Over-Protected Parent/Being The Only One (Going Places)

Knock_Twice

Knock_Twice

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Would you allow your kid or kids to go over to their friend's house and spend the night? vs being an over-protected parent.

This is pretty much the base question.

Edit, I added to the topic, I feel like this would unfold into this sector of parenting etc etc.
 
Duwop said:
Depends on how well I know the host parents
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Give an example? What have the parents do to be a good host in your eyes?

Edit, I read that shit wrong lmao. You gotta know them. Gotcha.

Bet,

You have your daughter, she's on the cheer squad, the rest of the cheer squad are white, 10 in total on the squad, Emily, the captain a SR, is having a sleepover Friday night after the football game, the high school is playing their rivals, Eamily's parents Sarah and Conner have this setup for the girls after the game. They just think your daugther is a great joy and want her over there.

Are you letting your daughter go over there?
 
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In the barbershop getting a haircut, talking to the old heads, talking about the situation that happened to the Nolan kid, a couple of older dudes said that they only allowed their children to go stay with relatives, I said cool.

Then I asked, why they never allowed them to stay with their friends? One old school cat said that the parents grass never was cut lol, the other old school said that his wife didn't play that staying over shit, but they could stay with them.

I was like ok, that's fair.
 
RandomOne said:
Yes. I did that a lot as a kid
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You're white, (no shade) would you allow your kid to stay with a group of black kids,? What's your barometer and outlook on your children (if you have any) staying with the opposite race, black in this example?

Please be real. You usually do
 
Knock_Twice said:
You're white, (no shade) would you allow your kid to stay with a group of black kids,? What's your barometer and outlook on your children (if you have any) staying with the opposite race, black in this example?

Please be real. You usually do
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I had friends of different races and stayed over there houses and vice versa. Some of them had more stuff at their house than mine so I stayed over more

Like one of them had a PS1 and I didn't so I went over their house
 
Yes, my kid has had plenty of sleepovers at other people's house. But I'd say that 75% of the time, my house is the sleepover house, which I'm more comfortable with. Not that I'm uncomfortable with the opposite. There are just no unknown variables for me when he has his friends over at our house rather than him being at theirs.
 
Knock_Twice said:
Give an example? What have the parents do to be a good host in your eyes?
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My daughter can spend the night over the neighbors across the street. I've known the family since I was like 3. My daughter and my neighbors daughter are the same age and been best friends since they were like 3 or 4. She can stay over here whenever, my daughter can stay over there whenever.

My son had the same best friend since kindergarten. So like 10 years at this point. Their house is right around the corner. I have both the father and mother name saved in my phone. We have a parents group chat for when the boys hang out, and it's the same deal, their still can stay over here, our son can stay over there.

Outside of family, those the only two friends houses they have stayed the night at.

My son is getting older, turning 15 this week. But I still ain't for them hotel overnight parties. Just not yet. Maybe next year. Cuz I guess trust that it's not going to be co-ed and it's gotta be responsible adults who communicate openly. If I sense any kinda bullshit.... It's a no.


But I do let him go on overnight school and sports related shit. He went on a black college tour that was for a couple of days. He's been on out of town wrestling tournaments a few times. But again, I have the contact information for all the responsible adults involved.
 
mryounggun said:
Yes, my kid has had plenty of sleepovers at other people's house. But I'd say that 75% of the time, my house is the sleepover house, which I'm more comfortable with. Not that I'm uncomfortable with the opposite. There are just no unknown variables for me when he has his friends over at our house rather than him being at theirs.
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I gave DU and example, how would you feel if your daughter or son were in this situation?
 
Knock_Twice said:
Give an example? What have the parents do to be a good host in your eyes?

Edit, I read that shit wrong lmao. You gotta know them. Gotcha.

Bet,

You have your daughter, she's on the cheer squad, the rest of the cheer squad are white, 10 in total on the squad, Emily, the captain a SR, is having a sleepover Friday night after the football game, the high school is playing their rivals, Eamily's parents Sarah and Conner have this setup for the girls after the game. They just think your daugther is a great joy and want her over there.

Are you letting your daughter go over there?
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My daughter would never be on an all white cheer squad in high school. I specifically engineered my life and my children's life so that we're not in those kind of situations. So this is a decision I would never have to make.

My daughter does dance with my sister's dance company. If her dance company did anything overnight, as long as my sister is there, my daughter can go, but she's not staying at some people's house I don't know, white or black.
 
Duwop said:
My daughter can spend the night over the neighbors across the street. I've known the family since I was like 3. My daughter and my neighbors daughter are the same age and been best friends since they were like 3 or 4. She can stay over here whenever, my daughter can stay over there whenever.

My son had the same best friend since kindergarten. So like 10 years at this point. Their house is right around the corner. I have both the father and mother name saved in my phone. We have a parents group chat for when the boys hang out, and it's the same deal, their still can stay over here, our son can stay over there.

Outside of family, those the only two friends houses they have stayed the night at.

My son is getting older, turning 15 this week. But I still ain't for them hotel overnight parties. Just not yet. Maybe next year. Cuz I guess trust that it's not going to be co-ed and it's gotta be responsible adults who communicate openly. If I sense any kinda bullshit.... It's a no.


But I do let him go on overnight school and sports related shit. He went on a black college tour that was for a couple of days. He's been on out of town wrestling tournaments a few times. But again, I have the contact information for all the responsible adults involved.
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If your son befriends 2 white wrestling buds, or they befriend him, throughout the season, End of the season, one of the friends invites your son to Denver, to go camping. This dude's family has a time share or cabin, this is a yearly thing for them, the other friend has gone too, and will be going. The friend, let's call him Blake, cousins will be there, (your son doesn't know the cousins, 2 of them) along with Friend number two, let's call him Adam, again Adam has gone on these trips,

Your son comes home and tells you about this trip, hell, Blake's Dad (who you've talking too during matches, shot the shits with him at these tournaments) has called you and told you about the trip for "The Boys" as he would say in conversation "yea we just going to take "The boys" up to the camp ground lol. some shit like that

How's your view on that?
 
Knock_Twice said:
I gave DU and example, how would you feel if your daughter or son were in this situation?
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Got it.

Not enough information. Too many variables. How well do I know these other parents? How well do I know these other children? Etc. Also, it would depend on how my daughter was. Not enough people know their own children. For various reason, my daughter may or may not be the type who I'd feel comfortable leaving in that situation, no matter how well I knew the parents and other kids.

Too many variables.
 
Knock_Twice said:
If your son befriends 2 white wrestling buds, or they befriend him, throughout the season, End of the season, one of the friends invites your son to Denver, to go camping. This dude's family has a time share or cabin, this is a yearly thing for them, the other friend has gone too, and will be going. The friend, let's call him Blake, cousins will be there, (your son doesn't know the cousins, 2 of them) along with Friend number two, let's call him Adam, again Adam has gone on these trips,

Your son comes home and tells you about this trip, hell, Blake's Dad (who you've talking too during matches, shot the shits with him at these tournaments) has called you and told you about the trip for "The Boys" as he would say in conversation "yea we just going to take "The boys" up to the camp ground lol. some shit like that

How's your view on that?
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No
 
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