Good or Bad Parenting: "If Someone Hits You, Hit Them Back"

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Why is this faggot here
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I’m confused.

What’s wrong with telling your kids to hit somebody that hit them first?

As long as your kid ain’t out there starting trouble and bullying people.
 
Allah_U_Akbar said:
I’m confused.

What’s wrong with telling your kids to hit somebody that hit them first?

As long as your kid ain’t out there starting trouble and bullying people.
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Teaching your child conflict resolution is much more helpful for them than retaliation.

Retaliation can often do more to hurt them than the skill of assessing the situation and finding a peaceful outcome when possible. But complete refusal to acknowledge that it's even an option makes this a very difficult topic to get many people to even entertain.

So I'm done here. Teach your kids to always get their lick back. I'm sure it'll continue to work out for you.
 
Duwop said:
Teaching your child conflict resolution is much more helpful for them than retaliation.

Retaliation can often do more to hurt them than the skill of assessing the situation and finding a peaceful outcome when possible. But complete refusal to acknowledge that it's even an option makes this a very difficult topic to get many people to even entertain.

So I'm done here. Teach your kids to always get their lick back. I'm sure it'll continue to work out for you.
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Get your lick back and defending yourself is no where near the same thing

You know that
 
Yall underestimate kids comprehension too much for me.

Yall hand out passes too much for me sometimes when it comes to kids
 
Dwayne said:
Yea they do.

It’s called parenting.
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Parenting to me is teaching conflict resolution and not retaliation. A child knows to defend themselves. But saying to them

"Hit them back" will always be translated as retaliation to them. Cuz it's just how their minds work.

They will literally go to school and say "my dad said it's okay to hit you back" and crack them right in the face unprovoked.

But this topic tires me, and I know you'll double down. So I'm checking out. You got it
 
Dwayne said:
Yall underestimate kids comprehension too much for me.

Yall hand out passes too much for me sometimes when it comes to kids
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Kids do get underestimated...but part of knowing how to react comes with life experience they don't have. So they may understand the concept of something but not exactly how to apply it to practical use.
 
  1. If you haven't been hit...practice restraint, diplomacy, conflict resolution...etc
  2. They hit you first...you have the right to defend yourself
  3. ...And more importantly....know all of the potential consequences of step 1 and 2 and factor that into how you handle the situation

My mom taught me that if someone hits you, you hit them back. She also told me at a young age that someone would kill me if I didn't get my temper under control. Conflicting advice perhaps, but I understood what she meant. I've always been a chill person who doesn't start shit, but I'd go scorched earth if someone fucked w/ me or my family. This brings to mind an old Breakfast Club interview where they were debating a situation where somebody got attacked and their response was to shoot and kill the person who attacked them. They argued that the response was excessive....killing somebody who punched you. At the time I agreed...yeah that's probably excessive. However, Charlamagne said something that resonated with me.......you can't control how someone responds to what you do to them. And he is right. While that wouldn't be my response, there are plenty of people in the world who take things to extremes. Ideally, someone hits you, y'all shoot the fair one, there's a winner/loser and y'all live to fight another day. In reality, you hit someone and they might shoot/stab/etc you in response. On the other side of that, a person starts a fight with you, you don't defend yourself....you could still die from getting beat up badly enough....hit in the wrong spot...etc. Hell...I've read 2-3 stories just this year where kids died from the injuries from getting beat up. At the end of the day, I teach my kids to keep their hands to themselves and don't start shit....however, defend yourself if someone attacks you and always remember #3.
 
Duwop said:
Parenting to me is teaching conflict resolution and not retaliation. A child knows to defend themselves. But saying to them

"Hit them back" will always be translated as retaliation to them. Cuz it's just how their minds work.

They will literally go to school and say "my dad said it's okay to hit you back" and crack them right in the face unprovoked.

But this topic tires me, and I know you'll double down. So I'm checking out. You got it
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Again.

Defending and retaliation are not mutually exclusive
 
Her kid is the bully and got got...no one shoukd be subjected to bullying

And being made to turn the other check
The whole notion of non violence in the face of violence runs counter to common sense and society in general..
 
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