OPINION Does your opinion of someone you know change if you learn they have cheated on a S/O?

[AP2.5]

We've had several discussions about cheating on this site, and ya'll know where i stand on the issue, but here's a question. If your best friend, relative, homeboy, homegirl, etc... cheats on their s/o, does your opinion of them change?

how do you move forward in ya'lls dynamic?

 

[Judge Dread]

Who am I to judge what another man does. I would hope that they don’t but that is that man/woman and their relationship. Just don’t use me as an alibi or don’t get me involved. Don’t bring your other person around me where I am not some sort of co conspirator and we are fine. Your better question would have been how do you feel about the person that is getter cheated on?

 

[AP2.5]

Who am I to judge what another man does. I would hope that they don’t but that is that man/woman and their relationship. Just don’t use me as an alibi or don’t get me involved. Don’t bring your other person around me where I am not some sort of co conspirator and we are fine. Your better question would have been how do you feel about the person that is getter cheated on?

well you could apply that same concern to the person who got cheated on. If there is a question about the cheater, then there should be a question about the person who got cheated on.

 

[Chi-Town B]

No, what they do in their relationship is no business of mine and has no affect on me. I'm friends with a person now who is cheating.

 

[Judge Dread]

well you could apply that same concern to the person who got cheated on. If there is a question about the cheater, then there should be a question about the person who got cheated on.

Not really concern but we are human for the most part so I may feel bad for that person. Not enough to do anything about it but just feel bad. That is why I don’t want to be around no ones other people if I know your significant other.

 

[AP2.5]

Not really concern but we are human for the most part so I may feel bad for that person. Not enough to do anything about it but just feel bad. That is why I don’t want to be around no ones other people if I know your significant other.

but you cant always help that though right?

certain relationships, you develop bonds with a persons sig other, even if its just on some cool shit.

 

[Duwop]

yup.

if you willing to betray the trust of someone you share your bed with, who am i to you??

but i mean, i don't feel like you should be trusting your friends that deeply anyway......i don't like putting anyone in a position to burn me.

As many friends as i have had come and go, i've never been as close to anyone as i am to my wife....and that's cuz we've built and share much more together....

we built a relationship, a marriage, and a family together, we share money, food, our bed, our pains our worries, our joy, our everything together....

our bond is absolute.


and because as a human i can only be empathetic to a certain degree, i can only understand things in the way my brain allows me.

betraying my wife's trust to cheat on her would be some foul ass shit.....way more foul than anything i can do to any other friend i have.....at least that's how i see it

so the contrast would have to apply.......if i have a friend who is willing to cheat on their wife, or habitually cheats or abuses the women in their life....i know that i can't possibly stand but so close to that person....if they are capable of justifying their actions on that, i'm sure they can justify any betrayal done to me

 

[SeaSnake]

Hell yea. I would feel less sorry if i did them wrong.

 

[Chicity]

Nope

 

[Az]

Not really concern but we are human for the most part so I may feel bad for that person. Not enough to do anything about it but just feel bad. That is why I don’t want to be around no ones other people if I know your significant other.

This is a smart man...

That’s totally me.

My brother came over one day and I noticed him on our home phone.
So I asked him who he was calling from our house seeing he had a cellphone.

Of course he didn’t answer me so I said “Let me find out your calling some bih from work and don’t let me see you with this bih cause I’m gonna beat her ass. (Already heard about his activities)
Yes he’s my brother but she is my sis-n-law and I don’t play that bs.

Same with friends don’t involve me in your lies and manipulations cause if you do you won’t like the outcome.

 

[Remedy]

Who am I to judge what another man does. I would hope that they don’t but that is that man/woman and their relationship. Just don’t use me as an alibi or don’t get me involved. Don’t bring your other person around me where I am not some sort of co conspirator and we are fine. Your better question would have been how do you feel about the person that is getter cheated on?

This!
Growing up my brothers did this to me all the time. It always left me in a terrible situation and feeling bad.
I mean these my brothers and I'd do almost anything to protect them but then again they were being foul and as a woman myself I knew too well the pain of dealing with BS.
I'm so glad they grew out of that. Glad I did too.

 

[Revolver Ocelot]

Nope.

 

[Allergens]

Nope

Cosign

 

[Loquacious]

Depends on if he and I are talking and he tells me he cheated on his last gf from two months ago.

If it was years ago, not really.

 

[LadyDu]

It does even if you think it doesnt... I mean think about like this how many of yall would be shocked IF yall found out du cheated on me???
Most of yall might be like "damn i would have never thought" or the opposite "i know it was too good to be true"
You might still be willing to be friends with the cheater but low key youll be like "damn du you fucked up"
Ijs



It never happened by the way so my children dont need a step dad just yet lol

 

[AP2.5]

It does even if you think it doesnt... I mean think about like this how many of yall would be shocked IF yall found out du cheated on me???
Most of yall might be like "damn i would have never thought" or the opposite "i know it was too good to be true"
You might still be willing to be friends with the cheater but low key youll be like "damn du you fucked up"
Ijs



It never happened by the way so my children dont need a step dad just yet lol

well, the fact that Du parades ya'lls marriage the way that he does, thats the only reason i would be "shocked" if you will. If he was just like "hey guys, my wife posts here, she cool af"...then at least from me, if that happened, then im like "aye...shit happens...i hope ya'll figure it out"

its like the white politicians who are all anti gay, and go out of the way to promote "american family, one man one woman, adam and eve not adam and steve", then you find out he has boy toys on the side and has been in the closet for years.

Would my opinion of Du change? absolutely not. If there are 9/10 things that I find admirable about him, but for some reason,the on thing out of 10 was if he were to step outside the marriage, are the other 9 just forgotten?

Im not talking about habitual cheaters, womanizers, etc...b/c at that point, if i consider myself his friend, i'm like "fam, what you doing?...get it together"

my .02

 

[LadyDu]

well, the fact that Du parades ya'lls marriage the way that he does, thats the only reason i would be "shocked" if you will. If he was just like "hey guys, my wife posts here, she cool af"...then at least from me, if that happened, then im like "aye...shit happens...i hope ya'll figure it out"

its like the white politicians who are all anti gay, and go out of the way to promote "american family, one man one woman, adam and eve not adam and steve", then you find out he has boy toys on the side and has been in the closet for years.

Would my opinion of Du change? absolutely not. If there are 9/10 things that I find admirable about him, but for some reason,the on thing out of 10 was if he were to step outside the marriage, are the other 9 just forgotten?

Im not talking about habitual cheaters, womanizers, etc...b/c at that point, if i consider myself his friend, i'm like "fam, what you doing?...get it together"

my .02

Good point

 

[Chicity]

It does even if you think it doesnt... I mean think about like this how many of yall would be shocked IF yall found out du cheated on me???
Most of yall might be like "damn i would have never thought" or the opposite "i know it was too good to be true"
You might still be willing to be friends with the cheater but low key youll be like "damn du you fucked up"
Ijs



It never happened by the way so my children dont need a step dad just yet lol

He don’t deserve you neway

 

[Duwop]

i parade?

 

[AP2.5]

i parade?

you do...i dont say that as a slight to you, but in practically all the relationship threads, you go on and on and on about how great your marriage is. I think thats awesome frfr and definitely not trying to say that as a negative thing

BUT

should you ever fall off the wagon, then the image you've put out there would be questioned is all. I mean, im team forgive, and i wouldnt judge you brother. I would still think you are an awesome person.