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OPINION Whooping your kids is a sign of weak communication skills...

while I hear his point......it aint a one size fits all issue

there are parents that take their frustrations out on the children because they dont run anything anywhere else...its their one chance to be dominant and assertive and they "need" it

but at the same time, im more normal settings.....kids are kids and need to be smacked sometimes....im actually kinda soft on mine, or so my wife says....so im not in any sense the whoop ass first kinda dad....but every now and then everybody got that one that'll look them in the eye and do the shit they just told them not to....there's nothing you can articulate to a child to stop that lol...they are trying you....they are literally asking you where that line is so they'll know

but yes...back to the losers.....quit throat punching your kid in the store for asking for shit, just because you pissed off you cant buy it.....I hate to see that type of weak ass shit
 
i give everything an honest try,

but whoopings are always on the table....

and i'm way more confrontational with strangers than i am with my children.. dude geeking
 
In my opinion the way some people talk to their kids is probably way more damaging than a spanking could ever be. I was on the train the other day and saw this fat blob tell her kid who couldn't have been more than 8 to "shut the fuck up". That shit made my blood boil.
 
Before I spank my kids, I give them multiple chances to understand the severity of what they are doing. I try to hand out punishments while letting them know. This is because you misbehaved, I let them know what their misbehavior was. I let them know the consequences of their misbehavior as it affects others.

I do all of that combines with punishment and give them three times for me to have to speak on the same things. If and when the forth time comes, I apply the threat of physical consequence. If it scares them enough to where they are crying before I lay a hand on them. I don't hit them but I tell them to remember that energy when and if you keep that same energy.

If it happens again, I go straight into ass whuppin mode, ion talk ion give warning, I get busy.
 
SneakDZA said:
I need to know what having permanent doodles scribbled all over your face is a sign of.

But yeah there isn't really a great reason to give a kid a full-on asswhooping.
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He said he did that on purpose so he would look un-employable and be forced to work for himself.

He didn't need face tats to do that but I guess...
 
SneakDZA said:
In my opinion the way some people talk to their kids is probably way more damaging than a spanking could ever be. I was on the train the other day and saw this fat blob tell her kid who couldn't have been more than 8 to "shut the fuck up". That shit made my blood boil.
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Bruhhh facts I hate when people cuss kids out.

Off topic but on topic... I was at the dmv today and this older couple had this young boy with them...don't know if it was their son or grandson or what but he couldn't have been older than 5 or 6...he running all through the building pressing buttons on the computers and shit and they're waiting outside in line just letting him do whatever. They get inside and they get ready to leave and the kid wasn't listening to them. So the mom goes "ima get the police on you"....boy straightens up and runs right to her.

Shit bothered me because
1) why is your kid more afraid ofa discipline from strangers than you?
2) i dont think she meant it literally, but yall are black why are you threatening police on a black boy?
3) why does he already associate police with fear? I mean that's moreso society's problem than his parents, but that's fucked up they tried to manipulate his fear.
 
atribecalledGabi said:
Bruhhh facts I hate when people cuss kids out.

Off topic but on topic... I was at the dmv today and this older couple had this young boy with them...don't know if it was their son or grandson or what but he couldn't have been older than 5 or 6...he running all through the building pressing buttons on the computers and shit and they're waiting outside in line just letting him do whatever. They get inside and they get ready to leave and the kid wasn't listening to them. So the mom goes "ima get the police on you"....boy straightens up and runs right to her.

Shit bothered me because
1) why is your kid more afraid ofa discipline from strangers than you?
2) i dont think she meant it literally, but yall are black why are you threatening police on a black boy?
3) why does he already associate police with fear? I mean that's moreso society's problem than his parents, but that's fucked up they tried to manipulate his fear.
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Ion like to use the term woke, cause it's over and misused. But woke.should mean you have a more than basic understanding of the ripple effect of things that both you and others do.

Some people just ain't woke...in that situation my heart goes out to the grandmother and grandson. That she don't know better and that he's gotta deal with that fact.
 
I had a harsh childhood when it comes to the "authority figures" in my life and I know how much it fucked me up. And how much work I had to put in and still put in just to remain a decent person in my own opinion.

So I'm really mindful of my approach with my kids. My wife came from a mom from the island and a dad from Brooklyn. So she's much more aggressive, language wise.. when with the kids.

I talk to her about it, but she's not on that level of understanding just how much affect it had on her and it can have on a child's development. So I have to work that much harder to reinforce strength and confidence in them.

But I think it's gonna all work out for them in the long run
 
as long as you care for them the right way and show them love, you can call your kid a shithead and its really not damaging

that'll be their best memories when they grow up.....they'll be missing being called shithead

but yeah the full blown berating and belittling is another "strike at my kid cuz im mad at the world and myself" kinda thing

they're most likely made to feel small and insignificant in another aspect in life
 
1/2 said:
as long as you care for them the right way and show them love, you can call your kid a shithead and its really not damaging

that'll be their best memories when they grow up.....they'll be missing being called shithead

but yeah the full blown berating and belittling is another "strike at my kid cuz im mad at the world and myself" kinda thing

they're most likely made to feel small and insignificant in another aspect in life
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Nah man

Don't call ya children shithead

Da hell?
 
its in the most playful and loving way you could imagine

the middle one is the homie...she dishes it right back....she dont cuss but she's funny as hell

"you little pee pee boy"

put a country toddler accent on that
 
ah man lemme go, ya'll for real lol

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I called my son a pussy for getting punked by a fat Mexican kid at the park

And he showed me he wasn't. I was so proud.

He to nice because he be trying not to hurt kids his age do to his aggressiveness but the kid at the park took it to far. I had to get my son amped up so ppl don't mistake his niceness for weakness



It is what it is
 
I agree with the thread title but did not watch the video...Kids are just small minds trying to grow and beating them only teaches them fear and how to use violence as a problem solver...I use my words to get my son to fall in line...my daughter is at the age where she will sometimes test me but I will never hit her because this is just her age (4) the time will come when she also falls into place with just my words.
 
DOS_patos said:
Says only kids who didn't think they shoulda been beat.

Talking works with some.
Spankings work with others.
Some just need "the look"
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This. My mom and sis try to talk to my nephew before they eventually get fed up and beat that ass. All I gotta do is look at that lil nigga and his mood change. Never had to put a hand on him. And never will. Im not around him everyday and shit tho. I have the luxury of saying "that's not my child" if he wildin out.
 
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