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Judge Dread

Judge Dread

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The last couple of days there has been a lot of conversations about relationships and scenarios. Whether being a gentlemen is corny to some. Who pays for dates. When and how often someone should call. What are you individual rules for dating? What do you require and what doesn’t matter.
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And before anyone jokes you can only at a certain amount of people AP is on this list because his the first male name starting with A.
 
Goldie said:
The only rule is there are no rules
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certainly you have some guidelines

as calculated as you are?? I doubt you seriously going in blindfolded like "yea...lets just see what works"
 
AP21 said:
certainly you have some guidelines

as calculated as you are?? I doubt you seriously going in blindfolded like "yea...lets just see what works"
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I was more so saying what works for me won't work for you, so there's really no one set of rules.


Even if I was only talking about me, rules are meant to be broken. There's been things I said I wouldn't deal with and ended up pushing my "rule" to the side for a shorty I felt was beyond setting rules for.

Too many people let there rules and "standards" hinder their chances of truly finding someone to make em happy.
 
But there has to be baseline things that you won’t tolerate or things that automatically make you not want to engage a person further.
 
Goldie said:
I was more so saying what works for me won't work for you, so there's really no one set of rules.


Even if I was only talking about me, rules are meant to be broken. There's been things I said I wouldn't deal with and ended up pushing my "rule" to the side for a shorty I felt was beyond setting rules for.

Too many people let there rules and "standards" hinder their chances of truly finding someone to make em happy.
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dude asked you specifically what are YOUR rules

c'mon man lol
 
Judge Dread said:
But there has to be baseline things that you won’t tolerate or things that automatically make you not want to engage a person further.
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Nah, cuz like I said, there's been things I said I wouldn't deal with or a type of woman I wouldn't talk to and then did, cuz shorty had everything else I wanted.

And I'm not even gonna entertain the small shit like if the person doesn't call u in 2 days for example. So yall really gonna break up with ur s/o cuz yall haven't spoke in 2 days?

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Ofc there's obvious shit like , don't kill my family lol But all that other shit like "this person has to text me this much" or she can't be too ghetto, etc, trust me, when u meet someone special, you'll push your rules to the side.
 
Be able to hold a good and interesting conversation....have engaging personality

that's pretty much it.....

i've been called out plenty of times for talking to "any ole thing" but i like people who can actually fucking talk........

everything else is too personality specific.

I can't really tell how well i'll get along with a person until i really get to know them....

and i can't get to know them unless they have a nice personality and are willing to talk....


so those are pretty much my only two upfront requirements...

i mean shit, i never felt like i was all that to be having a log list of what i require, or what i'm not willing to deal with....

i typically determine shit as it comes up...cuz i've been known to not let a lotta shit bother me if i'm really digging the person
 
Goldie said:
Nah, cuz like I said, there's been things I said I wouldn't deal with or a type of woman I wouldn't talk to and then did, cuz shorty had everything else I wanted.

And I'm not even gonna entertain the small shit like if the person doesn't call u in 2 days for example. So yall really gonna break up with ur s/o cuz yall haven't spoke in 2 days?

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Ofc there's obvious shit like , don't kill my family lol But all that other shit like "this person has to text me this much" or she can't be too ghetto, etc, trust me, when u meet someone special, you'll push your rules to the side.
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lmao I remember when you said you breaking up with a chick if she goes "missing without a trace for 24hrs" after @atribecalledGabi said she don't wanna talk daily

I'm still laughing at that, cuz you phrased it like she was on a missing persons list
 
I don't think being a gentleman is corny. I don't wanna come off as one of those women who be like, "Girl...he's just too nice for me", but :yikes1:...Lolllll.


I've said before I like a lil bit of rudeness, but what I'm really trynna say is that I want someone who won't let me walk all over them or let me/anyone speak to them any kind of way.

My mom's husband is a complete nutcase and jackass, but he has ALWAYS opened doors or escorted her to her car. She has never touched a door when he's around. I've never really seen anyone do this, besides in movies. My brothers and male cousins always hold doors for females, but I've never seen them open and close car doors for a woman.

I like mannerism and I'm big on respect, but that might be the southern in me. I think as time moves, gender roles evolve; different groups of people require less/nothing from who they're courting or dating. I personally have a mixture of traditional and new age ways.

I can pay for dates.
I can cook for him everyday most days.
I can do his laundry and fold his clothes.
I can take the trashcan to and from the curb.
I can open and close my own car door, but he can open/hold others I walk through.
He can call/text me the same day/night if that's how he feels.
I can let him lead.

I still like my private time also. I can go some hours/days without being in his face or him in mine.
 
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