Son who wrote viral revenge obituary about his mom explains why he did it

[DOS_patos]

The son who wrote a harsh obituary about his late mother spoke out on Wednesday about why he and his sister decided to reveal why they felt "this world is a much better place without" Kathleen Dehmlow.

Jay Dehmalo, 58, told the Daily Mail that his mother, who died Thursday at the the age of 80, prompted a dysfunctional childhood for him, and his sister, Gina, after she became pregnant by her brother-in-law.

"We wanted to finally get the last word," Dehmalo told the news outlet. "You could write it all down in a book or turn it into a movie and people wouldn't believe what we went through."

The siblings wrote that Dehmlow "abandoned" them in 1962 as she became pregnant and moved to California. Dehmlow's parents then raised Dehmalo and his sister.

"She passed away on May 31, 2018 in Springfield and will now face judgment," the now-removed obituary read. "She will not be missed by Gina and Jay, and they understand that this world is a better place without her."

Dehmlow's sister, Judy, described the obit to the Mail as "nasty," and said it had "hurt the family tremendously" before questioning why people are discussing it because "it's not important."

"Not important?" Dehmalo asked. "Sure. They have no idea what we went through and back then, in the '50s and '60s, nobody talked about anything."

The 58-year-old said he and his sister had to piece together information about their family and mother throughout their lives, claiming the two didn't know they had half-brothers until years after they were born.

The rare instances Dehmalo recalls her taking a break from "having a great life in California with her other kids" and visiting them, the two "didn't have so much as a card from her. I remember she came home twice and on one occasion she was showing pictures of her and her kids playing cards, drinking beers."


"Gina and I were standing in the room, just standing there and she didn't even acknowledge us," the man said. "It's like we didn't exist."

The "revenge obituary" was pulled from the Redwood Falls Gazette and removed from Legacy.com.

 

[DMorgan]

That fucked up that they removed that Obituary from the paper and Legacy.com website.

Did the paper give the kids the money back it cost to have the Obituary in the paper?

 

[CeLLar-DooR]

Seems pretty self explanatory. I don't get why you have to say nice things about dead people.

 

[SeaSnake]

Damn so they got a cousin sibling out there

 

[OriginalMan!]

They just mentally ill nothing to see here take em to burger king

 

[Babelipsss]

She shouldn't have abandoned them. They have every right to feel how they feel. Every mother isn't a saint.

 

[Allergens]

Ion get it, the siblings wrote it together, then the sister says it was nasty but no big deal. Then the brother is like, what u mean no big deal.

So did they write it together or did he just write it?

 

[DMorgan]

Damn so they got a cousin sibling out there

That is the wildest shit and whats fucked is I don't think its that uncommon.

Jermaine and Randy Jackson of the Jackson 5 have the same baby mother.

 

[DMorgan]

Ion get it, the siblings wrote it together, then the sister says it was nasty but no big deal. Then the brother is like, what u mean no big deal.

So did they write it together or did he just write it?

Your reading comprehension on this one is off there.

It is the dead mother's sister who said it was nasty but no big deal. Not the daughter

 

[Allergens]

Your reading comprehension on this one is off there.

It is the dead mother's sister who said it was nasty but no big deal. Not the daughter

Ok, they just said the last names sister...they both share the same last name

 

[SeaSnake]

That is the wildest shit and whats fucked is I don't think its that uncommon.

Jermaine and Randy Jackson of the Jackson 5 have the same baby mother.

Just damn. Like why fuck raw i know people aint shit by why add extra by doing it raw.

 

[Mister B.]

Seems pretty self explanatory. I don't get why you have to say nice things about dead people.

True. Shitballs in life should be treated as shitballs in death.

 

[DOS_patos]

Ion get it, the siblings wrote it together, then the sister says it was nasty but no big deal. Then the brother is like, what u mean no big deal.

So did they write it together or did he just write it?

she may have felt like...thats how i felt..so what

he may have felt.....fuck yeah...i got her back

 

[BRIAN B.]

She shouldn't have abandoned them. They have every right to feel how they feel. Every mother isn't a saint.

Yea, but all that "you don't know what it was like in the 50s & 60s blah blah.."

Really?

You know what it was like for my dad, mom, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. comin up in Alabama during the 50s & 60s? Lol

so pardon me if ion feel this mommy left me boo hoo shit

 

[The Lonious Monk]

I don't really see why this is news. Obits exist so those closest to the dead can memorialize them. If those closest to you think you are a piece of shit, it makes sense that you'd be memorialized as such.

 

[Dwayne]

Lmao

She dead. It doesn’t have any affect on her. All it does is make the family look like hillbillies with the their siblings being their cousins.

Now the whole world know

They get the L