Can someone tell me how black women are the least protected when everyone comes to their defense.
Yet black men are blamed and accused and constantly defending.
Now watch I get blamed for hating women. Damn idiots.
I dont think it's a blanketed issue. Like in the career/business world black woman are least protected in my opinion. And go through more hurdles.
But in the social sector or relationship sector men are held accountable in a certain way women aren't.
But see our social construct is flawed and alot of people think like oh, if you think like oh the man is a man and he is this sexual pursuer. The idea of him going out and fucking regardless if he is putting others at risk is a line of thinking that follows. The person believes it more.
It would be interesting to see like a study. If a woman came up to you and told you a man she was with gave her an std.... what's your 1st thought. Now if a man came up and said a woman gave him one, is your first thought the same ?
Gender debates should if anything teach us that sometimes we discuss Gender, when that is not the issue.
Attaching gender to behavior doesn't show to be a fair assessment of why someone did or behaved that way.
We( humans) try to decode behavior through the lense of gender way too much
For me, I don't think about the gender, it makes me think about what type of person this is.
This issue isn't oh black men are being targeted...
A dirty evil person can be a woman or a man.
I am sure if he got on tha internets and said this woman gave him an std, people would have been bashing her and calling her dirty etc etc
Like the way things are presented really matter, most of us are already processing thoughts as we are getting information.
You read the first 2 or three words of a headline or post and your brain starts sorting and processing.
So when you titled a video A woman or a man did (insert behavior).... biases are already being made involuntarily.
take away all the extra and you got a person publicly trying to shame someone with false information...this gotta be for revenge or she felt wronged, maybe he don't wanna fuck with her...etc etc
So she goes and does this as a way to hurt him . This person definitely has some issues, immature etc etc. Again traits that are not specific to a man or woman.
Despite how much we may want or say women act this way and men act that way. People are complex and you can't isolate conflict to just a factor of gender
My question is how do you avoid being with a person like this? Is this avoidable. Do you know someone is capable of this before you experience the actual situation?