Over-Protected Parent/Being The Only One (Going Places)

mryounggun said:
Got it.

Not enough information. Too many variables. How well do I know these other parents? How well do I know these other children? Etc. Also, it would depend on how my daughter was. Not enough people know their own children. For various reason, my daughter may or may not be the type who I'd feel comfortable leaving in that situation, no matter how well I knew the parents and other kids.

Too many variables.
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Check out Example 2 that I asked DU about the camping trip.

But in the Example 1, it's cheer, many dads don't interact with other parents in regards to cheer, they show up, smile and take pictures and move around.

The moms are usually the spoke person per say, but let's just add some variables.

You don't know any of the parents, other than a few dads you would see at the football games or who your daughter may point out and say, "Oh that's Racheal's Dad over there and there's her mothers'

Still need more info?
 
Duwop said:
We got other plans
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Would you look at yourself as an over-protected parent? Being that you're not allowing your son to hang with his wresting buddies?

Would you allow your son to go to these trips if the friends were black? and the dads were Raven fans and you all would talk about ravens football at these matches?
 
Knock_Twice said:
Check out Example 2 that I asked DU about the camping trip.

But in the Example 1, it's cheer, many dads don't interact with other parents in regards to cheer, they show up, smile and take pictures and move around.

The moms are usually the spoke person per say, but let's just add some variables.

You don't know any of the parents, other than a few dads you would see at the football games or who your daughter may point out and say, "Oh that's Racheal's Dad over there and there's her mothers'

Still need more info?
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Got it.

Stopped reading example 2 after the first sentence. Lol. No.

As far as the added context to example 1, nah, she can't go.
 
Knock_Twice said:
Would you look at yourself as an over-protected parent? Being that you're not allowing your son to hang with his wresting buddies?

Would you allow your son to go to these trips if the friends were black? and the dads were Raven fans and you all would talk about ravens football at these matches?
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Bruh, I've never been on a hunting trip, my son has the situational awareness of a fucking koala bear. He not going on no damn hunting trip with seasoned hunters and he don't shit about that life.

It's not about being over protective, it's about self preservation.... Sometimes parents make decisions for kids, this is one of them.
 
And what the fuck do Ravens fans have to do with anything?

I actually hate talking about football with dudes. Shits annoying as fuck. That shit might make me even more hesitant.
 
mryounggun said:
Got it.

Stopped reading example 2 after the first sentence. Lol. No.

As far as the added context to example 1, nah, she can't go.
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She can't go, do you think that your daughter in that example will wonder why she can't go? Meaning, are you walking/programming her into the realm of her not trusting white folks? Again, she's the only black.

Will the parents of Emily or hell the other cheerleaders who are at the slumber party have these thoughts about why your daughter didn't show up? Making them see how truly of a friend your daughter is, because of her parent's views?

Now your daughter may be ostracized from attending the cheer sleep over?

I'm low-key shooting the shits with you and du and others in this thread, but is what I'm saying far-fetched from reality?
 
Duwop said:
Bruh, I've never been on a hunting trip, my son has the situational awareness of a fucking koala bear. He not going on no damn hunting trip with seasoned hunters and he don't shit about that life.

It's not about being over protective, it's about self preservation.... Sometimes parents make decisions for kids, this is one of them.
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Not hunting, I was speaking more on some camp life, fishing, eating smores and shit, with his friends, out by the lake, doing the trails around the cabin wooded area.
 
Duwop said:
And what the fuck do Ravens fans have to do with anything?

I actually hate talking about football with dudes. Shits annoying as fuck. That shit might make me even more hesitant.
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I added that part in, to cast the somewhat connection that may be established over conversation about football, not you, but when dudes talk about football, routes to work, rap music, it's sort of like feeling that other man out in a sense, or at least with me.

Oh this nigga hate the Saints GM moves, at least I know he's functional etc, not to say that the dude/man can be on the spectrum but to say that some type of light bond amongst men is established.
 
Duwop said:
You always use horrible examples..... Like 10 times outta 10 it's completely ridiculous
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Not sure what's horrible about my example. Are you saying that the examples that I have used, the 2 in this thread couldn't happened in real life because they're horrible?

I bet you, my examples happens more often than what you know
 
RandomOne said:
16 year old around college students is just asking for problems that I wouldn't want as a parent

Drop it to a high school football game and I'd say yes lol
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Lol,

I get it. Would you be considered an over-protected parent, If your daughter told you this, how would you feel?

Would you let her go to the skating ring with her friends that's in the blackest part of town with her 3 to 4 black friends?

After this question, I don't have any more.
 
I was an outside kid but I can't stomach that shit. My nephew not going outside if he's staying with me (my sister lets him bike ride in his area) and when my daughter is old enough she not going outside unattended till she a mid teen lol. Sorry. The plan is to go with the sheltered but well traveled and socialized experience.

Had a talk with my nephew (12) about being alone or being the only black person in a group of people that aren't black especially with this Nolan wells stuff going on. He says he doesnt talk to any white kids outside of school besides his godbrothers and sister, he only has 3 black friends (told him not to let them get him in any shit either) he hangs out with outside of school and the indian kid across the street from his house.
I actually met the Indian kid and his parents they brought us dinner one night when I was house sitting and watching my nephew while my sister was out of town for work so they cool in my book but still I told him be wary. Only white people and kids he can be around like that is my girl and his godmother who I've known since I was his age. She my sisters best friend, had a fucked up home and lived with us through high-school. Ive changed her kids diapers so she super valid. She's family.

I will have the same talks with my daughter when the time comes.

There will be no sleepovers unless its at my home and me and my family can supervise.

I went from living in a predominantly black area till I was 14-15 to living in a predominantly white upper middle class - lower upper class area from 15 to 21 so I've definitely had some experiences being the only black kid in the group.
 
Knock_Twice said:
I added that part in, to cast the somewhat connection that may be established over conversation about football, not you, but when dudes talk about football, routes to work, rap music, it's sort of like feeling that other man out in a sense, or at least with me.

Oh this nigga hate the Saints GM moves, at least I know he's functional etc, not to say that the dude/man can be on the spectrum but to say that some type of light bond amongst men is established.
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Yeah, that just seems obnoxious to me. Dudes be getting too hyped talking about football. I don't bond over shit like that
 
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