Unpopular Opinion: Bullies

RandomOne said:
What would you do if you found out your kid is the bully of their school? Deny it with "it can't be my kid"?
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Every single instance that it's been introduced that my kid might've been the aggressor, I directly reached out to the parents to resolve it.

In my experiences, it was never that serious, as kids and teachers tend to over hype shit...

But that term didn't follow him. They tried it, but I fought back by responsible parent engagement
 
RandomOne said:
8 fights in a school year is kind of crazy though
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That's a light year for some of my son's worst years.

Pre covid it was almost daily. And the worst part was he felt he was the one being bullied at times... But it was literally kids age appropriately clashing in different personalities in what they perceived as a hostile environment. They thought they had to fight. I taught them to be friends. Both my wife and my son think I should work in middle schools, but I try to tell them both, I don't have the patience to deal with the personnel in those positions. They just like the kids. And it's difficult enough as a parent
 
I don't have kids but I've always said that I would send my child to self defense class by time they enter middle school. I still remember how fast middle school were compared to elementary. I don't think my niece is going to have those issues. I hope not but already at 10 years old. My niece can fight. She's one of the best martial arts fighters in my hometown. Plus she have impeccable work ethic. That girl always wanna kick or punch a bag lol
 
My homeboy gave me a heavy bag that he had hung up in his garage. I just copped a stand for it from Play it again sports for the low.

I just started teaching my son the basics of boxing… Teaching him form and footwork and told him to just get comfortable hitting the bag…
 
RandomOne said:
What would you do if you found out your kid is the bully of their school? Deny it with "it can't be my kid"?
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Give my number to the parents and establish a line of communication. In my experience, that has resolved every ongoing conflict my child has had with a kid. And literally every single time it was something silly that was easily worked out.

Accountability and communication works.

Kids don't think like adults, they do immature shit. And parents have to teach them better..I take that shit seriously.
 
it's nuance to this situation IMO

I taught my kids to defend themselves at an early age


I think a young kid (elementary age) should be forced to fight back/stand up for his/herself

but once u get to pre-teen and above years u have to teach them different options for conflict resolution with violence as the last resort



teaching a timid kid at an early age to continue to be timid and immediately searching for help from others is more traumatic long term

cuz in real life most authorities don't give af about saving u and u have to learn to establish ur personal boundaries as soon as possible



then there is the issue of what type of school u have ur kid going to.......it makes sense to consider how much and what type of bullying is happening there on a regular basis

u have to be willing to pull ur kid out of a shitty school environment and do ur best to put them somewhere will they will thrive
 
I get @RandomOne and @RandomNegro confused way too often...


And it's ironically a LOTTA niggas named random on this site...

Like @ random and look at how far the bar drops...

Lol if everybody random, ain't none of y'all niggas really random 🤣🤣 how is random a common name? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Ah man, I've been laughing like 30 minutes straight at this site
 
Duwop said:
If your kid can't fight. Telling them to hit a bully back is dumb as fuck.

You better teach that kid to tell, or go to the school and get that kid in trouble yourself. But instructing your kid to go get their ass whooped is crazy work. One, they not gonna trust you no more.. Two, they may take an ass whooping that they really ain't ready for.

But a lotta people too angry and not mature enough to accept that that's not the lane for their kids. Best case scenario is for responsible adults to intervene.

And niggas know when their kid can't fight or not built like that. They just ignore it cuz of their own insecurities.
And that's fucked up.
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I've always thought that was stupid. What's also dumb is parents that see their kids lose a fight making them go back and fight again like things will change.
 
Neighborhood bully is bullying my kid and everyone turns a blind eye to it...

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R.I.P. neighborhood
 
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