets u something, that's cool, but I never expect anything on Vday.

So to go back to ur original point, a woman has to be 'perfect' because she doesn't require expensive gifts? lmaoo cmon fam, you're better than this. That doesn't require her to be perfect, that requires her to not be a bird and to be realistic. Niggas aint got thousands to pay for some designer shit or to buy one of those planes to write something in the sky for her lol I won't say most, but A LOT of women will be happy with a gift that comes from the heart.

and this is where we disagree...valentines day to me, if we gon celebrate the shit, should be about both people in the relationship. Why is all the pressure on the man to make his lady feel special? Why is everything else viewed as equal in a relationship except vday? I dont expect anything on vday b/c i place value on random acts of kindness over a scheduled one.

i didnt say she had to be perfect, but ideally, i think she shouldnt just be sitting around wondering what her guy is gon bring her home or if she gon get flowers delivered to her job or whatever cliche shit they like...but again, whatever you want to call it, bird logic, lofty expectations...the fact remains that there are WAY more chicks that put more stock in vday than you are letting on.

I even know dudes who've had chicks be mad that the dude wanted to do something either before vday or a day after so they could avoid the crowds and other typical last minute shit that usually come with that rush to get something. They either want it on vday or it dont count.

 

[Goldie]

and this is where we disagree...valentines day to me, if we gon celebrate the shit, should be about both people in the relationship. Why is all the pressure on the man to make his lady feel special? Why is everything else viewed as equal in a relationship except vday? I dont expect anything on vday b/c i place value on random acts of kindness over a scheduled one.

i didnt say she had to be perfect, but ideally, i think she shouldnt just be sitting around wondering what her guy is gon bring her home or if she gon get flowers delivered to her job or whatever cliche shit they like...but again, whatever you want to call it, bird logic, lofty expectations...the fact remains that there are WAY more chicks that put more stock in vday than you are letting on.

I even know dudes who've had chicks be mad that the dude wanted to do something either before vday or a day after so they could avoid the crowds and other typical last minute shit that usually come with that rush to get something. They either want it on vday or it dont count.

Feeling the day should be for both is understandable, technically it should be, but I look at it as, after I do w.e I do for my woman on v.day to make her happy, seeing her reaction and her happy is my gift. A happy wife is a happy life, don't make things difficult when it doesn't have to be my niggas.


Regarding the latter, I wouldn't necessarily call her a bird, but that is a sign selfishness. If a shorty is really tripping cuz a dude has a something set up for the 15th, something's wrong with her lol

I guess I've been very lucky lol cuz I've never had a chick that stressed getting big gifts.

 

[Northside7]

Yeah...I have yet to see Walmart stock the meat section with extra steaks and A1 sauce for this unofficial "holiday".

But you turn on the tv the beginning February..."EVERY KISS BEGINS WITH KAY'S"...or..."He went to Jared's"

Not seeing any "EVERY STEAK IS COOKED MEDIUM RARE" or "*GASP*...She went to Jared's Meat Market!" commercials. Lol

Medium rare?

 

[Babelipsss]

Question for the guys who have these high-maintenance diva girlfriends. What is life like on Feb 15 after you have ignored her demands? I'm legit curious.

 

[Northside7]

And I bet all yall niggas are planning on seeing Black Panthers in theaters, yall niggas gettin scammed left and right

Theatres are a scam?

 

[Goldie]

Theatres are a scam?

Hell yea lol nigga they're selling $10 boxes of popcorn and $20 recess cups.


Black Panther is definitely a scam too

 

[Northside7]

Hell yea lol nigga they're selling $10 boxes of popcorn and $20 recess cups.


Black Panther is definitely a scam too

You actually buy food at the theatres? LoL.

Explain how black panther and all other movies are a scam.

 

[Goldie]

You actually buy food at the theatres? LoL.

Explain how black panther and all other movies are a scam.

Pretending like Black Panther is a special moment for black people and we should all go out to support it.

 

[Kentucky]

Goldie and his lady will be in there on V-Day watching Fifty Shades Darker, lol

 

[AP2.5]

Feeling the day should be for both is understandable, technically it should be, but I look at it as, after I do w.e I do for my woman on v.day to make her happy, seeing her reaction and her happy is my gift. A happy wife is a happy life, don't make things difficult when it doesn't have to be my niggas.


Regarding the latter, I wouldn't necessarily call her a bird, but that is a sign selfishness. If a shorty is really tripping cuz a dude has a something set up for the 15th, something's wrong with her lol

I guess I've been very lucky lol cuz I've never had a chick that stressed getting big gifts.

ok, now we are cooking with grease

but kill that happy wife happy life shit right now...like TODAY...

everything else, i agree 100% and consider yourself lucky af too

 

[AP2.5]

Pretending like Black Panther is a special moment for black people and we should all go out to support it.

Black panther is a special moment for black people as it will definitely show hollywood the power of the black dollar.

Same with movies like Girls Trip

a practically all black cast in a triple A movie??

that shit just dont happen everyday

 

[Goldie]

Black panther is a special moment for black people as it will definitely show hollywood the power of the black dollar.

Same with movies like Girls Trip

a practically all black cast in a triple A movie??

that shit just dont happen everyday

We've been singing that same tune for yearssssssssssss "this will show hollywood the power of the black dollar" , they've been known that. And think about what u just said "this will let them know the power of the black dollar" , this will let them know how much money they can get from us by exploiting our culture?

Nah it's not a special moment till it's a black film company making those movies, to where black people are profiting from out culture, until then all those hollywood raping mfs are eating off of us and there's nothing special about that.

 

[AP2.5]

We've been singing that same tune for yearssssssssssss "this will show hollywood the power of the black dollar" , they've been known that. And think about what u just said "this will let them know the power of the black dollar" , this will let them know how much money they can get from us by exploiting our culture?

Nah it's not a special moment till it's a black film company making those movies, to where black people are profiting from out culture, until then all those hollywood raping mfs are eating off of us and there's nothing special about that.

well this is the topic for today

bout to make the thread

 

[Goldie]

lol bet, i was just debating with @BNE about this shit a couple days ago

 

[SeaSnake]

my point is, a dude can genuinely want to do nice things for his lady for Vday, but it appears at least in your eyes, you have to find the perfect chick that:

• is appreciative of any gesture for vday
• doesnt really make a big deal about vday
• doesnt require an absorbent amount of money to be spent on vday
• believes that vday is about the man just as equal as they woman

its cool that you and kandy and a handful of other people have found/are these people, but i promise you, ya'll are the exceptions and not the rules.

there are WAY more females that act like the rest of the year is for nothing if you dont care to celebrate vday or roll out the red carpet every single year.

So negative lol

 

[Black 🖤]

@Kandy @Blactivity

i got a question for you ladies.


why fight so hard for this one day?

why doesnt the other days of the year matter?

If more ladies push the rest of the year vs just the day, wouldnt you see if he puts in the effort on a consistent basis.

are you not worth more than just a day?

now @Meeks said she loved her balloons and teddy bear.

now lets keep it 100....how many ladies would be ok with that?

niggas really gotta go out there way and make a chick queen for a day and most of the time its not coming back to him.

then the next day at work is when the fights happen. when chicks exchange their stories and the chick whos guy who did do enough ...she comes down on him when she gets home.

so not only does the man need to do a majority of the courting...but he must make a lady feel special on a certain day more than feeling special outside of that. can you not see how that can be draining on a dude?

so last question.....would you discredit all your man did during the previous year to question why he didnt do nothing on this day?

You can ask why any other hoilday/special event matters also. I'm not saying men should be out spending large amounts of money, dipping into savings, selling plasma and kidneys and shit. It's not even a monetary thing for me. It's just nice to give and receive and watch how people react to it. I give gifts also. Cute cards, cologne, scented sprays, candy, stuffed animals, balloons, flowers, something they have been wanting, etc. I even get my mom, my grandmas, little cousins, and aunties something. I have made all of these people smile spending the max of maybe $10/person. Mane I guess my people and I are different from most lol. It's not as stressful as yall making it, or maybe it has been bc of the type of women yall have dealt with. They seem a bit ungrateful and high maintenance, but what do expect otherwise from a chick like that lol? Sorry they made you feel this way.

Ofc, well imo, the little and big things that are done over the year to express your love isn't overlooked and would not be ruined by VDay.

What about the kids? The kids don't get anything either? In Alabama, every child in K-12 has had a VDay party and whatnot at school. It's just another day to show love, hug a loved one a little tighter, kiss them a little longer. It shouldn't trump the things you do throughout the year. It's just cute mane.

 

[DOS_patos]

That whole scenario seems unrealistic lol compare and contrast of vday gifts leading to an argument seems like high school shit. Yall act like you gotta change her world on vday. Relax

bruh where you been at?

not sure how you think it is unrealistic

 

[DOS_patos]

I already broke down that part, if u got a girl who is gonna be pissed if u don't get her designer shit or spend thousands, you got a bird and you bigger problems than valentine's day, cuz birds are birds 365.



U wasn't born and automatically knew to buy things for those occasions, u were taught that, just like u were taught to buy things for christmas, mother's day, etc. So what, u gonna shit on ur mother cuz it's "the man" who is scamming u. That $20 - $30 is gonna kill u? word?

Cut the shit, yall dealt with a bitch who milked df outta yall niggas and yall have ptsd OR yall broke af. It's one or the other lol

we were taught to show your love for another person on specials days.....the days you make special.
i think you are going to the extreme. mothers days is different than valentines day.

speaking for myself
my mother doesnt require me to show her love on a certain day. a phone call will do. what about all them other days? is she still my mother? should i wait until this certain day?

while you do have a point...because mothers day is one of the biggest days of the year. but how come fathers day is not treated the same?
would those people be the people who were taught to not love their dad?

its all about what we make important.

 

[Duwop]

valentines days is about the funds to be honest.....

if we can do some nice shit we gonna do some nice shit.. if we can't,... we'll do it later....

 

[Goldie]

we were taught to show your love for another person on specials days.....the days you make special.
i think you are going to the extreme. mothers days is different than valentines day.

speaking for myself
my mother doesnt require me to show her love on a certain day. a phone call will do. what about all them other days? is she still my mother? should i wait until this certain day?

while you do have a point...because mothers day is one of the biggest days of the year. but how come fathers day is not treated the same?
would those people be the people who were taught to not love their dad?

its all about what we make important.

Unfortunately most niggas don't know their father lol so that explains that.

So just cuz I do something for my mother on mother's day, doesn't mean I don't care about her any other day, it's just the official day to show your mother how much u love her. Same with valentine's day, it's just the official day to show your lady how much u care about her. If you know that'll make ur lady happy, just do it, it's not that serious lol