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OPINION Women are the "Favor Factor"...

Babelipsss said:
I disagree. I think it's human nature to enjoy the challenge or chase in this case. Yes men and women will still take the easy sex when the opportunity arises but flirting, impressing, pursuing, chasing, catching someone's attention, however you want to put it will always happen. Sometimes the chase itself is exciting. My grandma always said, "Let him chase you till you catch him."
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I’m not against the chase and I know it still happens. I’m just saying nowadays, the chase don’t happen as often because if one person ain’t willing to give it up quickly, access to someone else who will is readily available. Hence, niggas “simpin” multiple chicks either at once or back to back until one decides to give in. Instead of focusing on one chick and the chase.
 
On the other hand, while the chase is cool for a time period, that shit can’t go on forever. Let that man pursue you or whatever but don’t have that shit going on forever because you love the idea of a nigga chasing you because eventually that man will stop running after your ass.
 
Kandy said:
I’m not against the chase and I know it still happens. I’m just saying nowadays, the chase don’t happen as often because if one person ain’t willing to give it up quickly, access to someone else who will is readily available. Hence, niggas “simpin” multiple chicks either at once or back to back until one decides to give in. Instead of focusing on one chick and the chase.
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That is because that nigga chasing you for pussy and that is it. If I know I want her for more than pussy then I will keep chasing. I might go get me some readily available pussy for the mean time in between time. But I am still chasing you. I might have saw something in you that is more than just pussy.

The reason I kept going for my wife was that she was more than just pussy. She had expectations that those other women didnt have. Those other women just wanted a man. My wife wanted a man that was willing to live up to her expectations. I saw that as a challenge that I still look forward too. Most women pick men because of their potential but dont challenge them to live up to it.
 
I've always been down to pursue a woman if I'm really infatuated with her. If she's single, I'm not one to take no for an answer. I learn as much as I can about her, from her or from people around her. I'll seek to mode myself to be everything she wants in a man and more. I'll not focus on other women at all and most of my thoughts will be about how I can make her smile, laugh, and be happy. When someone or something is on my mind to be done, thy will be done, I'ma make it happen.

But if she's just a woman that I think I might like, I'll do enough to let her know I'm interested, genuinely. And rather she's playing hard to get, likes to be chased, or iffy on mutual interest. At the first sign of friction, I'ma put a pin in it and move along. There may be testing of the waters, but the intensity of my pursuit won't be there.

I often found out after finally being able to get them to open up to me. They will say things like I been liked you, or something like that. Or I did such and such to let you know I wanted to talk with you.

It would normally be some shit that theres no way I would've known they were into me. They say alot of men don't have game. But I think alot of women don't know how to be chased and do enough to let the guy know the wanna be chased.
 
caddo man said:
That is because that nigga chasing you for pussy and that is it. If I know I want her for more than pussy then I will keep chasing. I might go get me some readily available pussy for the mean time in between time. But I am still chasing you. I might have saw something in you that is more than just pussy.

The reason I kept going for my wife was that she was more than just pussy. She had expectations that those other women didnt have. Those other women just wanted a man. My wife wanted a man that was willing to live up to her expectations. I saw that as a challenge that I still look forward too. Most women pick men because of their potential but dont challenge them to live up to it.
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I agree with you but that aint the case with every dude. Thats why I said I know the chase is still happening. It’s still dudes who are legit out here chasing or pursuing women to be with them for the long run. I’ve had my fair share of chasers. Crazy shit about it though is niggas thats just chasing for the pussy, often times are using that same ass “game” that men who aren’t chasing for just the pussy use. That’s a part of the reason why females got a mind frame that “every nigga just want the pussy.” That’s why good dudes got it hard. No homo.
 
caddo man said:
That is because that nigga chasing you for pussy and that is it. If I know I want her for more than pussy then I will keep chasing. I might go get me some readily available pussy for the mean time in between time. But I am still chasing you. I might have saw something in you that is more than just pussy.

The reason I kept going for my wife was that she was more than just pussy. She had expectations that those other women didnt have. Those other women just wanted a man. My wife wanted a man that was willing to live up to her expectations. I saw that as a challenge that I still look forward too. Most women pick men because of their potential but dont challenge them to live up to it.
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hmmm..

i want to debate this....but maybe i read something wrong...

the potential and challenge to live up to it?

thats kinda iffy.
 
Allergens said:
I've always been down to pursue a woman if I'm really infatuated with her. If she's single, I'm not one to take no for an answer. I learn as much as I can about her, from her or from people around her. I'll seek to mode myself to be everything she wants in a man and more. I'll not focus on other women at all and most of my thoughts will be about how I can make her smile, laugh, and be happy. When someone or something is on my mind to be done, thy will be done, I'ma make it happen.

But if she's just a woman that I think I might like, I'll do enough to let her know I'm interested, genuinely. And rather she's playing hard to get, likes to be chased, or iffy on mutual interest. At the first sign of friction, I'ma put a pin in it and move along. There may be testing of the waters, but the intensity of my pursuit won't be there.

I often found out after finally being able to get them to open up to me. They will say things like I been liked you, or something like that. Or I did such and such to let you know I wanted to talk with you.

It would normally be some shit that theres no way I would've known they were into me. They say alot of men don't have game. But I think alot of women don't know how to be chased and do enough to let the guy know the wanna be chased.
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or maybe some chicks dont know a good chase from a simp
just like some guys dont know how to chase but rather simp.
 
Kandy said:
I agree with you but that aint the case with every dude. Thats why I said I know the chase is still happening. It’s still dudes who are legit out here chasing or pursuing women to be with them for the long run. I’ve had my fair share of chasers. Crazy shit about it though is niggas thats just chasing for the pussy, often times are using that same ass “game” that men who aren’t chasing for just the pussy use. That’s a part of the reason why females got a mind frame that “every nigga just want the pussy.” That’s why good dudes got it hard. No homo.
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damn....even i dont have a come back for this one.

she right.....
 
We gotta kill this simp shit...a nigga can't properly court a woman without it been seen as some simp shit.
 
Kandy said:
I agree with you but that aint the case with every dude. Thats why I said I know the chase is still happening. It’s still dudes who are legit out here chasing or pursuing women to be with them for the long run. I’ve had my fair share of chasers. Crazy shit about it though is niggas thats just chasing for the pussy, often times are using that same ass “game” that men who aren’t chasing for just the pussy use. That’s a part of the reason why females got a mind frame that “every nigga just want the pussy.” That’s why good dudes got it hard. No homo.
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Everything you said is the truth. It is not the case for all dudes. Hell I will say that most dudes are out for the pussy. I say that time and effort is the way to see a person true feelings. If they are willing to spend the time and give the effort then they usually want more than pussy. The amount of time and amount of effort is something the women has to measure.

Men often times are using that same ass “game” that men who aren’t chasing for just the pussy use......... dont do it for long. They have a time limit. Usually the effort is the first thing to start falling off. Remember time and effort. As long as you are making sure the he know you are interested in him, He should keep chasing. If he stops........................You have your answer.
 
caddo man said:
Men often times are using that same ass “game” that men who aren’t chasing for just the pussy use......... dont do it for long. They have a time limit.
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I disagree. It’s no set time limit. A man who is chasing a woman and really wanna be with her may decide to just say “fuck it” at any point too. He may feel like he is showing and proving enough but she may be so hooked on him chasing her that she ain’t realizing this nigga about to give up and move around.
 
I feel like women like the idea of being chased a lot. So much that they don’t know when to just give in. Then be mad as hell when dude stopped.
 
Kandy said:
I disagree. It’s no set time limit. A man who is chasing a woman and really wanna be with her may decide to just say “fuck it” at any point too. He may feel like he is showing and proving enough but she may be so hooked on him chasing her that she ain’t realizing this nigga about to give up and move around.
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You are right there is no set time limit. But really..........Do you want to be with a man that gives up so easily? Did he really want to be with you or just fuck? Time and Effort!

Kandy said:
I feel like women like the idea of being chased a lot. So much that they don’t know when to just give in. Then be mad as hell when dude stopped.
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That is dating!
 
caddo man said:
You are right there is no set time limit. But really..........Do you want to be with a man that gives up so easily? Did he really want to be with you or just fuck? Time and Effort!



That is dating!
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Whats considered easily? What if he been after her ass for damn near a year and she still stuck on the thrill of the chase? I wouldn’t say that’s giving up easily.
 
Kandy said:
Whats considered easily? What if he been after her ass for damn near a year and she still stuck on the thrill of the chase? I wouldn’t say that’s giving up easily.
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I cant speak for every man on earth or even the ATL but aint no man chasing no pussy and still giving max effort for a year. Key word is max effort. I think you said it. Pussy is to prevalent to be chasing for too long. A YEAR! All the time but I betcha it was no effort.

If you have met a mfer that just wanted the pussy and chased you with max effort for a year? Mo power to that brother cause he better than most. Most mfer start giving those 'are you still alive' text after a couple of months.

And when I say Effort I mean..................
1. spending quality time with that person. This is dates, holidays, weekends, etc. A date is being seen in public with you not at a hotel room.
2. calling that person or at the least communicating everyday. If I want to be with you. I am going to let you know it.
3. trying to impress the person. This is simply what dating is. But if you dont give a fuck about them. You dont give a fuck about impressing them.
4. letting that person meet your friends and family. This is a deep one cause when you meet both friends and family. Nigga you made it!
5.trying to make that person feel welcomed when they are around you.<- This sounds simple but you can tell when you are not welcomed or being ignored. If that person bring you around friends and family and they dont help you feel welcomed. Most likely everyone around you know something you need to figure out. You are here today and gone tomorrow.
6. And they are doing all these things for a significant amount of time. Not two months. Not five months. How about 1, 2, 3 years of treating you good?
 
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