When Your Best Isn't Good Enough...

[NeighborhoodNomad]

How do you handle failure?

Generally speaking, when your best isn't good enough do you do something else or do you attempt to do better?

 

[1/2]

lots of context and variables missing but yeah, for the most part I just try to do better

if its some shit thats just super obvious its not for me then I have to accept that and move on

if ya'll havent noticed I love talking about my failures and down times and embarrassing moments......shits my favorite lol....but thinking about that in the sense of this question, its probably my way of dealing with those failures better.....the more I talk about it, get roasted or whatever it just rubs off as being a normal part of life and its easier to move past it imo

 

[DOS_patos]

How do you handle failure?

Generally speaking, when your best isn't good enough do you do something else or do you attempt to do better?

Gotta analyze the situation first.
You may be good enough...just wrong time or one wrong decision. Or it could just be your lane.


Be careful the words you speak.
You tend to believe what you hear.

 

[onetoughmiracle]

If my best isn't enough, it might not be for me. I'll move on. There's no need for me to waste time and energy.

 

[Chicity]

I never give anything more than 80%

So if I fail, I just tell myself its because I didn't give it my all.

 

[Dwayne]

 

[CeLLar-DooR]

I never give anything more than 80%

So if I fail, I just tell myself its because I didn't give it my all.

Same prolly a lower percentage tho'.

I'm clever tho' so I got good enough grades throughout schoolin'

 

[NeighborhoodNomad]

I understand every situation is different and would be approached differently but I'm more or less talking about if there's a pattern you can notice in the way you deal with it.

For example think of 10 unsuccessful attempts you've made at anything in your life whether small or large. Of those 10 things which did you do more of, doing better or doing something else?

 

[NeighborhoodNomad]

I never give anything more than 80%

So if I fail, I just tell myself its because I didn't give it my all.

So does that mean you try something else?

Also what's the difference between failing giving 80% and failing giving 100%?

 

[NeighborhoodNomad]

Same prolly a lower percentage tho'.

I'm clever tho' so I got good enough grades throughout schoolin'

What percentage would you say you give?

 

[Chicity]

So does that mean you try something else?

Also what's the difference between failing giving 80% and failing giving 100%?

I don't think I try anything more than once

I know with the other 20% I would have suceeded

 

[konceptjones]

I don't handle failure well at all. I tend to dwell on it and over analyze the situation to death. The shit can take me to a pretty dark, dismal place depending on what it is.

 

[B_A]

I'm an overachiever so if my best isnt good enough I generally assume you're petty, nit picking or jealous.

 

[RusselWilsonJr]

Theres a mediation I do, in it, the person who guides it says..

Imagine in this life that everything that you do, you are trying to do what's best for you. You are trying to find the perfect fit, think of the perfect fit and the perfect life. Think about what you want and what has to be in your life for it to be perfect.

Now that you have envisioned that, realize that every other human in life is one the same journey. Now realize that you didnt fail, you just didnt fit into what they were looking for. There is nothing wrong with you, and nothing wrong with them. It just didnt fit

I listen to that with the rest of the guided meditation and I feel better. Then it's just letting myself deal with whatever residual energy is there. Try to learn from the experience

 

[mryounggun]

I’ve never failed at anything. So I dunno really.

 

[RusselWilsonJr]

For every time I've failed I can look back at it and see why I failed. And it was usually arrogance that made me believe at that time that my effort was the best effort I couldve put forth. I'm usually able to see what I couldve done differently and just apply that to the next thing if I care enough. But most shit gets around 70% of my effort. I try not to be in the position where I gotta give my best. Cause ion want no one expecting that as the standard, nah that's peak performance. You gotta earn that.

 

[Soul_Rattler]

Every black man in America can speak to this topic.

Your good will never be good enough for anyone on this planet, sometimes not even your own brothers in the struggle.

So your best has to be good enough for yourself. When you try and don't achieve the desired result, you have to know that you were only preparing for an even greater achievement. Only you know when you're at your best. And even when you don't, you can always count on someone to tell you that you need to do more.

It sounds bleak, but that's what makes the black man a superior being. No other living thing has the entire world constantly demanding you to be better while putting obstacles in your way hoping you fail.

You get to constantly overcome. Constantly prevail. Constantly win in spite of...

 

[BRIAN B.]

Can't fail until you quit

 

[shutupGabi]

When you try your best but you dont succeed

 

[shutupGabi]

I’ve never failed at anything. So I dunno really.

Was gonna say this. The only times I've failed was when I wasnt trying.