I've given up on people changing.
Like them waking up and start doing the things that I think will benefit them.
A lot of time and energy can be wasted trying to help someone to finally "get it" so that they can get their shit together.....
And more often than anything,, they always end up doing whatever the fuck it is that they like doing
I've come to realize that largely people don't change.... They just settle more and more into the person that they are always showing you that they really are....
People aren't who you want then to be,, they are who they are....
It took me a while to understand that.
But now that I do, it makes life much easier. I just leave people to their devices. I might offer an opinion here n there. And if they do something that effects me, I'll tell them about themselves.
But I've given up on trying to change people. They are who they are. Just accept them for it or don't.
It is what it is