808HiLife808
Refugee
we grew up in the same households lol
Reply as a black parent.
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Norrin_Radd
I'm Low-key/Loki even more-so than Thor's bro...
Busta Carmichael
LOT - Full-Time Kufi/Yarmulke Smacker
Black_Samson
OG
Let's go work on the car.
I just think the entire perspective is different when you got kids who with the shits...
Like my son go to school with kids who come from really fucked up situations. Home is not good, and these kids come to school angry, hurt, alone.
And these kids sometimes lash out.
My son tho..... Homie really ain't tryna hear it....u push up on him, he ready. And he will not calm down. Dude get amped as fuck.
Its much better now, cuz I constantly work with him.... But it places things in perspective. Cuz I see how the schools treat kids who don't got parents like me.
If it wasn't for me...... Man.... Like I say.. If your kid say something like that listen... Cuz you have no idea what his friends go home to, and shit like that absolutely will take a toll on a child
Like you ever see a kid in a certain living situation and as an adult..... It fucks with you.
Like you feel like you should do something for this kid... But don't know where to begin.
Imagine that kid is your friend, and you're only like 8 or 9.
How do you emotionally process that? How do you as a child understand that your friends parents don't give a fuck about them.
Don't ignore your kids when they say they depressed..... Hear that shit out.. Just cuz they ain't got bills don't mean they ain't got issues
Like you feel like you should do something for this kid... But don't know where to begin.
Imagine that kid is your friend, and you're only like 8 or 9.
How do you emotionally process that? How do you as a child understand that your friends parents don't give a fuck about them.
Don't ignore your kids when they say they depressed..... Hear that shit out.. Just cuz they ain't got bills don't mean they ain't got issues
DOS_patos
Unverified Legion of Trill member
but thats not depressed...thats your child maybe being too emphatic....and thats ok...shows me my child is not cold hearted. but seeing someone else go thru something should be a teaching point on being thankful and how we are all not the same but doesnt mean we are bad people but some people have legit frustrations and dont know how to handle it. already had this type of talk with my niece.
but i spoke about it a bit.....when i charlotte i volunteer at my nieces school. and its this one kid....you can see his leadership skills and hes happy as fuck all day...but right before its time to go home.....dude gets into a trance and its like dont fuck with him.
turns out his mom makes him live her life....niggas aint shit...fighting chicks in front of him ,....dad aint shit.
but you can see the potential...i once asked kandy how should i approach the situation because you can see he can be something.....she told me to leave it alone as did alot of other people. turns out someone did try...and got cussed out and challenged to fight by the mom.
T. Sanford
T. Sanford/Trill Doggy Dog (Legion Of Trill)
"You better depress into that room and clean that room up before I give you something to really be depressed about"
DOS_patos
Unverified Legion of Trill member
i think we all would talk to our kids......mine arent kids no more but i might have another soon and i would handle things accordingly.
just like i am sure most of us would.
but i also think that most parents a are in tune with their kids and would be able to sense something waaaaaaay before they say something.
and if you are not in tune with your child.....thats another problem before the depression.
from what most of yall say on here...i cant see that yall wont pick it up damn near immediately
just like i am sure most of us would.
but i also think that most parents a are in tune with their kids and would be able to sense something waaaaaaay before they say something.
and if you are not in tune with your child.....thats another problem before the depression.
from what most of yall say on here...i cant see that yall wont pick it up damn near immediately
Remy_LeGermz
Location
Wanna know how my family reacted
A month later I was committed to a mental institution
A month later I was committed to a mental institution
Remy_LeGermz
Location
It's like the thing that happens to psychology students. Learning about mental illness leads you to self identify. It's even worse when met with individuals who have an undeveloped sense of self. They super identify with things that resemble something close to what they feel.
Added to that, most of us who grew up in harsher areas gained an understanding of how fucked life can be. But growing up in it, though it damaged us. Also instilled a harder shell for the ills of the world. You take the internet giving children access to a world they just see and dont experience. They become shell shocked and over sensitive, with thoughts, notions, and feelings that dont readily apply to their daily lives.
It's that sense to belong, a kid like XXX has depression and a drug problem. He speaks on problems with his upbringing. These kids identify with it, say I'm not entirely happy with my upbringing, I have sad days, I must be just as depressed as he is. They dont know that actually experiencing what he experienced is alot different than something that they believe is "like" what he experienced.
DOS_patos
Unverified Legion of Trill member
And that falls unto the parent educating their child and teaching them to think and feel for themselves.
The need to fit in is correct....a lot of us been there and that's why we should be able to see it in its infancy and take measures to prevent it.
I see too many parents out living their own lives or trying to keep a marriage together and not worried about the child or even overcompensating with things with no quality or meaning.
I was a very nosey parent. And I didn't care. Why should I, growing up in the hood showed me a lot. Why allow your child to be the cause or victim of fuck shit if you can prevent it?
Remy_LeGermz
Location
To start the year I did a goal book with my two oldest. I explained what goals where and how they are important to your self worth. I did short term goals and long term goals, so they can get an understanding that some things can be done now and some things take patience and work ethic.
My oldest said her long term this goal is to have a YouTube channel of her playing games. I said ok, but heres what you have to do for me to get the stuff u need for it. I want the game u YouTube about to be a game that isn't popular on YouTube. I want you to be able to understand the game throughly and be able to speak about it with clarity and knowledge.
I told her there is no point in doing something just to be like everyone else. If you are going to do something that alot of people are doing. Do it to stand out and and Express yourself. So even if you dont get alot of views. The people that view it, like it because they like how you are doing it. Not just cause they like what you are doing it about.
konceptjones
The one between three and three.
Lea
Active Member
Very cool
This is not funny but I laughed.