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Are you 100% yourself or a nicer version of yourself when trying to holla at someone?

Are you cautious? Do you just not give a fuck?
 
I think it all depends on tha situation...

If it’s a yamp you just trying to catch late night after tha club you can throw caution to tha wind and be as vulgar as you need to get tha job done...

But I think if it’s someone you’re feeling and you actually care about tha “consequences” of your approach you may be on your best behavior...

In both scenarios I think being yourself is key...just which “self” you put on display becomes important
 
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I need the real person from the jump so it won’t be no surprises. If you ghetto, be ghetto because if I choose to stick around it’s because i truly like you and not falling for that nice shit you was spitting from the jump.

If you ain’t shit, then be that. That’s how you know a mf rock with you if they stick around after that.
 
Kandy said:
I need the real person from the jump so it won’t be no surprises. If you ghetto, be ghetto because if I choose to stick around it’s because i truly like you and not falling for that nice shit you was spitting from the jump.

If you ain’t shit, then be that. That’s how you know a mf rock with you if they stick around after that.
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What about niggaz who are “multidimensional”?? Nigga may have “ain’t shit tendencies” but those tendencies not always on display...is he fake for giving you tha good without that bad...off jump??
 
I want it all because I give it all. Who you meet is who you get when it comes to me, that’s what I’m always credited for. Being me regardless.
 
Kandy said:
I want it all because I give it all. Who you meet is who you get when it comes to me, that’s what I’m always credited for. Being me regardless.
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But how does a multifaceted individual give you every side of themselves during tha initial “getting at you” period with out coming across as crazy or temperamental or w/e term most women would try and categorize said individual??

Asking for a friend....
 
Just do the shit. I want people to know I’m crazy and if he chooses to stick around, that’s on him. He can’t complain I’m crazy because he knew that.

How do you do it, talk to them. Communication does a lot.

Friend my ass.
 
This question is flawed. Nobody is the same all the time. You know how many changes a person undergoes from day-to-day and week-to-week? We're growing, maturing, and being influenced under all kinds of different situations. Not to mention, there are lots of reasons to believe that there isn't just one self but actually a bunch of different selves. We're constantly code-switching and adapting to different scenarios.

I highly doubt anybody is the same person they are at work that they are with their kids or with their boys. That's way too one dimensional. People are complex af
 
So if you not forth coming about every aspect of yourself from tha jump its being fake?? A nigga like myself is mad laid back, easy going and likes to laugh and joke...but I also have a bad temper and don’t get “calmed down” easily once I’m to that point...how I show both those sides until both sides are warranted?? I talk “hood”, “ghetto”, “street” “urban” or whatever adjective you wanna use to describe it, but I’m also tha son of an English major who can and will speak articulately when I need to...I am being fake if I cuss but also won’t use a prepositional phrase at tha end of a sentence??

I just think that part of who I am is being diverse and it’s almost impossible to get that across when “wooing” someone without coming across as a schizo...
 
Kandy said:
Are you 100% yourself or a nicer version of yourself when trying to holla at someone?

Are you cautious? Do you just not give a fuck?
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Really depends on whether I'm trying to build or I'm just trying to smash.

More than anything when I'm trying to build I'm shy and timid af cause I don't want to get turned down. That shit be working against me tho. If I'm just trying to smash I'll get right to it and say whatever nfg.
 
Y’all thinking too deep into the shit. Duh a person goes through changes which affect how they are at a moment.


However, if you know you’re not a damn gentlemen normally, why front like you are one when trying to “holler”.
 
Kandy said:
Y’all thinking too deep into the shit. Duh a person goes through changes which affect how they are at a moment.


However, if you know you’re not a damn gentlemen normally, why front like you are one when trying to “holler”.
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I don't think any guy or woman for that matter is 100 until they all the way in it and even then...
That's my personal opinion. Being 100% honest is hard af.
 
Idky, I been walking this earth to long to be fronting for pussy or relationships

I'm me everytime all the time and if she ain't feeling it so be it.

With that said, I can loose interest easily and because of that I can come off as rude 'all of a sudden'
 
Kandy said:
Y’all thinking too deep into the shit. Duh a person goes through changes which affect how they are at a moment.


However, if you know you’re not a damn gentlemen normally, why front like you are one when trying to “holler”.
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Now niggaz can’t think?! Women!! Boy I tell’ya...

:scust1:LOL...
 
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