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Should you wait until marriage

I will say this...

In general, knowing how to deny your primitive instincts or delay immediate gratification by choice can make you an overall stronger person.

As far as waiting until marriage, I personally couldn't do it, but I wouldn't knock anyone else who does.

Waiting could possibly add more layers to that relationship on an emotional level.

Who is to say that one of you is not going to come down with a sickness or have some type of accident in the immediate future?

Both instances could take your ability away to physically love someone for a while to forever, and having that strong emotional bond in place can help a relationship weather that storm.

If someone is wack beyond repair, then there is always toys and cuckolding. Marriage is all about compromising for the greater good, right?

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King Du said:
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to be fair, the reason isn't the cohabitation itself. the research was basically summarized as:
  • some couples cohabitate too soon cuz they wanna save on living costs, not have a new stage of the relationship
  • those same couples might not actually be right for each other but they close off their other options n have a harder time leaving, cuz of that shared lease n getting used to split expenses b
  • some other couples r debating marriage but move in together as a trial period. allegedly, couples who feel the need to do a trial period r usually doing so cuz they aint certain. then since society expects ppl to get married after a certain # of living together, the couple who was on a trial period might end up getting married "just because" it's been enough living together, not cuz it's whats best.

so its the couples, not the shacking up. the higher divorce rate is cuz of the reasons why they cohabitated. im sure the couples that wld've lasted regardless do not divorce cuz they shacked up beforehand.
 
devil's advocate:

how many "he/she aint shit but the dick/pussy too good to leave" situations wld there be if ppl waited until certain of someones character?
 
BNE said:
to be fair, the reason isn't the cohabitation itself. the research was basically summarized as:
  • some couples cohabitate too soon cuz they wanna save on living costs, not have a new stage of the relationship
  • those same couples might not actually be right for each other but they close off their other options n have a harder time leaving, cuz of that shared lease n getting used to split expenses b
  • some other couples r debating marriage but move in together as a trial period. allegedly, couples who feel the need to do a trial period r usually doing so cuz they aint certain. then since society expects ppl to get married after a certain # of living together, the couple who was on a trial period might end up getting married "just because" it's been enough living together, not cuz it's whats best.

so its the couples, not the shacking up. the higher divorce rate is cuz of the reasons why they cohabitated. im sure the couples that wld've lasted regardless do not divorce cuz they shacked up beforehand.
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i figured as much, i just like to pretend blanket statements apply to me
 
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