Elementary school bans dating after 5th graders all date each other

[VIBE]

5th graders banned from dating at Indiana school

JEFFERSONVILLE, Ind. (WFLA/CNN) – An Indiana elementary school are responding to concerns after a letter was sent home to fifth graders’ parents about a “zero dating policy.”

Dear Parents,
It has come to our attention that many of the fifth grade students are dating each other.

This is the age that students become interested and develop crushes, but this is also the age that hearts can get broken quickly.

At this age, children are dating and breaking up within days of each other. This leads to many broken hearts, which carry over into the classroom.

To combat students having broken hearts, we have implemented a zero dating policy. We are still encouraging our fifth graders to have many friends and to develop strong friendships.

All three classes have been spoken to about the importance of this matter. They were given Tuesday and Wednesday to make sure that relationships have ended.

Again, we are encouraging strong friendships. Students can still play together at recess, be in groups during classroom activities, and many other situations. We are truly just attempting to lessen the amount of broken hearts.

“They’re worried about the heartbreak, but what about the anxiety that comes with that?” one parent said.

However, some parents agree with the school.
“First of all, that shouldn’t even be going on in school,” Pam Smith said.

“Sending a letter home is probably letting the parents know that there is some things going on at school that shouldn’t be. So yeah, sending a letter home is probably a good thing.”

Greater Clark County Schools officials said of the 75 fifth graders at Riverside Elementary, two parents voiced their concerns about the letter.

A spokesperson for the district said the school is no longer encouraging or forcing students to end relationships. Greater Clark County Schools and Riverside Elementary released the following statement.

A letter went home yesterday informing parents about the recent heightened issues with fifth grade students being focused on dating relationships. We have received feedback that some parents were concerned about the wording of the letter. The letter was composed by a team of fifth grade teachers and sent home with students.

It was not reviewed by the building principal, or district officials.
“The intentions of our teachers were to protect student feelings, encourage developmentally appropriate friendships, and protect instructional time. In retrospect, the phrases, “zero dating policy” and the request to take Tuesday and Wednesday to “end” relationships misrepresented the intentions of the teachers. While the team of teachers were trying to protect students, the wording is what caused alarm.

 

[🌊City]

Damn right

School need to change they lesson plan if students got time to date

 

[mryounggun]

Indiana elementary school reverses 'zero dating policy' after parents express concerns:

An Indiana elementary school reversed a fifth-grade “zero dating policy” Thursday after some parents expressed concern over the school regulating their children's relationships.

Earlier in the week, Riverside Elementary School in Jeffersonville, Ind., sent a letter home that said, “At this age, children are dating and breaking up within days of each other," according to Fox 59 in Indianapolis. "This leads to many broken hearts, which carry over into the classroom.”



The letter stated that the students had until Wednesday to “make sure that relationships have ended" and asked parents to sign the letter and return it with their child to the school.

Parent Briana Bower posted the letter on her Facebook page.

“The school has no right to pressure my child & put a DEADLINE on when he ‘has to’ end his relationship,” she wrote in the post. “That’s MY child & I will not enforce this new rule of theirs. As long as he’s not holding her hand or whatever at school it’s none of their business who he calls his girlfriend.”

She said her 10-year-old son has a girlfriend who is his best friend and they spend time together after school.

“No, they’re not romantic together, they’re too young. However, they talk every day,” she told Fox 59.

In their clarification, the school said a group of fifth-grade teachers wrote the letter with the intention of protecting students’ feelings, encouraging developmentally appropriate relationships and avoiding distractions during class time.

“In retrospect, the phrases, ‘zero dating policy’ and the request to take Tuesday and Wednesday to ‘end’ relationships misrepresented the intentions of the teachers," the school said, according to WDRB. "While the team of teachers were trying to protect students, the wording is what caused alarm.”

The school said the letter had not been reviewed by the principal or district officials.

Bower wrote on Facebook that she has never had a problem with the school before.

"I just think boundaries were crossed with telling my child he had to end his relationship by a certain date without addressing anything with me first," she wrote.

 

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beat all they ass

staff, kids, the lunch lady

 

[🌊City]

Indiana elementary school reverses 'zero dating policy' after parents express concerns:

An Indiana elementary school reversed a fifth-grade “zero dating policy” Thursday after some parents expressed concern over the school regulating their children's relationships.

Earlier in the week, Riverside Elementary School in Jeffersonville, Ind., sent a letter home that said, “At this age, children are dating and breaking up within days of each other," according to Fox 59 in Indianapolis. "This leads to many broken hearts, which carry over into the classroom.”



The letter stated that the students had until Wednesday to “make sure that relationships have ended" and asked parents to sign the letter and return it with their child to the school.

Parent Briana Bower posted the letter on her Facebook page.

“The school has no right to pressure my child & put a DEADLINE on when he ‘has to’ end his relationship,” she wrote in the post. “That’s MY child & I will not enforce this new rule of theirs. As long as he’s not holding her hand or whatever at school it’s none of their business who he calls his girlfriend.”

She said her 10-year-old son has a girlfriend who is his best friend and they spend time together after school.

“No, they’re not romantic together, they’re too young. However, they talk every day,” she told Fox 59.

In their clarification, the school said a group of fifth-grade teachers wrote the letter with the intention of protecting students’ feelings, encouraging developmentally appropriate relationships and avoiding distractions during class time.

“In retrospect, the phrases, ‘zero dating policy’ and the request to take Tuesday and Wednesday to ‘end’ relationships misrepresented the intentions of the teachers," the school said, according to WDRB. "While the team of teachers were trying to protect students, the wording is what caused alarm.”

The school said the letter had not been reviewed by the principal or district officials.

Bower wrote on Facebook that she has never had a problem with the school before.

"I just think boundaries were crossed with telling my child he had to end his relationship by a certain date without addressing anything with me first," she wrote.

Gonna blame rap when her son is a father at 16

 

[mryounggun]

Gonna blame rap when her son is a father at 16

Na. I'd have right there with the other parents telling them to suck my entire dick.

 

[VIBE]

Parents upset their 10yr olds can’t date smh

 

[🌊City]

Na. I'd have right there with the other parents telling them to suck my entire dick.

Then you'd be a weirdo

If kids 'dating' has become such a problem and distraction that the school has to intervene then I say good for the school. Send home a letter and hopefully you talk to ya child before coming up there trying to get ya dick wet

I bet 95% of them parents ain't even know they kid was 'dating'

 

[VIBE]

I was in third grade opening milk cartons for girls, kissing this girl behind a tree and trading my Jurassic Park toys to boys in exchange for their gf... I already know that 5th graders are about to do more than that.

 

[mryounggun]

Then you'd be a weirdo

If kids 'dating' has become such a problem and distraction that the school has to intervene then I say good for the school. Send home a letter and hopefully you talk to ya child before coming up there trying to get ya dick wet

I bet 95% of them parents ain't even know they kid was 'dating'

And I'd bet 95% of those parents DID know their kid was 'dating'. Bro you act like dating for a 10 year old means hopping in the Monte Carlo, driving over to his girls house, sparking a blunt and then going to Applebee's. 'Dating' for 10 year olds means talking in school, passing notes, saying 'That's my girl, bro!', then doing it all over again with another girl months later when you're first girl forgets to pack an extra capri sun in her lunch for you.

It's shocking to me that so many people are ok with a school overreaching like this.

Couldn't be me. To each his own, though.

 

[Dwayne]

Lmao at telling a kid not to like somebody.










Are they trying to suppress that natural urges though?

 

[mryounggun]

Lmao at telling a kid not to like somebody.

Are they trying to suppress that natural urges though?

Deadass. They gotta get all the fuck outta here with that shit. How you mad at a little kid about about to enter puberty having a little fake boyfriend or girlfriend. It's parent's job to police that. Not schools. Every other school in America can ensure that this type of shit doesn't affect the classroom too much, this school better figure that shit out to. Fuck outta here.

Y'all don't seem to understand the concept of 'slippery slope'.

 

[Loquacious]

And I'd bet 95% of those parents DID know their kid was 'dating'. Bro you act like dating for a 10 year old means hopping in the Monte Carlo, driving over to his girls house, sparking a blunt and then going to Applebee's. 'Dating' for 10 year olds means talking in school, passing notes, saying 'That's my girl, bro!', then doing it all over again with another girl months later when you're first girl forgets to pack an extra capri sun in her lunch for you.

It's shocking to me that so many people are ok with a school overreaching like this.

Couldn't be me. To each his own, though.

Disagree.

Fifth graders are having sex. I know this as a fact.

edit: Some fifth graders are having sex.

 

[mryounggun]

Disagree.

Fifth graders are having sex. I know this as a fact.

edit: Some fifth graders are having sex.

We also gotta stop with the alarmist shit. You and I BOTH know that the VAST majority of 5th graders ain't fucking. Let's be honest for a second. Seriously. So because a handful of 5th graders are having sex, you think it's ok for a SCHOOL to tell children to not 'date'?

If so, explain to me why, please.

 

[🌊City]

And I'd bet 95% of those parents DID know their kid was 'dating'. Bro you act like dating for a 10 year old means hopping in the Monte Carlo, driving over to his girls house, sparking a blunt and then going to Applebee's. 'Dating' for 10 year olds means talking in school, passing notes, saying 'That's my girl, bro!', then doing it all over again with another girl months later when you're first girl forgets to pack an extra capri sun in her lunch for you.

It's shocking to me that so many people are ok with a school overreaching like this.

Couldn't be me. To each his own, though.

Granted I'm guessing here, but I believe if it was as simple as this the school wouldnt have had such a reaction

We all 'dated' at that age and it never interfered with or stopped us from doing school work. From what yall posted, that's the teachers biggest problem.

I tell my 7th grader, who comes home ALL the time with some messy school gossip, kids are emulating these TV shows earlier and earlier now. LAHH, RHWO, KUWTK, etc, they think this is how real life goes so of course its gonna spill over into the school system. Bet they fighting and getting handsy, sexting, and all type of debauchery

 

[Loquacious]

We also gotta stop with the alarmist shit. You and I BOTH know that the VAST majority of 5th graders ain't fucking. Let's be honest for a second. Seriously. So because a handful of 5th graders are having sex, you think it's ok for a SCHOOL to tell children to not 'date'?

If so, explain to me why, please.

We actually don’t know if the VAST majority of 5th graders aren’t having sex.
I don’t think the school should tell kids they’re not allowed to date but as a teacher, I agree that school isn’t for all that. Children these days aren’t like how we were when we were younger. I worked with 5th grade and have seen how that bf/gf stuff has distracted even the best students. It’s more than just being claimed as such, they are affected by the slightest thing and it in turns affect their studies.

If it is causing a huge raft in their school, you should applaud the school for trying to come up with some type of plan to get the students focused on academics. It may not be one you agree with but it shows they care or they would’ve let it continue to spiral out of control. Then the parents would have been mad about that. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

 

[mryounggun]

Granted I'm guessing here, but I believe if it was as simple as this the school wouldnt have had such a reaction

We all 'dated' at that age and it never interfered with or stopped us from doing school work. From what yall posted, that's the teachers biggest problem.

I tell my 7th grader, who comes home ALL the time with some messy school gossip, kids are emulating these TV shows earlier and earlier now. LAHH, RHWO, KUWTK, etc, they think this is how real life goes so of course its gonna spill over into the school system. Bet they fighting and getting handsy, sexting, and all type of debauchery

Re: The bolded - Why are you talking about what your daughter in 7th grade is doing? 7th grade ain't 5th grade. When you're an adult, 2 years doesn't mean shit, in terms of your physical, emotional, mental, and cognitive growth. Those same 2 years for a kid are HUGE.

My kid is in 5th grade. All he comes home talking about ever is shit about him and his friends trading Pokemon cards and shit, how he forgot him daily planner at school, etc, etc. There's little shit here and there about girls and how his lil homie got a girlfriend now and whatnot. And he's in class with 3 different ages of kids! I imagine the conversion will change a lot when he's in 7th grade.

Like you said, we all 'dated' at that age and it never interfered with shit. But if it did, you think out schools would've been like 'Man, we gotta send a letter how forbidding the kids from 'dating'? Na. they would've told the individual parents 'Your kid is fucking up because Stacey broke his lil baby heart. Talk to that lil nigga at home about this bullshit so he can stop throwing paper and shit at the back of her head in home ec!'

 

[AP4.0]

mryoungun, and im just asking. but you cool with children "dating" at this age?

 

[Loquacious]

Just because your son talking about Pokémon don’t mean all the kids are. My son a little nerd too.
But on the opposite end, his friends making twerk videos on musically, dedicating it to “my nigga!”.

This is 5th grade!

 

[mryounggun]

We actually don’t know if the VAST majority of 5th graders aren’t having sex.
I don’t think the school should tell kids they’re not allowed to date but as a teacher, I agree that school isn’t for all that. Children these days aren’t like how we were when we were younger. I worked with 5th grade and have seen how that bf/gf stuff has distracted even the best students. It’s more than just being claimed as such, they are affected by the slightest thing and it in turns affect their studies.

If it is causing a huge raft in their school, you should applaud the school for trying to come up with some type of plan to get the students focused on academics. It may not be one you agree with but it shows they care or they would’ve let it continue to spiral out of control. Then the parents would have been mad about that. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

That's it. Full stop. The end.

I dunno what you're arguing, honestly. Sounds like we are saying the same thing. There is a way to combat anything. This ain't the way to do it. I'm gad you agree.