oh no prob bI'm hanging in there. I appreciate you asking.
i could've easily been where you are now so i can definitely relate
oh no prob bI'm hanging in there. I appreciate you asking.
Yeah. Just lost one yesterday because of this.
I think the only way to be on with it is to truly do things from the heart and not expect shit back. It fucking sucks but I think that's the only way not to get disappointed.
this nigga is my mental twin LMAOProblem is my deep down my heart has never wanted to do that shit. And I don’t wanna hear no FB meme bullshit like “you’ll want to do it for the right person.” I been debunked that.
I was asked once "what makes you happy" and I legit couldnt answer that shit without sounding selfish
Facts.. That shit sounds good but its human nature to be selfish.. And I feel the only way for a relationship to be truly successful is to be completely unselfish. and thats not realistic. Why should I put your feelings before mine and you're not doing the same? I try my best in my current situation but shit is a struggle.. But I honestly think Monogamy is just not in the cards for you fam lol.. and thats okProblem is my deep down my heart has never wanted to do that shit. And I don’t wanna hear no FB meme bullshit like “you’ll want to do it for the right person.” I been debunked that.
All this goes back to me feeling marriage or a "forever" type relationship is just trash.
I love the idea of dating a chick for as long as it lasts, wether its 6 months or 2 years, and when shit runs its course, we both move on to other people.
I been doing that all my life and enjoy it way more than the thought that I got to try hard as hell to make one relationship work. That shit is garbage to me.
One of my character flaws is that I come across as not caring.
If I get jealous, I dont show it. I could be in love, but I supposedly dont express it enough. And other small things. All that adds on to me supposedly not caring.
In my mind though, I care a whole lot.
So many of my relationships died because of this.
I'm with you fellas. I kinda touched on it in the birthday thread.
Ladies expect the world and and rarely match that energy.
I think the only way to be on with it is to truly do things from the heart and not expect shit back. It fucking sucks but I think that's the only way not to get disappointed.
Yeah, see now we're poddin'!
I've heard this my fair share of times also. But pretty much every time, it's based on my behavior during disagreements. I'm not a yeller. I don't raise mu voice. I don't get out of character. And I move based on logic. And we all know how that goes over. And beyond that, I'm not a chaser and I FORCE everybody to make their own decisions. So when anytime my girl might be acting out or whatever and she say some off the wall shit, my reply is always some version of 'I love you dearly and that's not how I'd like this to go. But you do whatever it is that you think is best.'.
You have two choices: Control your emotions or allow them to control you.
That's an easy choice for me.
Im the same way fam. I never yell. I dont argue or nothing. I tell my girl what I want and its her choice to make decisions based on that.
But im like this in every aspect of life, not just relationships.
If im going through something, I just withdraw to within myself and lay low for a few days just thinking bout shit/feeling it out.
Now apply that to a relationship. Lmao. Someshit happened, and instead of talking about or reacting right away, im just chilling and acting distant. I dont even gotta tell you how she reacts.
I agree and that is reciprocity.It's more complicated than that. You're right, that is the ONLY way to do it. I do shot for my girl because I love her and because I want her well-taken care of. If I did it based on any reasonable expectation of reciprocation, I would've BEEN stopped doing the things I do, because they haven't been reciprocated for a long time so at this point I know the deal.
But its not about reciprocation of actions...'I did this for you so you do this for me!'.
Na. That's silly. You shouldn't expect for your partner to reciprocate all your noble actions. But it's reasonable for your partner to care about how you feel about the topic and to hold you down, especially when you only ask them to hold you down once in a blue moon.
I agree and that is reciprocity.
I dont think anyone on here is looking for equal. I just want our efforts to be recognized, and to be rewarded from time to time.
Also, most people show love in the manner in which they like to receive it. So it would be nice to get held down from time to time.
its mad wild how just in two pages, i'm finding we have WAY more in common than i initially thought
some of ya'll are speaking my thoughts verbatim
Word. The youth is wasted on the young.Years after we broke up, me and my son's mom realized this was our issue all along. It's amazing the things you DON'T think to even consider when you're in your 20s and shit. Looking back at it, shit is super clear.