The Chill Spot (We Hit 2 Million Views!)

Status
Not open for further replies.
BNE said:
my views on this aint unique.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/10/03/dating-with-kids-5-ground_n_1911152.html

u can go against the consensus tho, aint my business

does it matter that a stranger thinks it's reckless?
Click to expand...

I"m asking, what's the difference with introducing your child to a male co-worker, barber, church member, than introducing him to somebody you smashing?

I'm not saying that every dude you smash you should introduce lil bud buds to him, but if you and your fuck-buddy is cool about things, what's bad about introducing lil bud buds to him? So the dude at church who you may see once a week (on Sunday) knows lil bud buds, but the nigga you're fucking every 2 days, sneak out at 3 or 4 a.m. before bud buds get up or have to stay in the room until bud buds leave to catch the bus, can't get that intro?
 
I don't like people assuming they cooler with me than they are.

You cool with me....not my kids....

That shit to comfortable. I never was a fan of that
 
Bum From Bmore said:
Knock stay bringing church into shit that ain't got nuffin to do with it....
Click to expand...

It just a place where most ppl frequent and interact with the opposite sex on a common term. Church is one of the places, work is another, school, etc. But mostly a kid will be with the mama at church or at a job function or with her at her job on special days.
 
Bottom line is this, I don't want someone I'm just fucking in any other aspect of my life.

I feel like to keep it at that level you have to set boundaries.

If you allow them around your kids, that's a sign that you're okay with getting closer than y'all currently are. That's a message I'd rather not send.

With co workers or other social acquaintances, they already a part of that side of my life so it's nuffin.....

But if i met you as a fuck buddy, and want you to stay as just a fuck buddy you not meeting any friends or family, and I don't expect to meet yours....

That's only for people I'm attempting to get to know better bcuz that's where we wanna go
 
Knock_Twice said:
It just a place where most ppl frequent and interact with the opposite sex on a common term. Church is one of the places, work is another, school, etc. But mostly a kid will be with the mama at church or at a job function or with her at her job on special days.
Click to expand...
Well those people are obviously a part that post of their life....

Some folk don't deal with work folk or church folk outside of those places...


I ain't invite no church kids to the zoo for my kids birthday....it was just his cousins
 
BNE said:
Personally, I think it's wrong to muddle the 2.

It's different because I'm not sexually or romantically involved with my male coworker, barber or church member. If someone's role in my life is as a fuckbuddy, that is a path that is fine to have but not one that crosses with family life.

And if you do that with one fwb, why not the fwb u have the following year? or the year after that?

where is the line drawn? that's subjective, but I believe in keeping this kinda shit separate.
Click to expand...

A. Why do you think it's wrong?

B. You would put a complete stranger over your fuck-buddy, (meaning, you will introduce your child to a deacon/pastor/ if he ask lil bud buds his name, you won't be quick to shut it down eh?, but you wouldn't introduce your child to a fuckbuddy?


C. Fuck buddies varies, one could be a cool ass person, we like the same shows, like the same rap artist, comedians etc, one could be just on some, come over get this dick and be out, we don't talk, we don't share anything common, don't call me asking how my day going, we just str8 fucking, one could have kids themselves and just wanna know lil bud buds and that's it, not trying to build nothing with bud buds, just want lil bud buds to know who she is, so when he sees her in the house by any chance, lil bud buds won't be alarmed. I mean it's varies with your FWB situation.

D. You draw the line IMO if you know this will only last for x amount of time, you know how long you wanna fuck someone or have an idea (I think) when you start fucking that person. If you can see yourself as FWB with them for 2 - 3 years, you really think, that person sneaking in your house and leaving before lil bud buds wake up won't get tired for them?
 
That shit ain't same fam. I ain't tryna be round your kids, don't try to be round mines.

Keep family and fucking separate unless y'all tryna go together
 
@Knock_Twice you said you don't believe there is a such thing as bf and gf activities.

How would either type of relationship and the person be considered special if you're treating the fuckbuddy and gf the same, taking them to the same exact places, and introducing them to significant ppl and ventures in your life? How do you differentiate the two?
 
Blactivity said:
@Knock_Twice you said you don't believe there is a such thing as bf and gf activities.

How would either type of relationship and the person be considered special if you're treating the fuckbuddy and gf the same, taking them to the same exact places, and introducing them to significant ppl and ventures in your life? How do you differentiate the two?
Click to expand...
Simple

I tell the gf she's my gf and the fuck Buddie we are just fuck buddies
 
BNE said:
I can't say where I would place a fuck buddy on the priority scale because I've never had or wanted to have a fuck buddy. Seeing as I wouldn't bring a guy I was dating around a child of mine unless we'd discussed plans of settling down together, my not introducing them isn't a matter of me thinking other ppl are more important. It's reducing messiness and attachments that don't need to be made (yet). Also, assuming I like my offspring, I wouldn't wanna color their opinion of me negatively with a revolving door of ppl who smash.

I think it's wrong because it's emotionally negligent toward the child. I see it as shitting where you sleep. Just like I wouldn't introduce a one night stand to my parents the next day, I wouldn't introduce someone that's regulated to smash-only to loved ones. Any loved ones. Especially not a loved one that's young and dependent.
Click to expand...
Great Post
 
Blactivity said:
So there's nothing special? Thought so.
Click to expand...

Anything wrong with that?

So special things places are reserved for your bf,

So if you had a chance to go to Hawaii, or China anywhere you and your fuck buddy, for a weekend
You wouldn't take them? If you were single?

Let me guess you're saving for when you get into a relationship, that trip/activity for your bf or husband because its special?
 
Knock_Twice said:
Yes, date, mingle, kick it, all of that.

Does everybody get a date no, does everyone get the same treatment on a date yes
Click to expand...
Well I meant do you not believe in having a girlfriend? Once she's your fuck buddy she gets all the treatment a gf gets right? So what's the point of calling her your girlfriend or taking it to the next level? That's what you're saying right?
 
Knock_Twice said:
Anything wrong with that?

So special things places are reserved for your bf,

So if you had a chance to go to Hawaii, or China anywhere you and your fuck buddy, for a weekend
You wouldn't take them? If you were single?

Let me guess you're saving for when you get into a relationship, that trip/activity for your bf or husband because its special?
Click to expand...
If everybody can have it, receive it, do it, what makes it any more meaningful or worthy?

I'm not takin my fuckbuddies on vacation with me. It's roles in life. That's why sidechicks gettin embarrassed, then dropped now days trying to do main chick stuff i.e. uploading pics and vids of the activities they do together. Play your part bih.
 
Status
Not open for further replies.
Back
Top